The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is like a stepmother!

Speaking of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I wouldn't have understood it ten years ago. Why is it difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along? What happened? I treat her as my own mother, but she treats me as her own daughter. It's easy for each other!

Before I got married, my mother-in-law was really kind to me. Every day, Bao jiaozi asked her husband to send her to my workplace. Afraid of jiaozi getting cold, I wrapped a towel on the left and right floor outside the lunch box. When I quarreled with my husband and said goodbye, I remember crying and saying that I didn't want to be separated from my aunt. I don't know what I said, but I really think so. My parents were not around when my mother-in-law was working outside, although my aunt cleaned it up.

Later, I married my husband, because my husband's family was very kind to me, and my parents just wanted me to be happy. Without a bride price, my mother-in-law bought a small room of 60 square meters and got married after renovation.

The first time I was unhappy was at the wedding. My husband's mother has a friend who is very cunning and talks in a strange way. She even said a lot of things that she didn't like me in front of me, saying that my husband was so excellent. The implication is that I am a little unworthy of my husband. Of course, I didn't show it on the surface when she said it, but I was already annoyed inside. She also told her husband to ignore her and come to us in the future.

As a result, I waited for the wedding procession at home, and it was her who appeared with my husband. Sure enough, she did something wrong. From the moment my brothers and sisters blocked the door, they began to say, hurry up, time is tight, get started quickly and forget about those things. At that time, my parents didn't hear me outside because I was in a bad mood when I got married and didn't want them to hear me. After all, the people I choose don't want them to worry about this when I first got married.

Then I gave a red envelope to the younger generation, and I brought pot after pot back. Hehe, I sent less than ten. Anyway, all kinds of spoilers, and then the wedding host can't watch it anymore. I also saw that I was on the verge of a crisis and invited her outside. When I went to find the key, I kept saying, come on, come on, don't mess up those useless things. When my husband carried me to the car, she was still saying that I was really bored to the extreme. I really couldn't control my temper after getting on the bus. I told my husband, what happened to your mother? I only asked it at my wedding. Why can't I do it? My husband said he didn't know what was going on. Maybe aunt has to come, so anyway. I can't help it I can only say.

As a result, my family arranged the last table at the wedding, and I couldn't see the wedding at all. Then my mother-in-law told me that it was arranged by the wedding planning, and they didn't know what to do. No wedding planner. Is the planner not my husband's uncle, or is he invited from outside? It was really hard at the time. My parents saw my feelings and told me that getting married was a big deal. There must be something I can't do. It doesn't matter. Now that I am married, I will be fine. Don't be picky. I was a little angry at that time, but I simply thought that, as my mother said, I might have overlooked these things. I didn't tell my mother-in-law about it afterwards. Of course, my mother-in-law also saw my dissatisfaction.

To be exact, after the wedding, my mother-in-law and I had a cold war. It was not until we returned to the door that she called her husband and told him to get something at the door. My husband and I went to get it, and we were polite all the way. Then we went directly to our mother's house with her husband. After coming back, we are going to travel. When I say I want to go to my mother-in-law's house, I have to let the old man know the way. My husband said there was no need to go, and that there wouldn't be so many fucking things.

So before I left, I went to my mother-in-law's house, and her mother-in-law didn't show up much. She asked me if I was going to get married or something, so I told her about the wedding. Then she said that she didn't arrange it, but the man went by himself. Then she did wrap a pot of red envelopes and asked someone to help her wrap them, but it was useless. Then she said to me, if you feel uncomfortable, you can't just look at how many children there are. Just like my mother-in-law said.

In the meantime, nothing happened. I went to work, and my husband also went to work, and they lived in peace until I got pregnant. Because I am pregnant, I have to stay at home. It took my little family about ten minutes to take a taxi from my mother-in-law's house. At that time, there was no car and no bus to her home. Because we didn't ask for a bride price when we got married, and my husband and I didn't have much money, we could still live. So I always walk to my mother-in-law's house with my husband.

I was already four or five months pregnant. Because I couldn't stay any longer, I got a small pavement. I go to see it every day. I felt a little sick that day and stayed at home. Then I took a phone call and said who my sister-in-law was. I'm back. Why don't you always stay at home and do something? Come and help my mother. She's old, too. Now that you are married, there is nothing to help my mother. I appreciate it. My sister-in-law is back? I never saw this man when I got married. I just heard from my mother-in-law how she got up like this. Then I put down the phone, called my husband and asked him what was going on. He said he didn't know what was going on. No one told her that his sister was back. He asked me to wait for him at home and go with him after work. I've thought about it, so I'd better go first. I got up, got dressed, put my bag on my back and went to my mother-in-law's house, because I just got married. One of them is going to exercise. When I arrived at my mother-in-law's house, she knocked at the door and opened it. She is very enthusiastic. When I entered the house, I saw my husband's sister for the first time, sitting on the sofa, smiling without moving, and said, "Here I am. My mother-in-law introduced her daughter to her, and then introduced her sister to me. Her sister's class began before I could speak. " I am not at home often, so you should take good care of my parents. During this time, my mother-in-law sat on the side and didn't talk. I am really angry to death. Then I also went back rudely. I'm leaving after the visit. At this time, my mother-in-law grabbed me and said not to be like her. She said this, and then her husband came back early and talked about her sister. The two of them are so quarrelsome that I .. I don't want to rush back to our house after having a meal because of my family conflict. Until I left, my sister-in-law was still saying some annoying things behind us. I dragged my husband home, but my heart was still not calm. What happened? I didn't provoke her. How did I meet her? I didn't show up until she left, and I don't want to have a meaningless argument with her. Even if you are right, you won't boss around your newly met sister-in-law, will you?

After she left, she calmed down a lot. My mother-in-law sometimes buys me fruit to eat and sends it to my home to exercise with me and walk with me. That's how my mother-in-law and I can really feel like our mother and daughter, but then I understand a lot of things. My mother-in-law will never be a real mother.

I realized that it was the time when I gave birth. I have to have a checkup. The doctor said that the baby was too old and could only be delivered by caesarean section in June, which was very suitable for birth. So I called my mother in a hurry to ask my husband to go back and get something, and then my mother-in-law asked someone to see when it was better to give birth. The old man believed this, and it is better to give birth at 9: 00/1. I don't care. I don't believe it. But there's no harm, so be it. When I was ready, my husband and mother didn't arrive, only my mother-in-law was there. Then her mother-in-law didn't even say anything to comfort me, but kept telling the doctor that she must ensure the safety of the child and give birth in time. In a word, I said everything about the child, but I didn't care. I went into the operating room, experienced anesthesia, and the child was born. I left the operating room 40 minutes after the baby was born because of massive bleeding. During this period, only my mother and husband have been waiting outside the operating room, because my mother-in-law and father-in-law have taken the children to the ward after the children went out. When I saw my mother when I left the operating room, I was so wronged that my tears kept flowing. My mother grabbed my hand and her eyes were red. Husband also said, it's okay, don't cry, it's all over. We'll never have children again.

At that time, I felt for the first time that I was not the daughter of my mother-in-law, and I could never be in her heart, I understand. No blood relationship!

Then the next month, because I got angry and had no milk, my mother-in-law really tried her best to give me a lot of remedies, but it still didn't work. I was depressed the next month, and now I feel a little scary. At that time, it might be called postpartum depression. I didn't understand at that time, and I was in a bad mood. My children always have a stomachache and cry when they go to school. Later, I learned that it was because I ate cold food during pregnancy, and now it is really irresponsible. But I didn't know what was going on at that time, which made me even more angry. In the second month, my mother-in-law was also very kind to me, but she didn't understand my mood. Because of caesarean section, my contractions will be very painful, and it really hurts to the extreme. I jumped and cried. My mother-in-law sat there and said what you were crying about and how painful it was. My husband said she was crying. You said how painful it would be. Why don't you go home?

My mother-in-law comes once in a while because of her unstable mentality, and sometimes she leads other people I don't know to see the children. Fortunately, after the child went to the hospital with a stomachache, little ass was flooded, and all kinds of hurry-scurry, and finally got out of the month safely.

Then I went back to my mother's house. The milk was insufficient and I held back the fire in the second month. The doctor said that giving the baby fire milk not only had no nutrition, but also made the baby have a stomachache and diarrhea. I stopped breastfeeding and called my mother-in-law. I was very dissatisfied, which made me stand up again. This is not a very good thing. I weaned decisively, and then the baby really stopped having diarrhea. It's really my fault that the baby has a stomachache.

Later, my mother-in-law took the child home and said that I didn't care about anything. That's good. I know I'm worried about this child. I'm afraid the baby will bother me. I still say I can do it. Although I can't, I will learn, but my mother-in-law insists. I think it's for my own good. It is difficult to take care of the child at her age. I brought the child to her house. I started to make my small shop, because I didn't earn much money, so I cashed in. I went to work when my baby was four months old.

So soon, I received a phone call from my sister-in-law who was far away from home. I came up and said, ah, my mother lost eight pounds after you gave birth, you know? Why don't you care if you have a baby yourself? Let my mother take care of it and I can't sleep at night. If my mother doesn't tell you, you still don't know. There are many things. I hung up the phone silently, without replying or waiting for her to finish. Don't say I didn't. And I am not idle with my mother-in-law. I go to see the baby with my husband every day. It is true that they are very hard. I also suggested that I take care of them myself, but my mother-in-law insisted. I don't know whether she loves me or her granddaughter. Anyway, I was warned once in the end. Hehe, warnings are always sudden. When I got back, I told my mother-in-law about her daughter's phone call. The mother-in-law said with a smile on her mouth, nothing. She just pulled. I said, mom, if you are tired or have something to say to me, then tell her what she can do for you so far away. I will come every day when you look after the children after work. I also know that you are tired. I will try my best to do anything I can, or I will stop working and concentrate on looking after the children at home.

Well, there are many things after that. After eight years of marriage, I have experienced many similar things. It can be said that small things are piling up. Later, there were many things including I bought a car, she got sick, I bought a house and educated my children. The difference is too big.

But now I understand that my mother-in-law can be a mother, but she is a stepmother, and she will put her children first, so I told her everything from the beginning, thinking that she could be a friend's mother-in-law, but I told her that she would write first, and she would tell her daughter something, not me. Up to now, she has something to say, so she doesn't say anything, which is very harmonious. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very simple, both for husband and children, so mother-in-law understands!