Marriage custom of Daur nationality

The wedding customs of Daur nationality are complex and grand from etiquette to form, and are accompanied by sports activities for a long time. For example, in many places, when eating Zarnat and marrying a daughter-in-law, archery, horse racing and other sports will be held to bring entertainment to a climax and immerse all Mokun people in happiness.

The Daur people in Xinjiang mainly live in some villages in Tacheng County, Yili Kazakh Autonomous Prefecture, with a population of only over 6,300 (statistics 1997), which is one of the ethnic groups with a small population in the autonomous region. Just like their unique national culture, they also have unique wedding customs.

An overview of the marriage customs of Daur nationality;

The Daur people practice monogamy and abide by the principle of marriage outside the ethnic group. After the young men and women are engaged, the man will give the woman horses, cows, sheep and wine, which is called a "big gift". On this day, the girl will hide and not see her fiance. A month before the wedding, the man will also give a small gift, mainly clothes and things, and then unmarried couples can meet and eat "Larry" and noodles together. When you get married, you have to hold a banquet, and the dishes and dishes must be rich. Especially when you meet passers-by along the way, whether you know them or not, you can share a glass of wine, meat and snacks. After the wedding, the host will treat the guests with excellent dishes such as fried nose and cooked meat.

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Young Daur men and women are proposed by matchmakers, and so are free lovers. Usually, the man invites his respected elders to dress neatly, hang a new red cloth strip on the right side of his hat, and bring gifts to propose marriage. If the woman is interested, make an appointment with the matchmaker for the next meeting. When the matchmaker comes for the second time, if the woman fully agrees, she will bring some clothes and furniture needed for the wedding, and the wedding will be settled.

Subsidiary of Zahrnt Banquet:

The wedding date is chosen by the man. On the same day, the girl was sent to the groom's house by her parents and references. The groom's family prepares wine and meat to entertain. When the bride arrives, she and the groom will kill a chicken with a knife to see if the chicken liver lines are good or bad. If unlucky, the bride and groom will each kill another chicken until the chicken liver appears in Ji Xiangwen. Then, the bride and groom held a drinking ceremony. Put a bowl of wine in front of everyone, put ghee on the edge of the bowl, take a sip and then propose a toast. After the bride and groom finish drinking, they will also entertain the introducer and all the guests. Then the guests from both sides and relatives and friends who came to congratulate kept drinking, singing and dancing until they stayed up all night.

The road to meet the bride is full of songs:

On the wedding day, the groom didn't pick up the bride, and the woman organized someone to send the girl away. The bride wears a red scarf and is accompanied by five to seven young men and women. In the morning, she set off from the woman's house by car, full of dowry and accompanying gifts, and everyone played the piano and sang, laughing and laughing all the way.

Steal a cup and a disc. Groom:

When the bride arrives at the man's house accompanied by relatives, the groom's family will pay special attention to the guests who see her off. Before entering the house, they respect the "entrance cup" first, and then put "welcome wine" after entering the house, which can be described as meticulous and afraid of neglect. Nevertheless, the bride's best man "Huada" is critical, while the bride's younger brothers "Kutulu" steal glasses, chopsticks, dishes and so on while eating and drinking, so as to play tricks on the groom and guests. Because Daur people believe that the wine glass is the bucket for the bride and groom to measure grain, and the plate is the laundry list of grain and an indispensable daily necessities. So, after dinner, the man found something missing and began to look for it. If caught, the person who "steals" the cup will be fined for drinking a cup, and the person who "steals" the bowl will be fined for drinking a bowl. The next day, when sending relatives back on horseback, they also "stole" some wine glasses and dishes, and they were willing to return them when the groom came back with the wine. The traditional custom of Daur nationality does not allow elder brother to marry sister-in-law, nor does it allow elder brother to marry sister-in-law after death. Especially when a younger brother marries his sister-in-law, it is even more opposed and condemned by public opinion, because Daur people treat their sister-in-law as politely as their mothers.

Traditional marriage customs of Daur nationality;

Generally speaking, Daur people can't adopt a son-in-law. Only when you are young or childless, and you are too ill to work and produce, can you recruit a son-in-law with a fixed term or life. Some individuals also have the phenomenon of raising children. For example, if they were born in Shuang'er, their parents would try their best to find a twin daughter as their spouse, and vice versa. If you don't do this, it will be difficult to feed and short-lived. The traditional custom of Daur nationality is not to intermarry with foreigners. Since the late Qing Dynasty and the early Republic of China, only a few girls have married Han Chinese for bride price or debt repayment. However, due to historical reasons, I have frequent contact with Ewenki people, so I gradually formed the habit of marrying each other. Although she has contacts with the Oroqen people, she seldom gets married.

The marriage view of Daur nationality was directly influenced by feudal society. I used to pay great attention to family status, and I had to be "suitable for my family" before I could propose. Generally speaking, rich people will not marry poor women, let alone marry girls to poor families as daughters-in-law. If a few rich people or officials marry the daughter of a poor family, it is because this girl is beautiful, virtuous and excellent in all aspects. The monogamy of Daur people was not destroyed, but concubinage only appeared in the late Qing Dynasty. Most of the reasons are because the first wife can't have children or no boys, and she is afraid to marry the second wife after breaking up. At first, I only took the slave's daughter as a concubine, because no one wanted to marry the girl to someone else as a child.

The process of Daur choosing a spouse for their children is complicated, which can be completed in five steps from matchmaking to marriage.

Step one:

The first step is to invite people to match the bridge, which is the so-called "Xi Zhuo Le Ge Bei". The trustee should be a relative or good friend of the woman's family. First, ask if the woman has a husband's family, and introduce the man's situation, family members and economic situation to his parents and the elderly. If the woman's parents or the elderly don't refuse, then ask the matchmaker to be the matchmaker.

Step two:

The second step is to invite an expressive person to be a matchmaker and call this person "Zhao Qi". Please try to be your son's elder or elder.

Engagement is based on the matchmaker toasting and kowtowing to the woman's parents and the elderly. As long as they accept this etiquette, the marriage will be successful and cannot be changed. There is no such thing as an engagement document. In the old society, there was also a traditional custom of referring to belly marriage. Finger-belly marriage often happens between friends or sworn brothers who never turn against each other, so that their friendship can develop more closely and continuously. If there is a man and a woman in the two families, at this time, the boy's father will personally go to the girl's house to toast and kowtow to his parents or grandparents, and confirm the original oral engagement as a formal engagement.

In the Daur nationality, when the son is about to grow up, he should arrange an engagement. Ask a good matchmaker to bring some wine to the woman's house as a matchmaker. The matchmaker's manners are very important. When the matchmaker arrives at the woman's home, he should first greet her parents, the elderly and the main family members, exchange greetings and offer cigarettes to each other, and then carefully choose words and euphemistically explain his purpose. Take the matchmaker's words as an example: "I heard that in your happy family, there is a kind-hearted, simple and virtuous girl with scissors and embroidery needles." I am willing to be a matchmaker for a young man with a bow and arrow in his hand, honest, hardworking, pure-hearted, intelligent and good at farming and hunting. I think the two sides are very suitable, men and women match and form a good marriage. I am willing to grind the bottom of cymbals for two families, and my back hurts and my legs hurt. I'll make sure you trust me and don't let me go home disappointed. "Then I introduced the man's family in detail, from members to property and economic situation, and also introduced the family style of several generations of men. The performance of members' professional and social status, especially to highlight men's character performance and talents.

If the woman's parents and main elders have no objection and express their willingness to get married, they will put forward three bride price requirements, namely, Shaoleberg (horse): Chuos (cow) and all the clothes and supplies that the woman needs. After consulting with the matchmaker, you can accept the ceremony of kowtowing to the matchmaker, and the marriage will be successful. If the woman's parents don't agree to this marriage, you can't let the matchmaker pour wine and kowtow, let alone let the matchmaker eat and live. It is said that leaving the matchmaker at home to eat and live means that this marriage has been arranged. After the wedding was booked, the matchmaker completed the task of matchmaking and then returned to the man's house to report the good news. The man's family warmly entertained the matchmaker with wine and rice and prepared some wine, meat, snacks and fruits for the matchmaker. At the same time, let my son kowtow to the matchmaker's house to express his gratitude. If you are a wealthy family, you should also reward the matchmaker with clothes and cash. In the process of matchmaking, due to the amount of bride price between men and women, when an agreement cannot be reached for a while, it will also happen that the matchmaker travels back and forth many times and finally reaches an engagement agreement.

Step 3:

The groom sends a bride price on a blind date, which is called "Zahrnt Yiqibei".

The traditional custom of Daur nationality is to hold "Zarnat ceremony" after engagement. The time is usually a few months or a year after engagement, and there are also two to three years. The so-called Zahrnt ceremony includes a boiled pork and two pigs. Dozens of kilograms of white wine; Ten to twenty pounds of snacks; More than 10 watts (cakes made of millet flour mixed with butter and sugar); More than a dozen pieces of Huogele (cakes made of flour mixed with brown sugar squeezed by Dingzishan); 60 to 100 Xiregele (fried cake made of millet flour); There are about 100 Tuva Utmo (fried cakes made of millet and rice flour), which are food and the like; Mainly to send horses and cattle. Sending horses is called "less fun and fever" This horse must have a reins, and the intention of getting married from the reins is to repay the father-in-law for adopting his daughter; Sending cows, called "Chuos", is usually cows or pregnant cows, in order to repay the mother-in-law for adopting her daughter. Zahrnt's gift size is not specified, which is mainly determined by the man's family economy and living conditions, but the man should try his best to organize it.

Giving gifts to Zarnat is a unique and interesting event for Daur people. First of all, the man should invite an old man who is good at rhetoric, familiar with etiquette and can improvise, as a chaperone and also as a driver. This person looks for it from his uncle, uncle or brother. He is responsible for guiding the groom to give Zahrnt a blind date gift. Before Zahrnt's limousine arrived, the close relatives of women in Yin Mo gathered to prepare for the arrival of their new son-in-law, and assigned several young people to close the gate to prevent the limousine from entering the hospital easily. They had to make things difficult for their new son-in-law outside the gate and deliberately had a war of words with the people who came to send the bride price. When Zahrnt limousine arrived, this embarrassing scene began.

For example, their question and answer is like this: the doorman asks questions first, where are you from, where are you going, what do you stop at this door to do, what do you want to do, and so on. The other party deliberately changed the subject, did not answer directly, but skillfully circled. It is this escort who answers in circles. He will tell a lot of lies, chat, and have a lot of pleading in his tone. For example, the escort said we were in business. We came from far away and walked all day. It will be late. First, we have never seen a hotel. Second, we have no relatives or friends. We are already hungry. We want to stay here for one night, rest for one night and leave early tomorrow morning. Please give us an answer if it is convenient. At this time, the young people deliberately made things difficult for them, saying: we don't know each other, we are unfamiliar, and we don't stay with strangers; Besides, our family has a large population, which is very inconvenient. Please don't gnash your teeth and waste your breath. I advise you to spend the night at another house before dark.

At this time, gifts should be both hard and soft. For example, he can say: We finally came to your cabin and stayed with several families, but we were not allowed to stay. Don't you understand the sufferings of people who are away from home? People can't go out with their houses on their backs, can they? People will encounter difficulties when they go out, so I repeatedly ask you for mercy and convenience. There is no place to live on the kang, so it is better to stay indoors and sleep in the wild. I hope you can take care of it and let us have a rest for one night. In this way, after some theories and mutual defense, inspired by the old man, we lifted the difficulties, opened the door and allowed the limousine to enter the hospital. So the woman's family warmly received the groom and the escort.

According to the custom of Daur people, you are not allowed to touch gifts before the arrival of Elder Benmoine. When they arrive, they will designate a steward and then check the receipt one by one before they can use the gift.

Zahrnt's ceremony, in order to receive the new son-in-law, we must arrange a banquet and recognize the relatives. On the night of the arrival of the new son-in-law, the men, women and children of this Yin Mo family were called "Zahrnt Antbert" and held a banquet. At the beginning of the banquet, the man's escort will politely explain the types and quantities of gifts given to the elders attending the banquet; Then, the woman's eldest brother led the new grandfathers to recognize their relatives and toast and kowtow to their elders one by one. After the banquet, arrange a few people to burn the pig, then gut it, and cook the meat that night for Mokun's relatives and friends to eat at the wedding reception the next day.

? After breakfast the next day, I informed Ben Mokun's relatives and friends to attend Gazal Nutt's wedding banquet, which is also called "Zarnat Yide Cup". Its etiquette is the same as the first night in Yin Mo. For some elderly people who can't come, leave some wine and meat snacks from Zahrnt's gift and give them. This is "Egetabe".

On the second day after Zahrnt Yidebei, the woman's brother led her new son-in-law to visit relatives and friends in Benmokun, and also toasted and kowtowed. At this time, the recipient will give the groom a small coin purse, a cigarette bag and other gifts, and some will give cash.

In the whole process of "Zahrnt Yidebei", girls are not allowed to meet their new son-in-law, and they have to go to another home to hide in advance. But it's always a pity that the two sides don't know each other and can't even look at each other. To this end, it is said that when the groom arrives at the woman's home, he will try his best to find out the whereabouts of his fiancee, preferably through the children. When I learned that the girl lived in a house, I tried to realize my sneaking desire. In fact, the girl is also in the same mood. She wants to see what her fiance is like and look for opportunities. At this time, there will also be a kind-hearted sister aunt to help them achieve their goals and try their best to create conditions for meeting each other, so that they can understand each other's faces, postures and instruments through peeping.

Zahrnt's ceremony was completed. When his new son-in-law was about to return to China, his rich father-in-law gave him "Shao Le Bo Re" or another good horse to ride back.

Step 4:

After the wedding ceremony, this is "tearing".

Tore includes several pieces of clothes and materials, a few pieces of "Little Hot Store" (jewelry), one or two pieces of "Bala" (bracelet), one or two pieces of "Guqiege" (ring) and one or two pieces of "Garege" (earrings). In addition, there are leather clothes, leather clothes racks, leather vests, quilts, bedspreads, interlining and so on. Some also stack money for the woman to buy at will. The original intention of sending "Tuolie" is to determine the wedding date. If the woman's family has no objection, they will immediately appoint an auspicious day for marriage, so the man's family will begin to prepare all the materials needed for marriage and tell relatives and friends far away.

The marriage age of young Daur people is generally about 20 years old for men and 17, 19, 2 1 year old for women. Custom forbids girls to get married at the same age. It is forbidden for girls to get married when their mothers give birth to themselves and get married. Both parents are dead, and neither man nor woman can get married within three years of mourning; Zahrnt's gift and "Zahrnt Yidebei" cannot be delivered for two years.

Step five:

Get married. The wedding is a big event, and preparations are started one or two months in advance. All Mokun people come to help: make clothes and bedding, slaughter pigs, cattle and sheep, and make food such as Watt, Hogler and Siegle.

Sending girls to get married is also very particular. Mokun people, rich or poor, come to help, produce good cars, horses and saddles, borrow clothes, hats and cymbals from each other, and try their best to show the rich life of all those who send their loved ones. Two days before the girl gets married, please invite the elders of the Mokun nationality to come and agree on the number of guests, drivers, chariots and horses, and try to choose relatives from the Mokun nationality. The male guest at the wedding is called "Huada", with three or five people; The female guest is called "Gu" and there are two or three people. There are three or four farewell cars, two or three people riding horses, and several dowry cars for wealthy families, but there are only about fifteen people in total. All the people who travel far away are double horses and double cars, and the team is spectacular and magnificent.

"Huo Dou Ancient" should be arranged in different levels, with the older aunt or aunt, "Jiehuo Dougu" should be matched with the younger aunt or aunt, and "Huzhu Huo Dou Ancient" should be matched with young girls of the same generation or childless young daughter-in-law.

The "Huada" who saw off the relatives were also arranged according to age and generation. In ancient times, Big Huada had to arrange an uncle, uncle or uncle who was younger than Big Huo. From "Jiehuada" to "Huzhu Rehuada", their generations and ages are the same as those of female guests. If you don't have a brother, arrange it from your uncle and two aunts. Drivers also arrange the first car and the second car in order of age. The bride's car should be driven by her own brother or uncle.

A day or two before seeing the bride off, the groom came to meet her at his father-in-law's house.

Before the departure of the farewell bus, Ben Yin Mo's relatives and friends got together and held an informal dinner to express their farewell. After the farewell car leaves, the groom will say goodbye to his elders one by one. After the ceremony, he can ride out to catch the farewell bus.

The order of the car to send the bride is: Huada and two people take the reed car, the family and Dou Jiahe take the first car, the young married woman sits in the middle of the van, Huada and Jiehua sit behind the bride's car, followed by the dowry car, and the rest of Huada sit behind the house. In front of the horses and chariots, there is a groom riding to lead the way.

Before the departure of the farewell bus, if you meet other farewell buses on the way, you should prepare some colorful silk, handkerchiefs and the like as gifts for each other. Also prepare some food, such as wine, cooked meat, snacks and so on. , for your use on the way. Traditionally, no matter how far away the journey is, you stop to tie a knot in the middle. Mr. Wang lit a bonfire, then drank a few glasses of wine, used less meat and snacks, and held a rest ceremony on the road. Dahua Da first toasted "Bai" (the land god) and made a memorial speech, pleading with the land god to bless the farewell cars and horses. At this time, if there are passers-by, whether you know them or not, you must ask them to stop and enjoy the wine and food.

Then you can release it. After the rest ceremony is completed, the groom will take the farewell guests home, pay respects to the elders and their party, then report the generation, age and number of chariots and horses of the farewell guests, arrange or adjust the appearance, seating, seating and accommodation of the guests, and send an old man and a young man to meet them in a village or two with hot wine. Stop as soon as the farewell bus arrives. After greeting the guests and their party, the guests attending the wedding will raise their glasses to express their warm welcome and greetings. After the welcoming ceremony outside the village, the young people reported the letter first, and the old people made way and slowly entered the village. At this time, regardless of men, women and children, wedding guests are arranged in the yard in the form of men left and women right. According to the traditional custom, no matter which direction the farewell bus comes from, it must detour to change the path and stop at the man's door from the west along the sunrise direction, which means that the bride will enter her husband's house from the sunrise direction. Two of them said: "First, when the escort car enters the chariot, if it passes through the well, it is necessary to send someone to cover the wellhead with red cloth in advance to prevent the bride's soul from falling into the well and not getting out;" Second, once the farewell bus arrives at the man's house after sunset, the man's house should hang a mirror on the west side of the gate to symbolize that the sun has not set.

When escorting the car to the door of the man's house, all relatives except the bride and young woman got off their horses and walked into the hospital under the guidance of the best man. The bride got off at the hospital with firecrackers. However, in order to prevent firecrackers from scaring horses and accidents, horses are usually untied outside the gate and pulled into the east side of the yard to park. So two young daughters-in-law put a red veil on the bride and helped her out of the car. Accompanied by the young woman who saw her off, she mixed the left and right pins together and stepped on the red cloth mat until she got on the kang. The bride can't step on the soil, standing on the side of the host-guest queue. At this time, the man's parents fill two glasses of wine outside the door and propose a toast to the guests who are off in turn, which is called the "entrance cup".

After the toast ceremony, guide the male and female guests and invite them to see them off in the order of female first and male last. Female guests sit in the south kang, male guests sit in the west kang, and coachmen and others sit in the north kang. Then, with the help of two young daughters-in-law, the bride was led into the house. When the bride enters the room, she must not bow her head, but hold her head high. When you get on the kang, you should not step on the edge of the kang, but sit cross-legged facing the window to the north. Then freshen up.

After everything was ready, we began to recognize our relatives in the form of cigarettes. Firstly, male and female guests were introduced respectively, and the main members of the man's family and close relatives and elders were introduced. The man's parents once again presented "welcome wine" to the guests who saw him off. After that, tea, mainly milk tea and cakes, was served, as well as some "Watt", "Hogler Ge", "Happy Gloege", milk skin and cream. After that, it's the wedding reception. The seats of the wedding banquet and the seats of the guests sitting on the kang remain the same, but they are all sitting at the top, with the guests around the bottom. The companion sitting in the lower seat is called Gajiriqin, and the companion sitting in the lower right seat is called Bajiriqin.

Each table has a special "Kao Burgen"-a waiter who is responsible for pouring wine, serving food and cutting meat with a knife. At the beginning of the banquet, wine and meat are served first. The meat served at each table is different. On the dining tables of ancient Huo Dou and ancient Huo Dou, the "earthenware", that is, the joints of the pig's back, was served; Mutual aid fever in ancient Huo Dou, on the "Waqida Hot Mo", that is, the third joint meat on the pig's back; On the dining tables of Dahua University and Jiehua University, "Dale" is placed, that is, scapula festival; At the banquet of Huzhu Rehua University, Gigi, that is, the meat of pig's back joint, was served. On the seat of the coachman and others, there is "Bao Ritos", which is elbow meat. However, all seats have some other joints, such as ribs, vertebrae and other joints After wine and meat, serve rice.

After the farewell luncheon, in order to bid farewell to the departing guests, the man sent an elder, representing all Mokun people and all relatives and friends, to toast the guests at the door, which is called "going out cup", and then the host and guest said goodbye to each other outside the door.

According to the traditional custom, the young people who bid farewell must steal some bowls, dishes, wine and cups at the banquet and take them outside the village. When the groom goes out to say goodbye, he will ask the groom to take back everything except two small wine glasses, saucers and bowls. There is also a custom: when the car or horse team is about to return, the man's family should give them a certain amount of wine, meat and snacks to take back. Just like the bridegroom seeing off a bride outside the village, the bridegroom should send someone to take out elbow joint meat from the meat given by men and women, ride back to the man's door and leave the meat to the bride to show that her family is still thinking about the girl when she goes back. After the butcher returned to the motorcade, the groom greeted his relatives and his party, and then returned.

According to the custom, the bride should sew a pair of trousers for her son-in-law within three days after marriage, and her husband's family should appreciate her sewing skills. Three days later, under the guidance of his elder sister-in-law, he went to an old friend's house in Kuntun, Benmo, packed his clothes and made a toast and kowtowed to their elders. After the full moon, the groom will drive and take his wife to visit her relatives with wine and food. The groom can stay for two or three days and the bride for one month. Here, the new wife will make a pair of shoes for her son-in-law, brother-in-law and sister-in-law. , show concern and love for her, also said that the daughter-in-law is a diligent and virtuous person. A month later, accompanied by his mother, his father or brother returned to his husband's house.

On the first night when the groom goes to the bride's house to get married, it is customary to arrange for the groom and the bride to eat a bowl of "Larry" at the same table, and then they can sleep together. In advance, the woman's family invited an aunt or sister-in-law with two children to guide the groom to marry the bride under her guidance; Later, they were persuaded to sit opposite the kang table and send thick porridge to each other's mouths with a bowl and a pair of chopsticks. This thick porridge is called "Xiahotos Larry". The bride and groom have never met in public, let alone said a word, and they are almost strangers. It's really difficult to send porridge to each other's mouth. Therefore, aunt and sister-in-law must use authority to persuade and force them to finish. The purpose of holding this ceremony is to make them feel inseparable after marriage, live in harmony and love each other forever.

Wedding etiquette of Daur nationality;

According to the Daur tradition, once a man and a woman get married, they can't divorce easily. Divorce is considered extremely disgraceful and disgraceful. If the woman is beaten and abused by her in-laws and her husband and runs back to her mother's house, the man's Mokun family will send representatives to her house to make a promise and guarantee to her Mokun that she will not be abused again, and she will also make a written statement before she can bring her daughter-in-law. Later, there was another abuse, and the woman Mo Kun sent someone to take the girl back to her family. At this time, if the man wants to file for divorce, but he lacks justifiable reasons, and Mo Kun of both sides can't reach an agreement, he can't leave generally. Except in special circumstances, it is rare for a woman to file for divorce. If a girl runs back to her parents' house at will, it is not allowed and will be forcibly sent back to her husband's house by her parents' house. If the woman is divorced by the man because of her own fault, she will be mercilessly scolded and even beaten by her family.

Once divorced, you must find a childless person to write a divorce book in the wild. The remuneration for writing divorce papers is about 100. Divorce documents should be signed by both men and women, half of them, as evidence of divorce. In people's minds, divorce is considered extremely unlucky. There is a Daur proverb: "Where divorce papers are written, grass doesn't grow for three years." This shows how cursed it is. After divorce, women are free to marry men without any restrictions. But when the object of remarriage is not as good as the original, they will be called "unlucky" by public opinion and cursed. At the time of divorce, all the children born are raised by the man, and the woman may not take them away. The woman can only bring furniture and clothes accompanied by her family.

Traditionally, widows cannot remarry during mourning. If life is neglected during the mourning period, the bride's family can take the girl back, but only after the mourning period expires can she remarry. Otherwise, the man Mo Kun will step in and forbid him to get married. Widows with children will not remarry under normal circumstances. Before a widow remarries, she still has to live in her husband's house. If there is an illegitimate child in some cases, she will be sent back to her parents' home and will be severely condemned by public opinion.

In addition, there are some other customs and etiquette. Communicate the arranged marriage of the Woer people in their early years, regardless of the date. By the end of the Qing Dynasty and the beginning of the Republic of China, it was also a tradition to choose a day to get married and invite people to see the "day". If you set the sixth day of the first month, the fifteenth day of the first month and the second day of the second month, you don't have to look out. Other months are auspicious days.

Many Daur people have homes and shrines, which are placed on the walls of Xikang. Call this sacred place of God and Buddhism "Huaima Reba Reken". If the paying family marries a daughter-in-law, the farewell party must prepare colored silk in advance, which is called "Zhu Si to Hardiger". When the new daughter-in-law steps on the threshold of her husband's family, she must first hang the prepared "Giusti Hardiger" in front of the statue of "Huaima Rebareken" and have a cigarette lighting ceremony before taking a seat on the kang.

When the bride's aunt, aunt, cousin or sister lived in the chariot, several families agreed with the wedding party in advance that when the escort car came outside the chariot, they were allowed to take their daughter-in-law home to entertain them first, and then the wedding party sent someone to marry them.

Before the wedding banquet, the person who delivers the wedding banquet must know and ask whether his uncle menstruation is present. When the banquet is about to start, be sure to invite them to sit together and drink in order of age and age. Otherwise, it is impolite to give people away, which will be discussed as impolite by the public.