Is it necessary to communicate the concept of fertility during love?

In fact, most people say that falling in love for the purpose of not getting married is hooliganism. Therefore, when two people are in love, I think it is absolutely necessary to communicate each other's views on fertility.

Although in this society, the phenomenon of son preference has generally been much lower than usual. Everyone in the family thinks that giving birth to children is the same as giving birth to girls, but compared with some rural areas or places with relatively backward education, their idea is that sons are better than girls. There are many examples around me. They are especially fond of their son. If the first child is not a son, they have to have a second child. If the second child is not a son, they must consider whether the third child should have a son.

Therefore, when you two are in love, it is very necessary to communicate the concept of fertility. If your boyfriend says I just like men, if you can't give birth to men, I'll find someone else to give birth to. When your boyfriend is in such a psychological state, do you still decide to stay with him? Are you really 100% sure you can have a baby? But women don't think so in their hearts. She has whatever she wants. Anyway, it's all meat from me. This is the gap in the concept of birth. If you and your boyfriend, two people are discussing this concept of fertility, the boyfriend doesn't spill the beans at all. He says this is my mother's lifelong wish, so I must have a baby. Then when you can't have children, you can imagine that your position in your mother-in-law's house will definitely plummet.

Forget the usual cynicism. Maybe we didn't take care of you when we were confined to the moon, scolding you and hitting you. In that case, are we too sad? So in order to avoid this embarrassing thing in the future, and to avoid becoming a single mother, you and your boyfriend must communicate when they are in love. You'd better talk to his mother directly about this matter. What happens if you can't have a boy? What if it is a girl? It always makes sense to be prepared.

I have a very painful example around me. His family is from the countryside, and she got married early. Husband and mother-in-law are very eager for her to have a baby in her previous home. Because in their concept, having a boy, that is, working, is definitely better than having a girl. But my friend got married hastily because he didn't know that their family had such a family concept, but he didn't expect to have a girl. After giving birth to a girl, everyone in her mother-in-law's family really changed their attitude towards her 180. From caring at first to cynicism later, she always complained that her stomach didn't live up to expectations. Why not have a boy?

My friend always argues that it's all the same to have a girl and a child. After having a girl, you can support yourself without worrying about yourself. But the people in their family are not sure about these things. They just think it's your fault that you can't have children or your stomach is disappointing. Do you know that his family did a very funny thing outside? Is looking for a surrogate, is the boy to stay, is the girl to abort. I really don't understand this kind of thing. Later, my friend broke up with her husband and became a single mother. She wants to raise this daughter by herself, and never let her be angry at that home. Such negative teaching materials abound, so it is absolutely necessary to communicate the concept of fertility during love.