China has a long history, so what are the engagement customs in ancient times?

Hello! This is brother Qian talking about the car. Nice to meet you here. I hope my answer is helpful to you. See your question: "China has a long history, so what are the engagement customs in ancient times?" Later, I want to say that the engagement is to get the blessing and proof of relatives. This is not only now, but also the custom of engagement since ancient times. For today, the ancient engagement customs are more complicated and pay more attention to details. But people will take it seriously and dare not slack off. Its purpose is to get the blessing and confirmation of marriage from others. So what are the types of ancient engagement customs?

First of all, in China, whether today or in ancient times, marriage is always regarded as the biggest thing. With the passage of time, those ancient engagement customs have gradually evolved into simpler forms today, but the meaning is the same. In ancient times, a couple wanted to get married with the consent of their parents, and then the matchmaker went to the woman's house to act as a matchmaker, so that the relationship between husband and wife could be ended. Moreover, the man also wants the woman's horoscope to be handed over to the fortune teller to see if it matches the man's horoscope and cannot conflict with the husband's horoscope. If they collide, the marriage can't be concluded.

Secondly, after the success of matchmaking, the woman's horoscope is also consistent with the man's horoscope, so you can choose auspicious time to give her a bride price. In fact, this is equivalent to the present engagement. If you decide to hire, you must use a big post, which also includes a marriage certificate. The marriage documents are all made by the man, and there is a list of gifts. When engaged, the man only uses half of the gift money on the gift list, and then makes up the remaining half on the gift day. He can also give the woman a gold ring as an engagement token. On the date, both parties will invite friends and relatives for dinner, but there is no need to give gifts, just send blessings to the couple. See if you find that ancient engagement customs still have a lot in common with today. After all, they all evolved from ancient times.

Then, give a gift to the woman one or two days before the wedding, and make up half of the gift money from the last date. We also need to prepare cloth, satin and the like, organize these into a gift list and give them to the woman together. After receiving these things, the woman will make them into clothes, quilts and the like, and take them back to the man's house on the wedding day, which is also commonly known as dowry. If the woman's family conditions are better, parents will bring more dowry to her daughter, so that the woman's position in the man's family will also improve.

Finally, after the ceremony, both parties have to prepare for the wedding. After all, the wedding date is very close. Do many people think that the ancient engagement custom is actually similar to now when they see this place? However, marriage at that time may not be as free as it is now. In the ancient engagement custom, parents' consent and a matchmaker were needed, otherwise marriage was not protected by law. For today, we are still very happy, at least we can not force ourselves to pursue what we like.