How many people around you are at a low ebb? Don't ask for it.

Life is like ebb and flow, there are always peaks and valleys. But just stick to it? Get up more often than fall down? Everything can start all over again and reach the peak of success again.

However, if people are in trouble, don't ask these three people. They may give it to you instead of helping you? Worse? Keep you in trouble longer.

Only by relying on yourself can we get out step by step as soon as possible.

No relatives.

As the saying goes:? People are poor and inseparable? . Relatives are also afraid that you will be in trouble and drag them down. If you really want to help, it's all because of face and you have to do it.

For most people, relatives are the last barrier, because of blood relationship, they will always help a group. But not all relatives can feel the same.

Hadron's parents died when he was very young, and his eldest brother raised him. The two brothers live alone and have deep feelings. In order to study for Hadron, my uneducated brother chose to dig coal for high salary. Who knows, it was hit by a sudden collapse of ore, causing high paraplegia. From then on, Hadron can only live with his brother.

Hadron, who hasn't graduated from college, returned to the countryside and wanted to do something. He contracted an orchard, introduced the most popular common varieties and built a vineyard. Get up early and be greedy for the dark every day, and pay close attention to the construction period, but in this way, I can't take care of my brother who is inconvenient to move.

To this end, Hadron walked into his nearest aunt's house, but it took him more than ten minutes to get there. Hadron asked his aunt to heat a good meal for his brother at noon every day and send it to his bed.

Hearing this, my aunt turned pale and pointed to her two grandchildren, saying that she didn't want to help, but she really couldn't leave. These two children have kept her busy enough. In case it doesn't work, let Hadron send his brother to her house for lunch before going out to work every day.

But before the words were finished, my aunt's son spoke, saying that he was afraid of not taking good care of him and causing trouble to Hadron.

Hadron also wants to say that paying for meals every month is better than no one taking care of it. But my brother shook his head again and again and said forget it.

On the way home, my brother told Hadron that my aunt has been more than one thing to my two brothers since childhood, so I have survived these years. Hadron's eyes were wet for the first time, and he made up his mind to spend it with his younger brother no matter how difficult it was.

Since then, Hadron has taken his younger brother with him regardless of the wind and rain. A few years later, he got married and had children, and still lived with his brother. After getting rich, those relatives who seldom visit their brothers also visit them. But Hadron is always cold, just like when relatives looked at them coldly.

No colleagues are required.

Since we are colleagues, there is naturally a competitive relationship. Even though we seem to get along well at the moment, everyone is secretly clearing the way for their promotion and salary increase.

Therefore, no matter how good the relationship between colleagues is, it is only limited to two people who can use each other to jointly fight against the blow from a third party. Once the form changes, the strong colleague relationship will disappear instantly.

Once you are in trouble, those colleagues who hate you will naturally be happy? Cheers and applause? Those colleagues who have a normal relationship insist that it is better to do more than one thing, and it is too late to hide.

And once you ask for help, it's bring disgrace to oneself. First of all, people shed crocodile tears and ask why you are in trouble. After that, there are all kinds of evasions. From time to time, I use my own experience of making trouble to reflect on myself and once again ridicule you for not taking a dirty word. In the end, I just shook my hands: I really want to help, but I really can't! ?

Xiao Yuan had to ask people around him for help because his father was very ill and needed a lot of treatment. Yongzhen, who has a good relationship with him on weekdays, runs a decoration company in addition to going to work. Xiao Yuan summoned up his courage and offered to borrow twenty thousand yuan from Yongzhen.

Yongzhen had a cigarette in his mouth. After impatiently listening to Xiaoyuan's story, he said slowly, Why didn't you say so earlier? Just settled a sum of money today, more than 200 thousand. Now, there is not so much cash on hand. Wait until the cash flow comes back next month, whatever! ?

Hearing this, Xiao Yuan was very unhappy. Isn't it obvious that he looks down on it? If you don't borrow, you don't borrow. He also used so many reasons to prevaricate. It's so hypocritical. Xiao Yuan apologized quickly, and he never wanted to borrow money from other colleagues. Run to the bank and bring a sum of personal credit money to ease the top priority.

After this incident, Xiao Yuan realized more clearly that it is wishful thinking for colleagues, that is, people who work together, to develop into friends who share joys and sorrows; Many colleagues walk in the street after work, pretending to be strangers. The more I hold such hope, the more disappointed I am.

Don't ask people who have loved.

Can you still be friends if you can't be lovers? The answer is no.

Because love is too deep, the other person turns and falls into another person's arms, and the rest is not love, but full of hatred.

When a person is in trouble, he still wants to ask his former lover for help, but he doesn't admit this cruel reality. Your relationship is a thing of the past, and now you are just penniless strangers.

When Linlin married Xiaotang, everyone felt sorry for her, because the man named Zhigang chased Linlin for six years, and Linlin's parents were complaining about Zhigang.

However, Zhigang is a man of few words, and turned to Guangzhou without saying anything.

A few years later, Linlin was the mother of two children. Her eloquent husband, Tang Xiao, no longer protects the mother and daughter. He doesn't like that Linlin has no son, so he chose to divorce cruelly and didn't raise two daughters.

And zhigang, who just got married at this time, finally waited for the person who loves him. Today, Zhigang has changed from an assembly line worker to a department head and an old employee of this company. His salary and reputation are rising. The double harvest of career and love made Zhigang feel that the happiness of life was officially opened.

Linlin finally asked about the contact information of Zhigang and wanted to cry to him. But when she learned that Zhigang was doing well, she decided not to contact him any more.

Who knows what zhigang will think of himself now? If he bears a grudge against himself, isn't it appropriate to laugh at him at this time? If he remembers his old love, won't it hurt his present family?

When you are in trouble, not asking for the person you love the most is the last tenderness you have ever loved and the last dignity you can keep.

It is the most normal idea that people want to help when they are in trouble.

However, no one is yourself, and you can't really feel the same way. Only by relying on ourselves can we really get out of the predicament!