Hands are a woman's second face.

Zweig's novel "Twenty-four Hours in a Woman's Life" analyzes a middle-class woman's rich inner world by describing her day's experience. Among them, a pair of hands are vividly depicted in detail, which is so thrilling.

Man is an animal that hides his emotions, and his hands often reveal his true psychology appropriately behind this hiding. People often ignore the language function of his hand, and even if he doesn't, it's hard to control it. Many times, all people can do is hide their hands. A nervous person, even if the surface is well hidden, his hands will tremble involuntarily; A person with anger hidden in his chest will unconsciously clench his fist; An anxious person will subconsciously rub his hands back and forth; A shy or timid person will want to grab something to hide his emotions, or grab his clothes, or pull his hair slightly, or hold his glasses all the time. It is easier to judge a person's true psychology from his hands. People can disguise their facial expressions well and even arm their eyes, but they may often ignore this seemingly insignificant but actually very important factor-hand, or hand is actually the most difficult place to hide, because it is too flexible for the subconscious mind to control it. This is why more and more negotiation skill books now list the handle as the key factor to observe the other side in the negotiation.

In addition to exposing people's emotions, hands can also show people's age, quality of life, occupation and taste. A woman, no matter how shiny her face is, can easily see the flaw of her age if she doesn't pay attention to the maintenance of her hands; A person wearing prada, drinking blue mountains, sitting in an elegant coffee shop, if the fingertips are not trimmed well and covered with black mud, it will make people feel uncomfortable. It seems that elegance doesn't matter at once. It doesn't give people the impression of nouveau riche, but it looks arty. Teachers and writers will have thick cocoons on the first knuckle of the middle finger, which is the trace left by holding the pen; The pianist's ten fingertips will be thicker than ordinary people, which is the result of long-term stress; Actors' hands are usually well maintained, because that is their second face, and artists who can make full use of the subtext of their hands in the performance process are truly successful performance artists; Mrs Guo's hands are like onion tips, as pale as life. Of course, the cocoon of playing mahjong and playing cards is not ruled out. If you see that the first knuckle of someone's index finger is dark yellow, then he must be a heavy smoker ... In Leonardo da Vinci's famous painting Mona Lisa, apart from the corners of Mona Lisa's mouth, the most striking thing is her hands, which are so peacefully crossed in front of her. They are the beautiful hands of a lady, so flawless, and Leonardo da Vinci's skills are perfectly reflected here.

Many artists try to create perfect hands. In my impression, the hand of Guanyin Bodhisattva, the hand painted by Rubins, the hand of a woman portrayed by sculptor Rodin, and the hand of a prostitute painted by Jack, the hero of Titanic, are all perfect hands.

If the eyes are the windows of the human mind, then the hands are the tentacles of the human mind. As the saying goes: "ten fingers are connected with one heart, the heart is thoughtful, and the hand is pointed." French painter Delacroix said, "Hands are as expressive as faces". Austrian writer Zweig said: "When revealing the secrets of feelings, the performance of the hand is the most unscrupulous."

More than half of people's emotional information is not transmitted through words, but through body language. Such as nodding, blinking, frowning, gesturing, etc., the main body language is gesturing, because it is the most prominent and can "speak". The dumb lost the ability to speak, so they used gestures instead of language. For example, some TV stations are specially equipped with dumb hosts, which is a typical example.

Why do gestures "talk"? That's because gestures can really express all kinds of subtle expressions, such as strength, weakness, enthusiasm, indifference, cruelty, kindness, rudeness, gentleness, formality, indulgence, decisiveness, hesitation and so on. Since gesturing can be like talking, what meaning can't be expressed? The subtlety and accuracy of its expression can be imagined. For example, wave hello, wave goodbye, wave no, put your hands together to say prayer, clap your hands to say praise, and hand in hand to say thank you; The "V" shape means I wish you success, the index finger and the little finger are straight, the middle three fingers are bent to mean calling, and the apple heart means love.

Also, touching is love, pointing at others is anger, shaking hands is regret, shaking hands is closeness, shaking hands is respect, shaking hands is fear, hiding hands is shyness, raising hands is approval, lowering hands is obedience and so on. Therefore, gestures are indispensable and the most expressive dynamic beauty in interpersonal communication. Proper use of gestures can enhance the expression of feelings and play a icing on the cake in communication. Otherwise, it will not only not enhance the expression of feelings, but also give birth to many misunderstandings, which should be noted.

When people speak, they often use gestures to express some thoughts, and use gestures to strengthen the tone and make the words colorful. But when talking to people, women should not gesture too much and move too much. Otherwise, it will give people a feeling that it is not elegant and implicit. It is generally believed that the gesture of palms up means sincerity and respect for others; The gesture of palm down indicates a lack of frankness, sincerity, etc. A clenched fist means attack and self-defense. Putting out your finger is to attract others' attention, but it is a very impolite move, showing contempt and contempt for others. Hold your wrist high and point it at someone's face to show that you are scolding others.

If you want another person to walk far away, how can you send him a summoning gesture? The correct and polite way should be: raise your arm so that the angle between your arm and your body is not less than 90 degrees, palm down, and gently flick your wrist. Never put your hand up, because this attractive gesture will make people feel unreasonable and arrogant.

When you meet people from western countries, you'd better not point your fingers, because the west is more taboo than the east. There is an American who is very angry with those pedestrians who point and talk about him with a smile. He said, "They pointed at me. Have I done anything shameful? " ? But I didn't do anything! "Putting yourself in his shoes will really make people angry. It is impolite for those pedestrians to point at others. So, no matter where we are, don't give directions to others easily.

In addition, due to different customs and habits, the meanings expressed by the same gesture are not only different, but also very different. Some improper use may cause jokes or misunderstandings, even make people angry and even turn against each other. Therefore, women should understand different customs of different people and use different gestures.