Why resist the "sky-high price" bride price?

Why should we resist the "sky-high" bride price? How did the sky-high bride price come into being?

It is a traditional wedding custom in China that the man pays the bride price to the woman. However, the bride price is "a rising tide lifts all boats", and the time of the sky-high bride price is staggering. The following is what I collected for you about why you should boycott the "sky-high price" bride price for your reference. Come and have a look!

Why resist the "sky-high price" bride price?

The bride price is to show the man's attention and respect for the woman, and the original intention is to make the small life of the married family better. However, the high-priced bride price in reality did not bring a happy life. Imagine, if the man's parents become poor because of the increase in bride price, how can the life of the newlyweds be better?

High-priced bride price increases the family's economic burden and corrupts the social atmosphere, which must be curbed, and it is necessary to vigorously promote the change of customs in the field of marriage customs. Jiangsu, Jiangxi and other places start with unmarried young women and advocate that unmarried young women refuse high-priced bride price. It is really necessary to take diligence and housekeeping as a compulsory course to witness love and hone life, and to create a new style of frugal and civilized marriage. However, judging from the complex causes of sky-high bride price, it is not enough to curb the unhealthy trend of sky-high bride price only from the personal level.

The sky-high bride price is not only a cultural issue, but also an economic issue. In reality, the more underdeveloped areas with unbalanced economic and social development, the more prominent the phenomenon of sky-high bride price. It can be said that the sky-high bride price is caused by comprehensive factors brought about by population problems such as unbalanced urban and rural development and imbalance between men and women in rural areas. Curbing the unhealthy trend of high-priced bride price requires the joint efforts of the government and all walks of life. To this end, in August last year, eight departments, including the Ministry of Agriculture and Rural Affairs, jointly issued the "Work Plan for Special Governance of Outstanding Problems in Key Areas of Rural Change of Customs and Practices, such as High-priced Bride Gifts and Big-scale Exercises", which promoted the rectification of stereotypes and bad habits from the policy level and promoted the implementation of new civilized practices.

To curb the unhealthy trend of high-priced bride price, we must combine soft and hard. On the one hand, it is necessary to strengthen the implementation and publicity of relevant legal systems and resolutely say no to bad marriage customs. It is necessary to speed up the overall revitalization of rural areas, narrow the gap between urban and rural areas, and eradicate the breeding ground for high-priced bride price in rural areas. On the other hand, we should also see that marriage custom culture is also a part of local culture, and the rectification process cannot be "one size fits all". According to the local economic conditions and cultural background, the corresponding adaptation period should be set aside; It is necessary to make good use of village rules and regulations and let villagers' autonomy play a greater role in changing customs; It is necessary to strengthen social guidance and let local cadres, entrepreneurs and celebrities take the lead in setting an example when holding weddings to guide new civilized fashion.

Only when all parties make joint efforts to curb the unhealthy trend of marriage customs and let the new style of civilized and simple marriage customs prevail can we reduce the burden on love and add points to happiness.

How is the rural "high price bride price" formed?

First, male marriage is squeezed and the marriage market is vicious competition. The author points out that the causes of "sky-high bride price" are mostly attributed to the male marriage squeeze caused by gender imbalance. The absolute number of marriageable men in the marriage market is more than that of marriageable women, which will intensify men's competition for limited marriageable women's resources, put women in a relatively favorable position, and the "asking price" of women's bride price will gradually rise.

At the same time, the migration and mobility of population have aggravated the marriage squeeze of men in relatively backward areas. Areas with better economic development attract more labor, especially marriageable women, which makes the resources of marriageable women in the outflow areas scarce, and men in these areas will passively fall into vicious competition in the marriage market. A large number of rural youth came to the city, and the urban-rural intermarriage circle was integrated. Young people of marriageable age have more choices, and their acceptance of potential spouses is constantly expanding and their requirements are constantly improving. At the same time, they are involved in the competition of urban marriage market, and the inferior position of rural men with poor resources is aggravated.

The author concludes that under the joint action of marriage squeeze and intensified competition caused by the integration of urban and rural intermarriage circles, the "sky-high bride price" is mostly borne by rural men with poor family conditions in poor areas.

Second, the influence of urbanization, market economy and modern concepts. The author points out that under the influence of market economy, more and more people pursue the maximization of their own interests in marriage practice. Secondly, the capital going to the countryside in the process of urbanization makes the urban living standard penetrate into the countryside, and the rural consumption demand generated by marriage gradually approaches the urban living standard, such as buying a house and a car in the city. Capital going to the countryside changed people's way of thinking, gave birth to the concept of materialization, and mistakenly equated high-priced bride price with "having face".

In addition, the author also pays attention to the fact that in the rural society with relatively stable social relations and strong circle culture, marriage practice is easily influenced by the psychology of keeping up with the joneses and conformity. A survey of rural areas in North China shows that there is a competitive pattern of "showing up, following up and squeezing down" in marriage and love, which gradually pushes up the cost of marriage.

The author further points out that the causes of the "sky-high bride price" in rural areas should be considered comprehensively, and the gender imbalance in the marriage market, the heavy concept of intergenerational responsibility, the huge impact of the market economy and the serious loss of female population are all important factors that cause the "sky-high bride price".

Where is the root of the "sky-high bride price"

In the traditional wedding custom in China, the man needs to give the woman a certain dowry, which is called Nabi or Nacai. This custom has been passed down to this day. Some places pay attention to "colorful", while others have become unbearable for men. Even in poor and backward areas, the burden of bride price may be heavier than local income.

From the perspective of economics, there is a reason why daughters receive bride price. In many rural areas, the tradition of a daughter becoming a husband's family after marriage is still maintained, which reduces the contact with her mother's family, no longer assumes the responsibility of her family, and generally does not need to support her parents. For a family that adopts a daughter, it takes ten or twenty years to raise a daughter, but the return of the daughter after marriage is very low. Bridal price is a form of compensation from the man to the woman's family. However, in cities or wealthy rural areas, especially under the influence of the one-child policy, the only daughter should also bear the responsibility of supporting her parents after marriage. In such a family, the bride price is generally less, and it is generally returned, and even the dowry is returned to provide start-up funds for small families, which is very different from that in some rural areas where a large part of the bride price is placed in the woman's parents' home.

The formation of sky-high bride price naturally has the factor of comparison. As a matchmaker in the video said, "Other women' sold' 200,000 to 300,000. Why can my woman only be seventy or eighty thousand? " The reason why women can keep up with the joneses is that there is a serious imbalance between men and women in the local marriage "market", with more men than women. Every girl can accept several or even more than a dozen blind dates a day, so a girl and her family can naturally compare and choose the one with the best conditions. In order to please the woman, boys have to pay more and more.

Since the early 1980s, the sex ratio at birth in China has deviated from the normal range (103- 107). 1982 the birth sex ratio in the census is 108.5, and 1990 the birth sex ratio in the census is 165438+. The sex ratio at birth is seriously high, reaching116.86,2010 years, and the sex ratio at birth of Liu Fuzi further rises to 1 17.94. These data are all about the whole country, but in economically backward areas, especially in rural areas, the sex ratio at birth is higher, and the sex ratio at birth in many places is above 120.

In addition to the imbalance of the male-female ratio at birth, the mobility of the population has also caused the imbalance of the male-female ratio in backward areas. With the gradual opening up, more and more young people in backward areas go out to work, and the possibility of women standing in the workplace is much higher than that of men. Women in the workplace can find a foreigner to marry.

The appearance of sky-high bride price has its deep-seated economic and demographic reasons. It is difficult to solve the problem only by relying on the government's red-headed document of "changing customs and prohibiting sky-high bride price"

The root of the sky-high bride price lies in the imbalance between men and women. However, the change of population proportion is a long process. According to the data of 20 10 census, the sex ratio of the population below 19 in China began to exceed the normal range, and the age below 10 began to approach or even exceed 120. At that time, the population of 10- 19 had basically entered the marriageable age and began to face the situation of more men and fewer women. In the next at least 65,438+00 years, boys will face a more severe situation.