Buddha said: don't suffer others, don't persuade others to be good.

Have you ever met such a self-righteous person in your life? You told him about your injury and pain, but he told you, "Forget it." "Don't haggle over every ounce, be generous." "He is still a child, so please forgive him."

Stay out, anyone can be calm, but stay out, who can be calm? Some things cannot be solved by generosity. Those who don't know the whole picture, but keep telling you to be generous, stay away.

People, without personal experience, will not feel the same, but will only say something irrelevant, never consider the problem from your point of view, just advise you to be kind.

But what can an apology solve? In this world, not all injuries can be forgiven. Injury is injury, just like second time around. No matter how they stick together, there will still be cracks and they will not be intact. The same is true for injuries.

Those who advise you to be generous just stand and talk like it's easy, hang high, and speak lightly from the moral high ground. As we all know, don't persuade others to be kind until you have experienced others' sufferings. If they were you, they might not be able to do anything.

We often say that people should be kind, but the so-called kindness should also have its own principles and bottom line. Kindness does not mean forbearing everywhere. Kindness doesn't mean sacrificing yourself everywhere.

The so-called kindness is used to protect good people, not to be an excuse to defend bad people. Time can heal wounds, but it doesn't mean that we should learn to forgive. Being too kind is a fool, and only oneself is injured.

Those who often advise others to be kind will not feel pain at all if the needle is not stuck in them.

True kindness is to learn to understand other people's difficulties, their own pains and difficulties, rather than pointing fingers at others from the perspective of onlookers. You know, you have suffered from me, and you may not be as good as me.

As Zhuangzi said: Don't use your knowledge to guess other people's world. Born to be human, if you haven't really experienced other people's lives, don't tell others what to do and try to blame and judge others.

Life is not easy. What we want is not to judge others, but to understand each other. Learn to be considerate of others' difficulties, not to persuade others to be generous. Learn to put yourself in others' shoes, instead of indiscriminately persuading others to be kind.

As the saying goes, you may not be better than me if you switch roles. If you are not a party to many things, don't judge at will. In this cool thin world, I wish you and I are warm people, with more understanding, less criticism, more sympathy and less judgment.