Ear theory: what is suitable is the best.

Since ancient times, the pursuit of love is the most wonderful thing in the world. Many poets describe love poems:

I want to know you, long life, mountains and rivers are exhausted, thunder and lightning in winter, rain and snow in summer, heaven and earth are one, but dare to be with you. -Shang Yang (Han Dynasty. Anonymous).

Before the day is old, I can't get rid of my feelings. My heart is like a double screen with a Qian Qian knot inside. -Zhang Xian (Song)

How many people go to great pains to pursue beautiful love, fearing not only the loss of everything in front of them, but also that something better is yet to come.

The "theory of wheat ears" in psychology just shows this ambivalence of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss and indecision.

There is also a beautiful legend in the theory of wheat ears:

When Socrates answered Plato what love was, he asked him to pick the "biggest" ear of wheat, and he could only pick it once.

Because you can only pick it once, you can't look back. Plato didn't pick it because he didn't know if there was a better one behind. I found that it was not as good as before, and I didn't pick it; Finally came back empty-handed.

"This is love."

How difficult it is to find the biggest ear of wheat in the vast wheat field! We can't compare all ears of wheat.

People are often "wise after the event", and when they miss it, they will find that "the ears of wheat are the biggest".

In life, we should cherish everything in front of us and choose a good "ear of wheat" instead of waiting for the biggest "ear of wheat" all our lives.

It is understandable to pursue the biggest "ear of wheat", but it is most realistic to hold the ear of wheat in front of you without losing the opportunity.

Similarly, it is important for a person to set lofty goals, but it is more important to seize the small opportunities in front of him and finish the work at hand in a down-to-earth manner.

Regarding marriage, no matter how you choose, it is not ideal.

People can't do everything, and everything can't be fine, as Mr. Jiang Yang said:

God will not concentrate all happiness on one person, and you may not be rich if you get love; Being rich is not necessarily happiness; Happiness does not necessarily mean health; Having health may not be everything you want.

Contentment is the magic weapon of happiness in life, and true happiness is spiritual enjoyment beyond material things.

We dare not gamble all our lives waiting for the ideal "ear of wheat", so cherish the "ear of wheat" that is ok at hand!

There is no turning back in life. Road, you can turn back, but you can't turn back.

It is not advisable to choose "ears of wheat" too hastily or too harshly.

We must know what we want in our hearts.

No matter whether the "ears of wheat" in your hand are good or bad, as long as they are hand in hand with you and grow old together, they are the most suitable for you.

This person may not be excellent, but he is the best for you. This is the true portrayal of ideal love and happy marriage!