What should I do if I always nag my child and can't control my mouth?

Some parents educate their children in the right way, but some parents educate their children in the wrong way, which is why some families have good children and some families have "Xiong Haizi" children, and these parents with improper education methods don't know it themselves, but just complain about "my child is too naughty", "we can't control him at all" and "born in Xiong Haizi". There is a saying in Guangdong that it is better to have barbecued pork than to have you.

In fact, parents should think about why their children are disobedient. Is it caused by doting and doting on children since childhood? Parents should also look for reasons from themselves, instead of throwing the pot at their children, saying that children don't listen to us and our teachings, and their wings have grown hard. When we sleep at night, we should think about this problem. Is there a problem with parenting methods? For example, in daily life, I always nag at my children, just like Tang priest chanting, and I can't control my mouth.

An educator once said this sentence:

At a parent-teacher meeting, a mother told her about her troubles after the parent-teacher meeting: "The child has just entered the first grade of primary school, but the child has a bad temper since childhood. Take my father as an example. He drags his homework, eats and watches his mobile phone, and does things carelessly. Seeing him like this, I earnestly advise my children to get rid of these bad habits every day, but my children think I am nagging every day, saying that I am bored, especially since I have been playing mobile phones recently. I nagged him a few words and the child talked back to me. Alas, it really hurts to see a child like this. I'm so well-meaning for him every day ................................................................... "

? From what the mother said, we can see that her mother's intentions are good, all for the good of her children, and you can see her love and worry about her children. But if you look carefully, you will find that the word I see the most is "nagging", so I asked her, "Do you know what you say the most, except that I can feel your love for your children?

The mother didn't realize her problem at first when she heard me say this. After a while, she suddenly realized that it was "nagging".

"Yes, it's nagging", expressed in another way, is nagging. Then I ask you, "If your colleagues nag in your ear every day at work and complain too much, will you resent it?"

"yes." Mother thought for a moment, looked at me seriously and said.

"In fact, most children are afraid of their parents' nagging. One thing will be repeated several times. Over time, children will resent their parents, so if you want to improve this situation now, the first thing is to control your mouth. "

"I don't want to nag, but I just can't control my mouth." Mother said helplessly.

"Well, let me give you a suggestion. After returning home, don't talk to your children for a week, just do your own thing. "

? When the mother heard me say this, she looked at me with a little doubt, as if she didn't believe that this would enhance the relationship between her and her children, but fortunately, she finally adopted my suggestion. Time flies, the sun and the moon fly, and a week passes quickly. On Saturday afternoon, I suddenly got a call from this mother. The mother said to me happily, "Since she stopped talking to her child, the child actually took the initiative to communicate with her and asked her why she didn't talk to him, whether she didn't love him, and whether she did something that made her angry. ................................................................................, I won't talk back to her. I was very pleased to hear her story, so I said to her, "So it may be wrong to talk too much every day. You should also see if the children listen. In short, be careful how children feel. I've made you do this before. Once you don't speak, it will arouse his consciousness and enthusiasm. "

? Many times, children don't want to listen to you because they think what you say is wrong, or that these words are useless to him, but many parents just can't control their mouths, either talking too much or making mistakes, which leads to their children's disgust and confrontation with you. In the face of children's disobedience, we will be more angry and fight back, so we will be more nagging, even beating and scolding children, forming a vicious circle, leading to nothing being solved.

? I believe that most parents have such troubles, so from now on, you should control your mouth. Of course, controlling your mouth is not saying nothing to your child, but saying what you should say and what you shouldn't say. For example, those useless words must not be said; Don't say anything that will affect your mood, find an opportunity to say it later; If you can't say it, you must hold back; If you need to say something, you need to think it over.

? In short, many times, whether at work or in life, it is more useful to keep your mouth shut and say less or even not.