What does blind date mean?

One of the traditional wedding etiquette in China is also called "eye contact". Wedding etiquette. That is, after the marriage negotiation stage is changed, the matchmaker will contact and arrange for the two sides to meet face to face. Dating ceremonies in previous dynasties were similar. In the old society, men and women did not know each other, but were arranged by their parents. [Edit this paragraph] There are two forms of blind date. One is the man's parents, aunts, aunts, etc. Visit the woman's house another day. The woman's parents usually let her daughter show her face, such as pouring tea and lighting a cigarette. The man's family will look at the woman's appearance, figure, posture and manners. In Quanzhou, Liancheng and other places, there is also the custom of looking at a woman's palm. A blind date's palm reading is not as elegant and mysterious as a fortune teller. Usually, a woman's happiness depends only on the hardness of her palm and the thickness of her skin. Soft palms, delicate skin are good looks, prominent bones and stiff muscles, and rough skin is bad looks without good luck. Fujian folks also generally taboo women's "broken palms" (also known as "horizontal palms", that is, there is a thick and deep line on the palm that runs through the center from left to right, such as through the palm), thinking that such women are "hard" and doomed to kill their husbands (men's broken palms are regarded as the lives of high officials). The other is that the man himself is taken to the woman's house by the matchmaker or elder for blind date. While observing women, he also accepts her scrutiny. But the couple didn't sit together and talk for a long time. The woman just showed a little and then hid in the back room. In Zhangping, blind date is commonly known as "seeing the bride". Generally, the man stands in Daping (patio), and it takes only a short time for his daughter to walk from the left alley (slant hall) to the right alley after dressing up. At the same time, the woman's parents and other relatives are watching the man. In Jianning, the man went to the door for a blind date, and the woman peeked first. If there is no objection, she goes out to pour tea. The man took the opportunity to glance at it. If he agrees, he will take the tea. No matter what form of blind date, if the man is satisfied, he will show it. Generally, the woman is given a small red envelope, commonly known as the "meeting gift", and even other family members have to take a ride. In Liu Qing and other places, the man's family will stay for dinner before leaving. In Puxian area, if the blind date eats the snacks made by the other party-eggs and noodles, it means that he likes them. In Jianyang, before the young men leave, the girl will personally make a bowl of sugar water for the young men to drink. The boys will be satisfied after drinking this bowl of sugar water. If you drink half a bowl, it means that you still need to consult with the matchmaker and leave room; If you just touch your lips symbolically, it's out of courtesy to show your disapproval of the marriage. [Edit this paragraph] Practical blind date stickers Professional blind date technology stickers: /f? Kz=29370757 1 blind date theory post of blind date terminator: /f? Kz=24444 13 10 [edit paragraph] The definition of blind date is passed through the matchmaker. Men and women agree to meet on a date, commonly known as "lover", "xianggong son-in-law" and "xianggong daughter-in-law", and so on. Generally, men go to women's homes, and some women go to men's homes. Both men and women on blind dates pay special attention to their personal image and try to leave a good impression on each other. When a man goes to a woman's house for a blind date, he must freshen up. Parents or parents should also teach him how to toast, how to address himself and how to serve others. When he went to the woman's house, he went to the woman's house under the guidance of the matchmaker and parents or parents. Most of his manners are more than dull detention, but not handsome and generous. On the day of blind date, the woman's family also attaches great importance to it. Clean up thoroughly, make a window bright and clean, clean inside and outside, and the girl should dress up. At the same time, she will invite her brother-in-law and seven aunts to accompany her, and let them give their opinions as a reference for whether they can get engaged. At the same time, prepare a hospitable meal and entertain warmly. Even on blind dates, men and women have no chance to talk directly, but they are careful and peek at each other. Before leaving after dinner, parents or parents send money or gifts to both men and women, which are generally accepted on the spot. Whether the two sides agree to get married, then the matchmaker will send a message and exchange blessings. After the blind date, the woman's parents or parents, accompanied by the matchmaker, take their daughter (or not) to the man's house to "look after" or "look after the property", and get in touch with the family members of the man in an all-round way to find out how many acres of land, how many rooms, how many holes there are in the kiln, how many animals there are, the layout of the yard and the indoor decoration, and consider whether the daughter will have a good life after going through the door. In the past, some families were poor, their homes were surrounded by walls, and their rooms were empty. In order to muddle through and please each other, they had to borrow furniture, furnishings and bedding from relatives and neighbors on the day when the woman "saw the job". "Live" attracts you, and you can get married smoothly. Local folk blind dates between men and women are not only held in women's or men's homes, but also quite a few so-called "meetings" between men and women at fairs and temple fairs. That is, both men and women are brought to meet by the matchmaker or parents, and the matchmaker is far away from the crowd. The two sides can only look at each other, but they can't see clearly. This method is called "looking back". Especially for men and women, one of them has physical defects or other problems, and some parents collude with the matchmaker to invite other men and women to take the place, referring to deer as horses and flowers as trees, commonly known as "being the number one." Only after marriage can the truth come out. It's too late for the cheated party to regret, and it's inevitable to feel sad secretly, submit to humiliation, hold tears and hold a grudge for life. In the old society of "being loyal to one's own life", since raw rice has been cooked, one has to admit that one's life is hard and one's life is sinful. After a long time, you will be happy with it for a long time. Many people think that blind date is a backward way of love, and it is inhuman and snobbish to constantly measure each other's family background and living conditions before they have feelings. Therefore, many young people always find fault with each other and are unwilling to make friends when they meet with their parents and relatives. But psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania in the United States published a paper in the latest issue of Evolution and Human Behavior, pointing out that blind date is actually very important. The researchers conducted the research through a professional matchmaker company. They found that before arranging a blind date, the matchmaker company usually compares the ideal situation of their "other half" with the reality in detail, and thinks that they are a good match before making a decision to arrange a blind date. However, no matter how well the written materials match, most people decide to stop dating after meeting for a few seconds, and women have less time to make a decision. Kurban, an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania who led the research, believes that blind date is not a "game world". In "speed dating", people are not judged by written materials, but are driven by intuition. From the first sight of each other to the formation of judgment, the whole journey is only about 3 seconds, which is too late to be measured by "snobbish" factors such as money and power. So, don't give up the opportunity to let your intuition judge. The researchers also gave some advice to those who are going on blind dates, because they found that although people always think that men pay more attention to women's appearance when choosing a partner, the experimental results are just the opposite. When asked to rate the attractiveness of a date, women have higher requirements for appearance than men. This means that if a man wants to win a woman's heart in three seconds, it is very important to have a steady and bright appearance besides preparing a wonderful opening speech.