Workplace psychology: how to make your heart strong?

How to make your heart strong? It is a very long and subtle process to make your heart strong. Throughout your life. Talking about how to make your heart strong, based on some personal observations and experiences, may not be in line with everyone. In my opinion, for a real heart, there is no absolute power, and in fact there is no relative power. Because everyone's heart is actually equal and independent, one heart is not easy to overwhelm another. The so-called inner heart here refers to the content of consciousness that will not be easily affected by changes in external conditions, especially changes in social status. According to this standard, the average young people do not have a stable heart, and their consciousness movement is a state that is easily influenced by the outside world and changes rapidly. So the inner strength here can also be defined as not being weak: being able to keep your heart from being oppressed by others or foreign things, and at the same time being able to cope with things around you. I don't advocate bullying or controlling others in dealing with foreign relations. I can have the ability to dominate others, but I can't abuse it and I can't be complacent. Those who wish or are used to leading others are generally used to being led and trained by others, so that mutual leadership between people is similar to abuse, which is unsustainable in a long period of peace. I think a good relationship is to edify and learn from each other, and to set an example for others. So the inner strength discussed here does not involve those situations where you are deeply involved in social competition and you compete with each other every day to gain potential advantages and psychological advantages. What I'm mainly talking about is that you basically have no fear and depression, and you can stand in peace in the world. If you are interested in the strength of social competition and there are too many articles about experience, I think this is not the strength of the heart, but the strength of the "external heart". For example, the information of inspirational Buddhist masters, fortune tellers, pyramid schemes, financial experts and luxury salesmen popular in the society does not belong to the scope of discussion here. Judging from the general trend of the younger generation in China, it should be said that scientific thinking is gradually becoming the mainstream of everyone's consciousness movement. Being objective, calm, rational, peaceful, based on facts and conscious step by step, technology, equipment, economy, society and culture will replace the struggle consciousness of previous generations in the younger generation and become the dominant social consciousness of China society. Of course, I have also observed that there are still many young people, and the state of consciousness of fear and depression frequently appears, which is a manifestation of weak consciousness and fragile heart. Generally speaking, when you encounter something, you will feel depressed, or you will be upset and angry because of fear. If we can overcome the solution, life will be healthier. This is also the main value that makes the heart strong: physical and mental health. Of course, it may also be more socially competitive and get a better social life. There are two reasons for inner fragility: external cause: too complicated and powerful social environment. The activity information of all kinds of people with lofty ideals is the basic environment for the growth of contemporary teenagers. These messages are often strong and sharp, and even adults are easily stung. Internal cause: Young people are full of energy, strong physical activity and resilience. The IQ is developed, but the heart is not strong enough. On the one hand, consciousness needs to be dispersed in learning and activities, which affects the improvement of willpower. On the other hand, there are fewer opportunities to suffer hardships, which also makes the internal force of consciousness not improved. As a young man, it is basically impossible to change external factors because he has not mastered the leading role of society. Even if young people think they can control their parents, in fact they can control some family behaviors of their parents, but they can't control their social life. Therefore, the main way to make the heart strong is to change the internal cause. If you become stronger and more interested, you can certainly change the external environment. But the speed of changing internal causes is faster and the effect is faster. First of all, we should observe and know ourselves objectively and truly. Divided into two parts: body and consciousness. Young people rarely think of a problem: their life is a life that exists as a product of single cell division, a life that exists as an organism, and a life that is highly interactive with society and can only be relatively independent. This means that all indicators of a person are limited. Organic means many limited clever combinations. In fact, inorganic matter is limited, and inorganic matter just lacks agility. It is difficult for young people to understand their bodies completely and objectively, because young people's bodies change rapidly and need to be observed in an indirect and direct way. A good way is to infer the characteristics and changing trend of your body by observing the bodies of many people of different ages. Only in this way can we have an objective understanding of the basic abilities and potential problems of our body, so as to establish the management of our body. Never make arbitrary judgments about your body. Understand your illness objectively. Disease is the basic content of human life cycle, which will lead to human aging and death. If you can't prevent and solve diseases and hidden dangers when you are young, at least don't accumulate and induce diseases when you are young. A person who grows up healthily may never have a major disease in his life. It is also the existence of nature, and a stone 1 100 million years will not get sick. Huangdi Neijing said, "God keeps himself inside, and his illness is in constant peace." Therefore, the ancients concluded that it is a great blessing to die without illness. Most doctors and pharmaceutical companies want people to be full of diseases, and then they will treat them for a long time. Only a few people you may never meet have truly noble medical ethics. But you want to be a doctor as much as you do. Good services are forced or trained. When you are young, try to master as much knowledge as possible and the ability to master diseases. A basic understanding of the body is the premise of understanding one's own consciousness. Generally speaking, teenagers' consciousness movement is completely driven by the rapid growth of their bodies. They study and experience hard in a complex and rich social environment, but they cannot be independent. The consciousness movement of teenagers in the process of growing up is arranged and induced by school teachers, parents and leaders of work units. You think you are free of thought, of course, most of them are delusional. It just gives you a very, very partial freedom of choice. Your rebellion is also fully estimated. As long as you resist, your parents and teachers will take corresponding measures against you. To truly establish an independent and free heart, it is very difficult to truly feel all the influences around you and all the information injected into consciousness, and then slowly refine your heart, get out of it and establish your own thinking movement. This usually requires waiting until middle age. Looking back, you are a fertilized egg, a fetus who knew nothing at first. How can consciousness become a normal person without accepting the information and influence around it? Therefore, feelings and actions of rebellion and disgust are bound to consume vitality in vain. You need to treat all the forces that have branded you since you were a child peacefully. When you are young, you can't quickly upgrade from being dominated to being dominated, but you can try your best to understand the truth of many worlds and gradually establish a true understanding of yourself, so as to use your vitality more reasonably and seize many opportunities to escape from being dominated at the right time. In this way, my heart will gradually become stronger. Secondly, we should manage ourselves step by step. How to establish the management of your body? First, gradually observe the boundaries of your body; Second, the control force within the boundary is often established in the actual test. Because the human body is an organism, any index is limited, and in the index combination, if you strengthen training some indexes, others will be damaged. Crossing the border will cause damage. However, everyone's figure will be slightly different, so we need to know more about other people's experiences and make more actual comparisons before we can define our own boundaries. It will be very beneficial to establish an organic understanding and management habit of your body when you are young, so that you don't have to constantly correct and overcome the adverse consequences caused by extreme behavior when you are young in middle-aged and elderly people. For the body, it is better to talk more, write more and even think more than to move more. The body moves in social behavior, and the body moves in social and natural environment, which is much more important than your body when you speak, write and think as an individual. It is to move more and make progress while moving. But not necessarily strenuous physical exercise. My personal experience is to compare individual sports with group sports, and then choose the combination by myself. Don't just do some sports you like, it is also a kind of physical "sports slave", which will be frozen in the long run.