Why do some people say that domestic violence in marriage cannot be forgiven once?

Because domestic violence is only zero-sum and countless times. We have been taught since childhood to learn to endure, ninja is king, and you have to endure being scolded; You have to endure being beaten, so many women have suffered domestic violence in their marriage and learned to endure it. However, domestic violence is like cheating. Endure once means ten thousand times.

An Jiahe, played by Feng in the TV series Don't Talk to Strangers, was once a "spokesperson for domestic violence", ferocious, abnormal, horrible and distorted. In Anjiahe's repeated domestic violence, his wife Mei Xiangnan finally escaped with her wisdom, and the audience breathed a sigh of relief.

Just like An Jiahe in the play, almost all men kneel down to admit their mistakes after domestic violence, but they will do it again when they get emotional. How hard it is for them to admit their mistakes, they will destroy women's bodies and spirits, and even their lives again and again.

However, physical abuse can be recovered, but psychological abuse is suffocating. The fist fell on the body and smashed into the heart. The former destroyed the body and the latter destroyed his self-esteem and will.

In the American judicial system, there is a widely recognized concept "battered spouse syndrome". His definition is that a couple or a couple is in a completely controlled subordinate state, both physically and mentally.

This relationship is usually accompanied by a lot of long-term violence and abuse. As a result, the abused spouse gradually believes that the other party can completely control herself, but she can't resist, escape or get help from others. In the long-term abuse, with the disintegration of self-esteem and will, persecuted people often form a morbid attachment.

We will find that many victims find it difficult to get out of such a difficult and dark period all their lives. They either put down the world decisively, or choose to fight violence with violence, or spend the rest of their lives in depression and pessimism.

Therefore, domestic violence within marriage should be the only way. The situation of domestic violence is quite special. Generally speaking, more than once. For domestic violence, there is only the difference between domestic violence and homelessness, and there is only one domestic violence and several domestic violence.

Because after the first domestic violence, there must be the next or several domestic violence. In order to avoid domestic violence, the only way is to divorce, and then go home to find their mothers.