Why don't most girls like women with scheming?

What is the "scheming woman" in everyone's eyes?

Many girls hate the word "scheming", especially when they are combined with girls to form a "scheming woman". It's just the big bang when Mars hit the earth!

Why don't most girls like women with scheming? What is a scheming woman like?

First of all, pay attention to the appearance:

It is generally believed that most of these girls have some advantages in appearance. Either it looks pure and lovely, or it will take Lolita style, royal sister style and gentle style ... with diverse styles, it is really difficult to distinguish.

Some of them, even if they have no special appearance, will actively improve their "inner cultivation". For example, they are very good at some very special aspects, such as art, music and literature. This kind of internal and external training is more likely to make people feel good and willing to be close.

They will work hard on some details, instead of introducing how to look good like some beauty bloggers now, they will quietly show themselves.

For example, if you and your best friend wear the same clothes to go shopping, she will make some different changes in clothes. For example, hang a beautiful silk scarf on your clothes, wear a novel headdress and earrings, and change the same clothes into different ones. Seemingly dull, it has actually distanced itself from the people around it.

Secondly, they are basically emotional people who understand people's minds:

A woman who can be called a schemer is basically easy to win the favor of others. Before some bad things are exposed, they can basically be called mentors.

As a friend, I can not only understand your thoughts, but also solve your difficulties at critical moments. The key to making you easy to get along with is understanding. Support and encourage things or feelings that you can't talk about.

There are boundaries for them to do things, and on the surface, they will not step into other people's private space for no reason. Not only avoids embarrassment, but also makes people more relaxed. Such a person, because everyone will not like it.

They will raise the people around them without trace, which will make them feel superior and prefer to get along with her.

Moreover, most of them are the former and the latter:

The average schemer will only hide what she wants first and move everything behind the scenes.

On the surface, you may support or approve all your practices and opinions, but behind your back, you may have been said to be a sieve. It is also possible to publish your private information or little secrets in some places on the internet.

Just like in the company, I finally made a plan for her to see, and she will continue to praise and say that it is well done. It is impossible to belittle yourself and say that you are stupid.

In this way, appropriate can make people feel superior, and then more willing to get close to her. Maybe she will take the initiative to help her with some work. If you say a few words casually, you can get the approval of a "fool" and reduce a person's workload. Why not?

But after you leave, they may also steal your ideas, or tell others that you are arrogant and narcissistic, arrogant to your colleagues, and even report and speak ill of your plan in front of the leaders. These are all possible.

However, as a "scheming woman", it will definitely not be so easy to find.

Finally, she will win the favor of people around her:

When will others not believe you? That's when you are isolated. If a person is found to be a scheming woman, she is likely to stay away from her or expose her to people around her.

At this time, the effect of her usual efforts came out.

She deliberately set off her beauty with her ugliness? People around you may say, what's wrong with girls being beautiful? It's good for you that she is willing to accompany you to wear this kind of local clothes. I didn't expect you to frame her here! ……

Said she was close to herself for a purpose? People around you may say: What do you want her to remember, your appearance, your fame or your money? You have nothing. Why blame others? Fortunately, she still tries so hard to help you and understand you, and she is blind! ……

Said she spoke ill of herself behind her back? People around you may say: When did she say that? Do you have any evidence? By the way, will we believe it? Don't say nothing, that is to say, a naive and lovely girl like her can still lie? Sometimes you just say an unintentional sentence, unless you make it into a conspiracy, what's your calculation? ……

These are all helpless.

Therefore, in order to be safe, we should not only stay away from scheming women, but also pay attention to people around us not to be brainwashed.