Why do I feel unhappy when I see my best friend is better than me?

Even if it doesn't rise to marriage, women's friendship is always more fragile than imagined in some ways. When you are still a student, if your friend's grades are always inferior to yours and suddenly surpassed, you will try harder to win it back and ask about each other's study intentionally or unintentionally-even an ordinary classmate in a dormitory will guess whether she has gone to study when the other person is not in the dormitory.

To put it more broadly, as far as I know, boys also have this idea in their study and work, but it may not be as frequent, intense and serious as girls. And boys will definitely compare their girlfriends with other people's girlfriends. Whoever looks good and has a good figure, girls will also compare their boyfriends with others, who is richer and who is good to their girlfriends, and parents will also compare their children.

Jealousy often naturally leads to some behaviors: positive self-interest-self-promotion, negative rejection-hindering others' promotion. A lot of human nature can be explained by animal instinct, perhaps animal instinct is not the whole reason. It is nothing more than that animals only need to eat, wear and be safe, and humans have more things as auxiliary reference conditions. Whether a partner is excellent or not is also a proof of personal ability.

I just want to say that in fact, many people in society are like this. She will bless you and wish you well, but she won't expect her to live much better than you. Studying hard for postgraduate entrance examination and working are the mainstream values. The problem is, but society is not just the mainstream. For example, marrying well is like living well without much effort.

Some people's success depends on their personality, luck and so on, and even some people are born successful, which you can't change. At this time, if we still use mainstream values to judge this pluralistic world, there will definitely be conflicts of understanding. Accepting the diversity of the world is the only way to open your heart. Comparing with others is an inevitable nature. There is no need to compare everything with others. Relax and live a happier life with a normal heart.