At work, if I occupy my position, I do nothing. How will you treat me? In fact, how do people deal with this situation?

During this time, I read Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature" and benefited a lot. Reading such a book in such a late night is like enjoying a delicious life feast. It is really understandable and unspeakable to express this feeling. It is like a mirror, which helps me to know myself, understand myself, so as to improve myself, control myself and become a successful person who is good at managing my life. The long road of life has made me more aware of what kind of future I am facing while seeing the road clearly.

"Sincerely appreciate and praise others" is my deepest feeling after reading this book. I have read this book once and can only get a general understanding. You have to read it several times to understand its meaning. The so-called "know yourself and know yourself, and win every battle" is true on the battlefield and in life. A person who knows each other better and knows himself better can be comfortable and invincible in life. The weakness of human nature is the essence of Carnegie's thought and career. Through vivid stories and easy-to-understand principles, the book excavates 60 weaknesses hidden in the human body from the perspective of human nature. Only when a person knows himself and constantly transforms himself can he make continuous progress until he succeeds! Carnegie's writing style is not very profound, it is all ordinary little things, but Carnegie's artistic soul is embedded in the book. His reaction to these little things was unexpected, which shocked my heart and made me feel so small. The world will not stop turning because of losing Carnegie, but will become a better place because of him. With his insight into human nature, Mr. Carnegie used a large number of ordinary people to make continuous efforts to achieve success. Through his speeches and books, he aroused the fighting spirit of countless lost people and inspired our future generations to achieve brilliant success.

The tips and suggestions in The Weaknesses of Human Nature are highly operable and can be summarized in one sentence: If we recognize the weaknesses in human nature, we will get twice the result with half the effort and succeed smoothly. Rereading "The Weakness of Human Nature" made me realize that this weakness can be my own or someone else's. Knowing other people's weaknesses can make each of us make smooth progress in our daily communication; Knowing your own weaknesses can help you develop your strengths and avoid weaknesses, highlight your strengths, and build a better life. Working in a state-owned enterprise, I always remind myself to be prepared for danger in times of peace and constantly improve and enrich myself.

In the book, the author talks about how we should learn to appreciate others sincerely in our life and work. Carnegie said: "There is only one way in the world to make others do anything-give them what they want." "In your daily life journey, don't forget to leave a little praise for the world. This little spark of friendship will ignite the flame of friendship. " Yes!

Carnegie said: "People are like this. When they do something wrong, they only blame others, not themselves. " Perhaps this sentence is not strange to us and is often used, but we have made some changes to it. After the change, it became, "He is like this. When he does something wrong, he will only blame others, not himself. " Seemingly subtle differences, in fact, are very small, a thousand miles away. When you say this sentence with one finger pointing at others, maybe the other finger is pointing at yourself! Carnegie hit the nail on the head by pointing out this bad habit. We always like to talk about other people's right and wrong. Why can't we compare ourselves with them and look at ourselves? When others do badly, is what they do perfect? When you realize that you will make mistakes, you will rise to a higher level and sum up an eternal truth: "To err is human." ? The root of the disease is the lack of understanding and tolerance between people. I will always remember what Wei Zi said when he interceded for the Queen in the finale of the TV series Princess Zhu Huan II, that is, "the greatest virtue in life is forgiveness". What's your attitude when we are crowded with buses every day, when we are walking on the road every day, and when others accidentally hit you? Full of resentment, swearing or forgiving others and being kind to yourself? We are always used to thinking from our own standpoint when considering things, so everything others do is wrong when it is different from ourselves, and so is it for others! But if both sides can look at themselves from the perspective of others, the result will be completely different. Seeing yourself from the perspective of others requires understanding and forgiving others' qualities and achievements. Only people who are not smart enough will criticize and complain about others-in fact, many stupid people will do so. Only when we learn to care about our friends sincerely can we win their greatest trust.

Reading this book again inspired me to prepare for what will happen in the future.

First of all, I want to change myself and learn to treat my life and work with a happy attitude. The book says, "Don't forget, happiness doesn't depend on who you are or what you have. It comes entirely from your thoughts." I believe that happiness comes from the heart. There is an old saying, hoping to encourage you: "Life is only once, so do what you can contribute now.". Don't be slow, don't neglect, because you only live once. " Emerson said, "Everyone I meet is more or less my teacher, because I learned something from him." If this is true and feasible for Emerson, it is even more true for each of us. Let's not always think about our own achievements and needs, but try our best to find the advantages of others, and then, instead of catering, we sincerely appreciate them. Praise sincerely and generously, and people will cherish your words in their lifetime memories.

As Mr. Carnegie said: "Only 65,438+05% of a person's success is attributed to his professional knowledge, and 85% is attributed to his ability to express his thoughts, lead others and arouse their enthusiasm." Therefore, I think: as long as we repeatedly study the weaknesses of human nature, we will certainly be able to help us acquire 85% of the abilities necessary for success.

Now, I recommend this book to you who want to constantly improve yourself. I hope you can feel better and change after reading it. We don't have to regard it as a classic that can be regarded as a classic. It is a kind of relaxing reading, and it is a mirror to put on the bed, reflect on yourself and correct the route.

People say: correct thoughts will make people enjoy a correct and happy life! I wish every reader friend with human weakness a full and happy life.

Reflections on human weakness

Last year, I read a book "The Weakness of Human Nature" written by Dale Carnegie. During the summer vacation, I was lucky enough to read this masterpiece. It feels like talking to an intelligent and humorous old man all night and waking up relaxed.

I have read many inspirational books, but after reading a few pages, I put them aside and never touched them again. But Carnegie's The Weakness of Human Nature attracted me deeply. Every chapter and article is full of the true meaning of life. At the same time, combined with your own life experience, you will have a sober feeling. After reading this book, you will become calm and face life with a smile.

After reading the section "Stimulating others' strong demand", let me talk about some experiences and feelings.

Carnegie said: Every time I go fishing, what I think is not what I like to eat, but what these fish like to eat. I will hang an earthworm on the hook instead of strawberry milk as bait, so that the fish will take the bait. I believe Carnegie's words imply that everyone can understand that when you are in real life &; Uot fishing and uot are not the same when you are human?

In our daily work and life, some of us always talk about our own needs. You know, this should be a ridiculous thing that children do. Because people only care about their own needs, you are always interested in your own needs, and others are not interested in yours. Others are as interested in their own needs as you are.

Therefore, the only way to influence others is to talk about their needs and tell them how to meet them. There are too many examples to prove this in real life. For example, the Xiamen government is partly influenced by Lai Changxing, and the influence is so deep that we have to admire Lai Changxing's greatness.

Whether talking about other people's needs or telling others how to meet their own needs is a requirement, that is, standing in each other's position and meeting each other's needs is the way to success.

Henry Ford, the automobile king, once said such a wise saying: If there is any secret of success, it is to look at the problem from the other side's standpoint and meet the other side's needs. This is really great! I want to repeat:&; If uot has any secret of success, it is to look at the problem from the other side's point of view and meet the other side's needs.

This statement is so simple and clear that anyone should see the truth at a glance, but most of us ignore it most of the time, don't we? There will inevitably be friction between colleagues at work. At this moment, everyone is trying to calm down and put themselves in the other's shoes to deal with this problem. Think about what you would do. Are you still so angry at this moment? Do you still think he or she deserves to die? Do you still think you are the only one who did the right thing? Do you believe that he or she must be wrong at the moment? You shouldn't fly into a rage, but you can understand why he (she) did it. If you can do something to meet each other's needs properly at this time, he will certainly remember that your kindness will be rewarded one day. Of course, this is the first thing we must do with our conscience.

1. Criticism will not change the facts, but will lead to resentment.

Everyone is eager to be appreciated and affirmed, pushing others, why not try to find the bright spots of others and find the favorable factors in one thing. "Being likable" is not a bad thing, if you can defeat others' will with happiness and smile. In fact, this can be done completely.

There is a small restaurant opposite, where I will solve my lunch and dinner every day. The taste and price of the food were not satisfactory, but I decided to choose this place to solve the working meal. The reason is that one day at the beginning, after I ordered it, I said thank you to my little sister with a straight face. She looked at me almost in surprise, and then smiled and said "you're welcome" to me. So, I began to try to smile and say thank you every time she served me food, and I was more grateful when she served me food faster than usual. So, the most remarkable thing is that one afternoon, I went to dinner with a friend. A friend asked her if she had steamed bread, and she finished. This friend is the person who introduced this book to me. He knows this book by heart and completely controls his life, so even if he gets a negative answer, he still sincerely thanks. After about 10 minutes, our food was almost served. The waiter put a cage of steamed buns in front of us and said shyly, "This is for you." Then, before we knew it, we turned and left in a hurry. This kind steamed stuffed bun is really delicious. Moreover, no matter how late I go now, my order will always be delivered to me at the first time. And I never forget to thank them sincerely, and send a greeting or two when my familiar little sister is not at work. Please believe that it is not difficult at all when doing so.

Try to understand others, not scold them; Try to put yourself in their shoes. Why do they do this?

Put yourself in the other person's position and imagine what you will do and what kind of reaction you will make. Fundamentally, it is to solve contradictions, not to intensify them.

Sharp criticism and attack, the effect is zero.

Praise others sincerely.

Everyone I meet is more or less my teacher, because I have learned from them.

Only by learning to appreciate others can we measure and judge the world with normal eyes; Measure and judge the world with a normal heart, and your income will be rich, beneficial and effective.

Feeling valued = praising others sincerely and generously.

You must treat others as you want them to treat you.

There is only one way to influence others, that is, to put forward their needs and let them know how to get them.

Take the needs of others as your own needs. At this time, how will you meet your own needs and what kind of help are you eager to get? Then, do this to others and tell them what to do.

When you look at one thing, you must take into account that you and the other person have different perspectives.

Comprehensive, objective, calm and kind.

Be true to yourself

People who can put themselves in others' shoes and understand what others are thinking will never have to worry about the future.

This is a skill that you must master, and it will help you to be unimpeded in this complex society.

The worst thing about keeping yourself is that you can't be yourself and keep yourself physically and mentally. Make good use of your gift.

You must face different people in your own way, solve different problems, improvise and stick to principles. You can talk about him in a roundabout way, but don't forget what you want to achieve.

Self-confidence, optimism, persistence and patience. It's getting closer.