My mother-in-law died, and I finally got rid of it. My wife's diary makes my heart ache. What should I do?

Those who have never experienced the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will listen to others. Even if they feel the same way, it is an irrelevant feeling.

Only those who have really experienced the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can feel this pain personally.

People who have also experienced the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different feelings. Because the parties are different, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not the same person, and the severity of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also different.

Some people encounter conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and eventually they will make up. Some people will encounter the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law all their lives.

As we said before, because of the big age gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is impossible for mother-in-law to accompany her daughter-in-law all the time. If the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law always exists, it will only end when mother-in-law and daughter-in-law die.

It is not uncommon for a mother-in-law to bully her daughter-in-law when she is alive. Some daughter-in-law parents choose to divorce, but some daughter-in-law parents always submit to humiliation.

The men's wives below always submit to humiliation. The pain caused by the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ended with the death of mother-in-law. Let's take a look at their stories.

Teacher Lin Dong:

My mother's death gave me a new understanding of life. Although my relationship with my mother has not been very good since we got married, she is my mother after all, and her death has caused a temporary emptiness in my heart.

My father died before I got married, and I was the only person my mother could rely on, so my wife and I have been living with my mother since we got married.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in our marriage is doomed. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are incompatible with each other every day, but what can they do I also want to separate my marriage from my mother, but this road won't work. I can't leave her alone.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law hurts me, but it has no effect at all. Even after mediation, we still live together, so the conflict will continue.

Many times I am afraid that my marriage will break down because of the contradiction between my mother-in-law and my daughter-in-law, and that my wife will divorce me. However, she never divorced me. Generally speaking, she also swallowed the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I feel sorry for her.

I once talked to my mother and wanted her to stop quarreling with my wife, but she didn't listen. The older she gets, the worse her temper gets.

My mother has been bedridden since last year. Even so, she is still creating a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I really don't understand what she thinks. Although my wife has problems with her, she will still take care of her, which makes me feel even more indebted to her.

Last month, my mother died. I feel that our life has stopped for a while, and there is no more noise, noise and contradiction.

During that time, my wife kept silent. Although life goes on, I am worried about her state. My mother is gone, and my wife is the only person I can rely on in this world. As I said before, my heart is empty because I realize the importance of a wife.

I thought that as long as I treat her well in my future life, I can make up for her inner grievances, but things are far more complicated than I thought.

I said to her: "Wife, I have always let you bear the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and wronged you!" " "

She said, "It's okay, it's over!"

She doesn't have any resentment, but it makes me feel bad. I didn't know that she didn't hate anything until I happened to see her diary a few days ago, but she didn't want to say in front of me:

"My mother-in-law died, and I was finally relieved. All kinds of hardships experienced in marriage over the years, now think about it, like a nightmare. Many people know I don't have a good mother-in-law. Many people know I was bullied by my mother-in-law. Many people advised me to get a divorce. But can divorce solve the problem?

Maybe divorce can help me get rid of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but what about my husband? He lost his father. If I leave him again, his mother will die one day. He really has nothing. Therefore, I can't make up my mind to divorce, perhaps because I love him too much!

Now that my mother-in-law has passed away, I will never be bullied by my mother-in-law again, and I will never be tortured by the contradiction between my mother-in-law and my daughter-in-law. Although liberation is a big negative word, it is really liberation for me, because my mother-in-law was never kind to me when she was alive. 」

My wife's diary makes my heart ache. What she said about the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is true. She was bullied by my mother, and I always saw her. She didn't divorce me because she loved me. I really can't repay her heart. I can't always rely on her. From now on, I will be her support. I hope this will heal her inner wounds and not waste her love for me.

The wife endures the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law far more than men think!

If this man's wife didn't love him, she might have divorced him long ago. Because I love him, I don't want him to become a poor man with nothing, so I have been wronged myself.

Many women are in this state in reality. When they encounter conflicts between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, they will not choose to divorce because they still care about their husbands. From this aspect alone, a man should be kind to his wife and not make her suffer too much.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law endured by wives is far more than men think. Especially the wife in the above cases has been living in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Like many women, she always has the idea of "letting her mother-in-law disappear from this world", which is human nature.

However, this idea can only be thought of in my mind, and it is impossible to make my mother-in-law disappear artificially. If you don't divorce, you can only spend it until your mother-in-law dies, so that the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be completely ended. However, this process is an unforgettable torture for women, and only by gritting your teeth can you get through it.

Women who have experienced this kind of pain will inevitably become stronger inside, and men have no choice. You can only cherish such a wife with your heart. When the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in conflict, she can still stick to her teeth. She will be more comfortable without the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. A man can be kind to her all his life. It is not her who benefits the most, but you.