The princess chose Xu.

In fact, it is the "trial marriage system" in the Qing Dynasty, and the so-called "trial marriage system" is actually the sex education and sex examination of the royal family in the Qing Dynasty. As a precious jade leaf, the princess belongs to the next marriage no matter who she marries. Therefore, in the traditional society here, the concept that men are superior to women and husbands are wives is reversed, because there is another sentence before husbands are wives. In the marriage relationship between the princess and Xu, the princess is the king and Xu is the minister, so in their sexual relationship, the status of women is higher than that of men.

Princess Channing

So how to ensure the princess's happy life in marriage? First of all, from the "trial marriage system", sexual relationship is one of the important prerequisites to maintain the princess's happy marriage relationship. If Ma Xu is not good in bed or has physical defects, how can the princess be happy in marriage? However, in the traditional society that attaches great importance to women's chastity, the princess can't try marriage by herself, so there is a trial marriage system.

Wei Zi wedding

So how to conduct a trial marriage? Not every girl can be dragged to a trial marriage. The girls who participated in the trial marriage were strictly selected. First of all, the old ladies-in-waiting examine them naked, and have a set of strict inspection standards for women's physiological characteristics and physiological reactions. Then, we should give her sex education and training, because the chosen girl is also Huang Hua's eldest daughter and knows nothing about the bed. After this whole set of procedures, the candidate who was selected for the trial marriage was immediately promoted to Gege. Finally, I accepted the dispatch of the Queen or the Queen Mother and went to Ma Xu's future residence for a trial marriage. Of course, she also received a piece of white silk before the trial marriage. The next day, Gege will report to Zongren House for a trial marriage. First of all, she will give the white silk to the palm officer for inspection, and then report the trial marriage to the palm officer. The official in charge should record the details and report them to the royal family. Once the trial marriage is qualified, the trial marriage becomes a maid married by the princess. After all, she has lost her virginity and is not suitable for staying in the harem.

Princess Gulen and Filial Piety

Why did the Qing royal family implement the trial marriage system? Except for the royal family in the Qing dynasty, the trial marriage system generally exists only among ethnic minorities. For example, there are eighteen eccentrics in Yunnan, and one of them is "falling in love behind a doll", which means that a woman can only have a wedding at a man's house when she has children. This wedding custom sounds very advanced, but it is not. This is a custom left over from the matriarchal society. Yunnan is a place where China's ethnic minorities live in compact communities. Many ethnic groups are still in the transitional period from primitive society to slave society, so we can see many traces of primitive society here. The Qing Dynasty was a dynasty established by Manchu people outside Shanhaiguan. Before entering the customs, the social development level of Manchu was not high, especially the Nuzhen in Manchu, who basically lived in caves. After entering the customs, although Chinese culture was accepted, the tradition of primitive society was not so easy to disappear. The combination of this tradition and imperial power formed a unique "trial marriage" system.