Why is there always a shadow in my heart that I can't forget?

I think there is no way to forget the psychological shadow. It is precisely because it left a deep impression on you that it will become a shadow in your heart when you are unforgettable, so that when you do it, you will be afraid to do it. So I think what you should do is not try to forget, but try to overcome. Everything in the world has yin and yang. We often say that stepping out of the shadow does not mean that it is gone, but that when we face it again, we are no longer afraid.

In order to get out of the psychological shadow and let us face it again without fear, we need to spend a lot of time to adapt and get used to it. We can also restore and relax by diverting our attention. Because after we have a psychological shadow, the whole person often becomes negative and uninterested in many things, and the whole person will be shrouded in emotions such as sadness and depression. Therefore, distraction is undoubtedly the best way to get rid of this negative emotion.

Let yourself go out of your closed world and touch other things. This can divert your attention from thinking about those bad things. You can also try telling your friends not to keep it to yourself. Like one of my former classmates, my high school grades have always been very good, ranking among the best. However, we failed in the college entrance examination, and we often know the reasons. There was too much pressure, and finally we failed. Later, I went to junior college and dropped out of school before I finished reading.

When he went to college, he became strange all over. I immersed myself in reading every day, didn't participate in group activities, didn't communicate with people, and finally I couldn't stand it and dropped out of school. Later, I met him again and talked with him. He told me all his thoughts. After listening, I told him some of my examples. For example, if something goes wrong at work, the boss will at most scold himself as an idiot and want to improve. Slowly, I tell him something every time I go to see him. It seems much better now. After working in a job for a long time, people are much more cheerful.