What is the rank between girlfriends in a dream of red mansions?

Nowadays, girls with good feelings generally call each other "best friends", which reminds us of the "Dream of Red Mansions" written by Mr. Cao Xueqin. Isn't it what we call "best friends" between ladies, maids and maids? Lin Daiyu, Xue Baochai and Shi Xiangyun are girlfriends, Yuanyang, Pinger and xiren are girlfriends, and Daiyu and Zijuan, Shi Xiangyun and xiren are also girlfriends.

Almost everyone has their own girlfriends, but in getting along year after year, we will find that girlfriends in a dream of red mansions are also divided into three or six categories. This "three, six, nine, etc." The difference is not the status, but the success or failure of being a girlfriend. Is it annoying or comforting?

Third-class girlfriends: Xue Baochai, Xiren

There are also "true and false girlfriends" in "Best Friends". The so-called "fake girlfriend" is the legendary plastic sister flower, which is vulnerable to interests. Xue Baochai and xiren are typical representatives.

They all say "attack like a shadow of a hairpin." I think this is very correct. There are too many similarities between Xue Baochai and xiren in dealing with people. All belong to "extremely considerate people." Everything they do is roll with the punches, roll with the punches, and think carefully.

Of course, all these things they do have a purpose. One is to be Jia Baoyu's first wife, and the other is to be Jia Baoyu's concubine. If someone poses a threat to his "goal", he will stage a drama of "one side is ahead and the other is behind", which will make the "opponent" unprepared.

There are many maids in Yee Hong Court. As the eldest sister, xiren takes good care of every sister. Even for Qingwen, a "competitor", she is tolerant and has many girlfriends. 3 1 episode "Laughing for my daughter, tearing a fan because of the unicorn falling white head and double stars", Qingwen was criticized by Baoyu for accidentally dropping the fan. Qingwen refused to accept, and the two quarreled endlessly, and xiren came forward to persuade. Qingwen did not quell the "war", but told her about her "deception" with Baoyu.

Baoyu was ashamed and annoyed, and wanted to "return his wife" to send Qingwen out. As a girl, Aron must be more annoyed than Baoyu, but instead of being angry, she "turned around and stopped" Baoyu from looking for his wife, and even "had to kneel down if she couldn't stop". At first glance, as a colleague and best friend, it is really "no one" that Xiren can do this.

However, with Qingwen expanding more and more, she gained more and more power in front of Baoyu, easily shaking out the so-called "hiding the sky and crossing the sea", which seriously affected Xiren's prospective aunt status, so Xiren had a little trick.

Not only the readers doubt her, but also Baoyu, who "cheated" with her, doubts her. In the 77th episode of "The pretty girl is wronged, and the beauty returns to the water moon", Qingwen, Fangguan were expelled from the hospital by Mrs. Wang, and Baoyu asked Xiren, "Why is it everyone's fault? My wife knows, but I don't pick you and Musk Moon Autumn Patterns ",adding that" (Musk Moon Autumn Patterns) is your edification and education ",so I sat down.

The reader knows something about Xue Baochai's character. In the eighth episode, "I found Baochai and Daiyu with a little more hints than the psychic Jin Ying", Daiyu was jealous and targeted Baochai several times. Baochai is the tolerance and love of her eldest sister. She said, "Really, this girl has a big mouth, which is annoying and disgusting."

However, in the 27th episode of "A butterfly buried in a fragrant burial, a crying swallow", Baochai overheard the whispers of Xiaohong and Zhui Er and shouted "Rose, I see where you are hiding", successfully blaming Lin Daiyu.

As a best friend, the first requirement is sincerity. In fact, Xue Baochai, xiren and others are not sincere in making friends or doing things. Only do what is good for you, and only make friends with people who are useful to you. Once their interests are touched, their friendship will also suffer bad luck.

Representatives of Secondary Girlfriends: Shi Xiangyun and Wen Qing

As a reader, every time I read the paragraphs of Shi Xiangyun or Qingwen, my heart is inevitably blocked. There is no denying that they are all strange girl in A Dream of Red Mansions, and they are all praised for their beautiful appearance and cheerful personality. But because of straightforward temper and low emotional intelligence, friends don't get along so happily, more often.

For example, Shi Xiangyun praised Xue Baochai from the moment she appeared, and even said, "None of these sisters is better than Sister Bao, but we are not sons of bitches. Whenever I have such a sister, it doesn't matter if I don't have parents. Later, I simply lived in Wu Heng Garden and became a veritable close friend of Xue Baochai. Therefore, I regard Lin Daiyu as a thorn in my side and often "confess" to Sister Bao by "embarrassing" Lin.

Not to mention whether the relationship between Xue Baochai and Lin Daiyu is good or bad, just saying that Shi Xiangyun openly "stands in line" with Xue Baochai will make her best friend Bao sister feel extremely embarrassed. After all, Xue Baochai defined herself as "understanding and understanding".

Shi Xiangyun's insistence on "provoking" Lin Daiyu in public will make outsiders mistakenly think that Xue Baochai is "stirring up", which will not only help Xue Baochai, but also greatly reduce her image among sisters. This also laid the groundwork for the two people to gradually drift away in the future.

Where's Qingwen? Among the maids in Jiafu, Qingwen is not only outstanding in appearance, but also fluent in speech, good at sewing and good in conduct. Supposedly, such a good girl should be surrounded by friends. But after reading the text carefully, we found that Qingwen didn't have many friends.

The only time she wrote about friendship was in episode 52, when Qiao Pinger loved to cover a shrimp bracelet and braved Qingwen's illness to mend peacock hair. Pinger learned that her shrimp bracelet had been stolen by Zhui Er of Yihongyuan, and told Musk that "Qingwen's hoof is a piece of charcoal, so I can't help telling him".

Although Pinger described Qingwen as "hoof", it is not difficult to see that their feelings are still good. Pinger was kind enough to hide it from Qingwen, but Qingwen was puzzled and asked Baoyu to "eavesdrop". Baoyu listened and kindly relayed it to Qingwen.

If Qingwen is "sensible" and understands Pinger and Baoyu's painstaking efforts, just pretend not to know and let Musk handle it. But she won't. When she saw Zhui Er, she hit him, scolded him and decided to kick him out. I completely ignored Pinger and Baoyu's kindness, even the faces of Xiren and Musk Moon.

In the whole Dream of Red Mansions, there are not a few such girlfriends. Except for Shi Xiangyun and Qingwen, Siqi, Fangguan and Yinger are not fuel-efficient lamps. As a best friend, the second criterion is not to cause trouble. Shi Xiangyun, Qingwen and others, although they have no bad intentions, are all dissidents who never take things too seriously. As their best friends, I'm afraid they have to clean up the mess!

First-class girlfriends: Lin Daiyu and Yuanyang

A good girlfriend, without delicacy, affectation, exaggeration or flattery, has no distinction between high and low, rich and poor, and always gives people a feeling of spring breeze. Whether it is a fragile sister Lin, a red mandarin duck in front of the old lady, or a clever and kind nightingale, they are all such good girlfriends.

In the forty-eighth episode, "Indulge in human feelings and misunderstand, entertain elegant women and gather poems", Xiangling studied poetry, which not only showed us Daiyu's thirst for knowledge, but also showed Lin Daiyu's enthusiasm and friendliness.

It is said that Lin Daiyu is the wife of the Jia family, and Xiangling is the concubine bought by the Xue family. There is still a gap in status. But Lin Daiyu has neither a lady's shelf nor a teacher's posture, nor a perfunctory attitude of the iron tower. Instead, she patiently, carefully and attentively taught Xiangling to learn poetry, started teaching from the beginning, assigned homework after class and commented patiently, and even lent her the Complete Works of Wang Moshu by Xiangling ... It was because of a good girlfriend like Dai Yu, a teacher and friend, and Xiangling's understanding and hard work that Xiangling had all this.

Yuanyang's kindness is also a teacher and friend. In episode 72, "Wang Xifeng tried to be ashamed to say that a sick woman was taking advantage of the situation to get married", Si Qi was ashamed, ashamed and afraid because Yuanyang saw him dating his cousin, and her cousin ran away, "adding another layer of anger", so he became ill.

When Yuanyang learned of this incident, she "knew that they were afraid of sin", so she took the initiative to find Yuanyang. When all the people in Huahua's family arrived, she swore to Siqi, "If I tell anyone, I will report my death immediately." You just rest assured that your illness will not be wasted. "

In the face of Yuanyang's relief, Si Qi was grateful to tears. However, after liberation, Yuanyang also "taught" Si Qi a lesson, "You will die at home" and "Take care of yourself from now on, but don't mess around".

What Yuanyang has done is a good interpretation of what a "good girlfriend" is. Imagine that if the chess game is met by third-class girlfriends such as Baochai and Xiren, they may secretly "go online" and pretend to be kind to comfort them.

If you meet second-class girlfriends such as Shi Xiangyun and Qingwen, even if you don't complain, you will occasionally take them out to Doby. Only when you meet a first-class girlfriend like Yuanyang will you be sincerely comforted and warned.

Apart from Lin Daiyu and Yuanyang, Pinger and Zijuan are rare in A Dream of Red Mansions. They have neither condescending prestige nor flattering eyes. They are also teachers and friends, which makes people feel like spring breeze.