Is it really shameful to marry far away? Many divorced women know it too late.

My understanding of distant marriage is: if you can't appreciate the good, you are not qualified to comment on the bad.

Some people say that a woman who marries far away regrets ten times, and it is an unfortunate thing to marry far away.

However, I feel that it is not the long marriage that makes them unhappy, but the poor life that they no longer care about their husbands and can do nothing.

Last time I saw my cousin, it was only a month. As a result, on National Day, she came again with her children.

Her husband's family and her family are not far away. It takes about two hours by bus and an hour by car, so she often takes her two daughters back to visit her mother.

Her parents divorced in the sixth grade. The reason is that the man cheated. Since my cousin got married, her mother has been the only one in the family, and she often seems a little lonely.

I sometimes think that thanks to the marriage of her close relatives, she can often go home to visit. If she is far away, it is estimated that she can't come back several times a year, how lonely her mother is.

It suddenly occurred to me that my mother once said: you should get married closer to your sister. Even if the man is from other provinces, you should buy a house near our home.

Neither my sister nor I care much. Who knows what kind of people I will meet to get married in the future?

Perfect marriages are rare in this world. Whether you are married far or near, life will be bumpy. If all the disappointments in life are blamed on distant marriage, it would be naive to marry far away.

When I took a taxi home from work, the driver chatted with me and said what kind of men can marry and what kind of men can't marry.

Then he said that he had a daughter who was still at school. When his daughter got married, he hoped that she would not marry far away.

He thinks that the best distance between his daughter's home and her family is what she wants to eat. Call mom and tell her that the food is still hot when riding an electric car or driving to her parents' house.

I thought about it for a while, and I thought it was true. If I marry far away, I won't be able to eat the delicious food cooked by my mother at any time.

Some time ago, I heard from a friend that the neighbor's daughter Xiaoyi was divorced, and she really couldn't live in her husband's family. I thought it was because the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was not harmonious, but I didn't expect there were other reasons.

It turns out that Xiaoyi talked about a boyfriend in college. When she gets along with him, she thinks this boy is very reliable. When her boyfriend proposed to her, she agreed without hesitation.

But their home is too far away, and it takes more than ten hours by high-speed train. Little e's parents didn't say anything when they learned that she was going to marry far away.

And little e was in love at that time, how could he listen to his parents? He just wanted to marry his boyfriend as soon as possible.

Parents can't resist her insistence and can only agree. At E's wedding, the father made the boy swear in front of everyone that he would treat his daughter well for life and not let her be wronged.

We are not afraid of long-distance love, but psychologically afraid of long-distance love.

When she first got married, Xiao E found an easy job there, and her in-laws were also very kind to her.

After she became pregnant, her mother-in-law advised her to stay at home and concentrate on looking after the children. Let men make money.

Xiao e also wanted to grow up with his child before he went to kindergarten, so he agreed.

However, when the child can go to kindergarten at the age of three, Xiaoyi suggested that she work again, but her in-laws did not agree.

They think that if Xiao E goes out to work and is known by others, others will say that his son is unable to support his family and let his daughter-in-law go out to make money.

This made Xiaoyi very helpless, but her husband also hoped that she would continue to take care of the children at home and had to give up the idea of finding a job.

Before long, she had a conflict with her mother-in-law, because she bought a bottle of 100 skin care products. As a result, her mother-in-law said that she spent money indiscriminately, which made Xiaoyi very angry.

My mother-in-law has been accusing Xiaoyi that it is not easy for her son to make money. This is good for you. You fool around at home all day, spend money lavishly and know nothing about life.

Xiaoyi originally thought that her husband could help her speak, but as a result, her husband hid in the room and played with his mobile phone. At that moment, little e's heart was cold.

She wanted to go out and talk to someone, but suddenly she felt that there were no relatives or friends in this city to comfort her, and tears came out at that time.

In a rage, she rushed out of the door.

But when I went out, I found that she had nowhere to go.

For a girl who has been married far away, her hometown has become a distant place.

Later, the contradiction became more and more serious. Xiaoyi couldn't stand it, so she divorced her husband. Before leaving, my mother-in-law said that she was too delicate to stand.

Hearing this story, people can't help but sigh. Although xiaoyi married love, she had to be defeated by reality.

Many girls don't think about anything before they get married. They think it's right to marry love, but they regret it after marriage.

Therefore, if girls really want to marry far away, they must consider it first.

Girl, please understand these three points before you get married.

The other's family

If you are married far away and need to live with the parents of the other party, then it is very important for him to come from a family and how his parents are.

Before deciding to get married, we should observe and understand each other's family situation and what their parents are like.

After some girls fall in love, they ignore everything and follow the boys.

If the boy is a baby boy, or is prone to violence, that woman is really miserable.

Consider your diet, habits, etc.

Some women don't think about these problems when they are in love. They think these are trivial things, and they can get used to them after living for a long time.

But these questions are actually very important. When you get married, you will find that you can't get used to anything, which will aggravate your sense of loss.

Besides, these things have to be faced for a lifetime. If girls can't overcome it, they must think carefully.

Relationships need "boundaries" but not "restrictions".

Even intimate partners are two people, who have their own parts in life and emotion, and also have parts shared by two people. These two parts need to be balanced.

Build your own circle and career.

One of the reasons why many girls are unhappy when they are married far away is that they have lost their original circle, but they have not established a new circle quickly, resulting in their grievances being confided.

In addition, if you leave your original job and lose your income, you will be rejected by your husband's family. Only a capable daughter-in-law can change your husband's attitude.

Therefore, I still hope that all women can seriously consider these points before marrying far away. After all, happiness is the most important thing in marriage.

A happy woman in marriage needs to play many roles:

You are the daughter of parents, the daughter-in-law of in-laws, the wife of husband, and the mother of children. ...

One by one, women can't breathe.

Women who live a good life will not get lost in these identities. The premise of being a daughter, a wife and a mother is to be yourself and have a clear sense of boundaries.

After getting married, some women continue to help their families and make their husbands dissatisfied.

Some women spend their whole lives around their children after giving birth. Since then, it is only the mother, not herself, and the child will not be grateful.

There are also some women who have conflicts with their mother-in-law after marriage and have been wronged for family harmony, forgetting that they are the little princesses of their parents. ...

Getting married is not easy, not to mention the distance.

There is nothing in this world. You take a step back, I take ten steps back. It's just that you step back and she steps in. This is human nature. Too accommodating, you will only be bullied. It's a pity that many women far away understand it too late.

If your life is a downpour, marriage is an umbrella full of holes, and money is the patch to mend this umbrella.

After all, this misfortune is just a mistake in choosing a man.

The man who really loves you, no matter how far he goes, will remember your parents' entrustment when they got married and take good care of you;

I will understand your concern for your parents and be willing to accompany you home often. Because it is not easy for you to marry him and leave home, I am single-minded to you.

He knows that distant marriage is a gamble, and he won't let you lose.

I sincerely hope that after years of long-distance love, you can look back and say happily: It's good to marry him.

Men who have married distant girls, please cherish your wives.

She, for you alone, gave up everything in the past and left her hometown to come to you. Please be kind to every girl who marries far away!

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