How to educate children?

Education is the state of moral cultivation in behavior. It is the result of social influence, family education, school education and personal cultivation, especially the code of conduct and ethics developed in the family since childhood. Politeness refers to the expression of modesty and respect in speech acts; Education refers to the cultivation of general culture and morality.

The core of education: "education" plays an important role in good interpersonal relationships, such as caring for others, respecting others, being measured, understanding others, being gentle, paying attention to details, caring for others, being broad-minded, sincere and decent, being open and aboveboard, and so on.

The essence of education is caring for people. Because I care, I can pay attention to and accurately grasp the scale of communication, leaving necessary private space for others; We will overcome all kinds of inconveniences and make our behavior conform to the requirements of social morality; Pay attention to the use of polite expressions everywhere and strive to create a gentle and peaceful atmosphere.

There is a basic principle in interpersonal communication: don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. You care about others, be considerate, thoughtful, sincere, decent, respectful and decent, and others will usually treat you in turn. Over time, you will have interpersonal attraction, and your social communication and social identity needs will be fully met. So you will create a good interpersonal environment conducive to sustainable development.

In this way, you have one of the most important external resources that a person can rely on: healthy interpersonal relationships.

Therefore, the concern in education is a great concern for people and themselves, which is helpful for interpersonal communication to enter a virtuous circle.

To cultivate children's upbringing, we can start from these specific aspects:

1. Don't just watch when someone pours you water. Hold it with your hand as a sign of courtesy.

You should at least be able to answer when others are talking to you. You can't say the last sentence, you don't have the next sentence, or you can just say ah, right, right.

When people stare at you, don't look directly at them and pretend not to notice.

4, in a bad mood, even the best skin care products and cosmetics can remedy the skin.

5, poor sleep, will make people incoherent, slow response, prominent dark circles.

6. When others release "poisonous gas", you can't avoid it, nor can you fan the wind in disgust and pretend as if nothing has happened.

7. When reprimanded by the leader, don't bow your head, look directly at the leader and accept criticism, and the fire of the leader will slowly go out, otherwise the leader will add fuel to the fire.

8. A person can't ask others for money all his life.

9. When you leave after dinner, you say, "I'm finished. Please enjoy your meal. "

10, it must be handed water and rice with both hands.

1 1, don't sit up in the chair.

12, eat the bowl, don't pick the plate, don't knock the bowl with chopsticks.

13. Remember to close the door when you come in last.

14. If you send someone away, you should say, "Go slowly."

15, it is impolite not to wash your hands and throw water on others.

16, pass the knife to others, remember to pass the end of the handle.

17, don't expose the shortcomings of others.

18, don't be distracted when listening to others. This is very impolite.

19, don't point the spout at others after pouring tea for them.

20. When you stand, you have a standing posture, and when you sit, you have a sitting posture.

2 1. When you meet a door that can be opened from the inside out, pull it instead of pushing it.

22. When you say it, you must do it. Don't promise if you can't do it.

23, don't be greedy for petty gain, don't be greedy for money, no matter how much money you spend!

24. When someone is in the room, close the door quietly when you go out.

The world doesn't believe in tears.

26. It is better to let others spend time to keep themselves than to spend time to keep others.

27. People who are poor are not poor.

28. When serving others rice or tea, if there is a person in the middle, don't pass in front of others, but bypass them from behind.

29. Your own ability is the real ability.

30. Learn to be gentle and listen.

3 1, go to other people's homes, don't sit in their beds.

32. Touch glasses with others on the wine table. Your cup must be lower than the other person, especially if the other person is an elder or leader. When toasting, stand up and show respect.

33. Take an umbrella and dry food on sunny days-it's always good to plan ahead.

34. If you ask others, they won't answer you. Don't keep asking.

Try not to make any noise when eating.

36. Squat down when carrying things or putting on shoes, and don't bend over and pout-especially girls.

When someone criticizes you, even if he is wrong, don't refute it first, and then explain it when everyone calms down-be generous. '

38. Enough is enough, whether it is eating your favorite food or losing your temper.

39. After dinner at a friend's house, take the initiative to help wash the dishes and clean the table-the host has been cooking very hard and can't let the host clean up afterwards.

You will meet all kinds of people in your life. You can't get along well with everyone, but one thing is universal: how you treat others, others will treat you.

4 1, big hospitality, small housekeeping.

42. Take back your fist in order to fight back more forcefully.

43. To live in this world, we must first learn the word "forbearance".

Don't tell anyone your secret easily at any time.

45. Money is not saved, but spent to earn.

There is no end to learning, not only to learn books, but also to learn how to treat people. This society is far more complicated than you think.

47. Don't discuss the right and wrong of your boss or other colleagues with your colleagues. Your careless words are likely to be evidence that others attacked you.

48. It is your duty to do things well, and it is your dereliction of duty to do things badly.

49, only the wrong buy, not the wrong sell. Don't just be greedy and cheap.

50. Sometimes loneliness is normal. Don't be afraid. You should adjust yourself.

5 1. I have real friends, but I wonder if you are lucky enough to meet them. Don't deny it whether you meet it or not. Don't calculate others, especially the person you like. Don't use means to get the person you like.

52. The bravest thing is to know the truth of life and love it. Don't be afraid of cheating, but you should know that there are cheating in the world.

53. When borrowing money, you must have a bottom in mind, that is, you must think that the money will not come back. Therefore, the money you lend should always be within the range of losses you can bear. Within the tolerable amount, even if I can't come back, I am prepared. You can't borrow the amount you can't afford to lose.

Between the best friends, unless he is too poor to eat, it is best not to have economic exchanges. Many valuable friendships have been destroyed by money.

55. A gentleman can refer to things, but he should not pay attention to things.

56. Be patient when you go out, and take a step back.

57. Wipe the table in your own direction.

58. The first sentence when making a phone call and answering the phone must be hello; When you hang up, if the other person is an elder or your boss, wait until the other person hangs up. If you are an elder or your own boss, hang up first and don't keep the other party waiting.

59. A hundred infidelities are not allowed.

60. Don't spit and throw things everywhere. If there is no trash can, take it home and throw it in the trash can.

6 1, reading more books is good for the soul, and you will see a wider world.

62. It is you who adapt to the society, not the society adapts to you.

Don't let others know what you really think, laugh in front of others and cry alone.

Don't put your hands in your pockets when you walk.

65. Simple things are complicated to do, and complicated things are simple to do.

66. Opportunities are only reserved for those who are prepared, and nothing will fall in the sky.

67. Brush your teeth carefully under any circumstances, especially at night.

68. Be sure to have breakfast in the morning and drink a glass of water without breakfast.

69. Talk less about other people's right and wrong and mind your own business.

You are priceless.

7 1. Girls and boys have to pay for going out.

72. Be responsible for your actions, don't blame others, think about whether you should do it before you do it, and learn to solve problems yourself.

73. If you want to get ahead in front of others, you must suffer in front of others.

74. If it is a spring door, whether it is pulling or pushing, please go out first and then enter. If someone is behind you, you should take the initiative to hold the door to prevent it from bouncing back and photographing others. Be sure to say thank you when others open the door for themselves.

Politeness should be for everyone, whether it's the boss, the elders, the waiter in the restaurant, or the old man picking up garbage on the roadside.

76. Don't cut in line. All you get is a few seconds of waiting. But what you lose is others' affirmation of your quality. If it is really urgent, explain the situation to the person in front of you. At this time, most people will take the initiative to let you stand first )

77. Don't pursue the last laugh, but see who laughs last.

78. Fill up the wine and pour half the tea. In China, wine should be poured to show respect. In foreign countries, or for foreign guests, especially red wine, no matter who arrives, it must be less than half or a third of a glass.

79. When you come back from a friend's house in the evening, be sure to tell your friend that you are at home. No matter what others do, it is polite. If a friend comes home at night, send a text message to ask him if he is home.

80. Come back from the outside. If you cook a hot meal at home, you can't eat it right away. You should get used to this temperature. It is best to drink warm water to warm your teeth. I heard that this can prevent toothache and premature tooth loss.

8 1, dinner, every time a dish is served, let the leaders and elders move chopsticks first, or take the initiative to turn over the dishes in front of them.

82. When others are sleeping, try to lower the volume of walking, doing things or talking.

The economy is good, but don't be stingy.

84. Reach out and don't smile.

Don't haggle over unimportant trifles. Let bygones be bygones.

Please keep your distance from others when you speak, and don't cling to others.

When you speak, always use honorifics such as "you" and "I'm sorry", use words such as "I'm sorry" and "OK" and "What do you think".

88. Don't interrupt when others are talking. After listening to other people's opinions, even if you disagree, you should nod your head gently to show your respect.

89. In public, the ringtone and message prompt of mobile phone should be soft, preferably vibrating. When talking on the phone, don't raise your voice and dance happily, which will destroy the peace around you and make others pay attention to you. That's rude.

90. While chatting with everyone, the phone rang. I want to tell you: sorry, you talk first, I'll take a call.

9 1, go out to visit others. When the host sees you off, be sure to say: Please stay, there is no need to see you off.

92. When the first person enters the elevator, press the button and wait for the person behind to come in. When you come out, if you are a junior or a junior, if the time is not too urgent, just wait until someone else goes out.

93. When someone gives you something that she cherishes or is expensive, it's best not to accept it. A hedge between keeps friendship green. Sometimes, material things can destroy precious friendships.

94. Apologize when others ask you for help and you can't help, and then try to make up for it. For example, "check online. There may be ... ",don't refuse others with a" no "stiffly, which will make you look particularly cold and arrogant.

95. When you clip a dish, if someone else clips it first, the dish you want to clip is on the other side of someone else's hand. You should wait for someone else to clip it first, instead of passing through it from below or above.

96. When men and women walk together (on the right), let the girls walk on the right, because the right is safer.

97. When taking a taxi, if you stop the car yourself, you can't grab the back seat.