The process of marriage custom

In ancient China, there was a saying of "Six Rites", and now some areas also have this custom. Six gifts are receiving gifts, asking names, receiving gifts, collecting taxes, inviting dates and welcoming guests. In fact, the wedding customs agreed by people in various regions are not completely restricted by these six kinds of gifts. It simplifies the process of blind date and engagement, such as the date of invitation (wedding date agreement) merged into Najib (gift engagement). But more attention is paid to the ritual process of tying the knot (the bride and groom drink a glass of wine), making trouble in the bridal chamber and "returning to the door" after marriage.

In ancient times, the basic steps for men to post posts were as follows: after a man obtained a woman's birthday through a matchmaker, he put it in a place with divination significance at home, such as under an incense burner or in front of an idol, for three days. If everyone in the family is safe in these three days, it means that this marriage has been approved by God and the divination is successful. If an accident happens in these three days, even if a bowl is broken, the birthday table will be returned to the woman, and the marriage will not succeed. In some places, after getting the woman's constellation, please ask the fortune teller to compare it. If the horoscopes of the man and the woman match, the marriage is concluded. Modern people often use the second one, especially when parents are dating their children. Wait until the eight characters have passed before the man posts. Write the names and birthdays of both men and women side by side on red paper and send them to the woman's home. When the woman accepted the position, she agreed to the marriage. The purpose of posting with eight characters is to "ask God's will" and show the concept of "marriage is predestined".

At the wedding stage, the dowry prepared by the woman is mostly pairs of bedding, clothes, cabinets and so on. On the wedding day and the morning before the wedding, the bride and groom should "climb to the top" in their respective homes, that is, choose lucky old people to comb their hair and say some auspicious words at the same time.

The bride also needs to open her face, that is, trim her eyebrows. In Hui 'an area, the old man who combs his hair will hold a boy's hand and comb the groom's head three times with a comb and a lice grate, saying, "Use a wooden comb three times and a lice grate three times, and a large group of children and grandchildren will be born."

The toilet in the new house will drown a boy on the wedding day. Sprinkle auspicious fruits such as red dates, peanuts, longan and lotus seeds on the new bed to represent the good wish of "having a baby early".

The groom leads the sedan chair to the man's house. In some places, the custom is that the mother-in-law pulls her daughter-in-law across the road paved with sacks in the yard, and the sacks behind her are constantly spread to the front and trampled. It's called seed transmission. (to be). Some people have to cross the brazier to avoid evil spirits.

When couples worship the church, the host family recites greetings loudly, and in some places they eat children's cakes and soup.