Gender psychology: making unspeakable love.

There is a kind of vomit, I have listened to it for many years, and some women and men have come to me to vomit.

But the theme is the same: how did he/she change so much before and after marriage?

Men are smelly, lazy, greedy, women are unreasonable, picky, gossiping, and always cry … What kind of life is this? If you ask me, let's not argue with each other, let's reflect on each other.

After marriage, the world became crowded, and there was a lot of excitement between daily necessities.

Some marriages squeeze two people's lives into a lonely dead end. There is no temperature, no response, the years are barren and love is murdered.

There is a joke on the internet, which must have been invented by a boy, saying that you caught a fish, why did you throw bait?

Every girl yearns for the romantic love between the prince and the princess, but after marriage, the relationship between them has changed from the expected relationship in the previous love to the legally recognized stable relationship.

So the psychology will become, you are already my wife and relative, so you don't have to be so deliberate to maintain it.

In other words, starting from the heart is a stable relationship, ignoring reinvestment.

So many men think that the purpose of our first meeting is to get married. Now that we have achieved it, I should go out to play with my friends and play games when it is time to play games.

I'm still the same person.

Before marriage, a woman was a princess. After marriage, some women became queens, some women became men's treasures, and some women became men's maids.

Different results depend on women's different psychology after marriage, and also on how men cope with women's psychological changes before and after marriage.

Inferiority after marriage and pre-marital self-esteem psychology

Although in modern society, men and women are more and more equal, there are still many places that reflect the inequality between men and women, especially in China, where wives are more expensive than husbands and mothers are more expensive than children. Because of their economic and social status, women are more likely to feel inferior. Moreover, before marriage, a woman is an independent personality, but after marriage, she relies on Yu Xiansheng, which makes her feel inferior to her husband.

We suggest that husbands should understand and respect their wives more, and let them establish or preserve their self-esteem psychology.

For example, when she is busy with housework, you can accompany her to do housework, and your wife can say thank you when she pours you tea and water, so that your wife can feel that you respect her, and she is your wife, not a domestic nanny.

Love is an interaction between the two sexes, and it is definitely not a one-man show.

Therefore, for everyone, we must understand each other.

For us, partners are both partners and rivals.

Sun Tzu's Art of War says: Know yourself and know yourself, and you will win every battle.

Therefore, in love, in addition to understanding yourself, we must understand each other.

Of course, the reason to understand is because men are really different animals from women.

This difference is a physiological difference. Women are weak, have a physiological period and bear the risk of childbirth.

Men, by nature, are better than women.

This difference is psychological, because women are physically weak, so weak psychology is born.

While men have male chauvinism.

This difference is the difference of thinking mode.

Women are divergent thinking, men are unitary thinking.

Of course, because of these differences, men and women have different views on love and sex.

We have forgotten why we were together in the first place, what attracted each other the most when we met for the first time, and how much we loathed each other.

Many people, without exception, lost all their original feelings and were gradually overwhelmed by trivial matters of life.

Unfortunately, this is also caused by the passage of time and our deeper understanding of each other. Finally, it evolved into "You don't ask, he won't tell."

It is said that silence is golden, but too much silence will turn marriage into a stagnant pool.

Without sincere communication, my heart is lonely every day.

Marriage is an opponent's game. One screamed desperately and the other pretended to be deaf and dumb, which became a farce. Outsiders laugh, and the people in the play are isolated.

Your gentle husband has become a man who grinds his teeth at home, and his diligent and clean wife has become a little lazy who can't afford to stay in bed.

Therefore, both husband and wife should be prepared to accept their true selves.

Analysis: Why are other people's wives good?

Psychological saturation

Couples who have been married for a long time will have the psychology of "staying in the orchid house for a long time without smelling its fragrance", which is a psychological saturation factor.

Accustomed to the advantages of his wife.

For example, braised pork tastes good, but if you eat it every day, I believe you will get tired of it and even turn off your appetite in the end.

This kind of psychological feeling makes it difficult for you to feel the beauty of stone every day.

Every couple is bound by love. Before you get married, you must think that your wife is the cutest person in the world, better than anyone else, so mobilize all your wisdom to pursue it.

It is only a psychological illusion to think that a wife is not as good as a person after marriage.

The birth of the marriage system is actually a symbol of civilization and evolution.

Marriage is a kind of restraint and bondage. Marriage binds men to be responsible for women, to have the responsibility of enriching and educating children, and marriage binds men and women not to have sexual relations.

How to prove that a man really loves you?

Just give up other temptations and opportunities for you and your feelings.

Create unspeakable love, give marriage an antidote with companionship and understanding, and never let the poison of loneliness go deep into marriage and make those who love you despair!

There are thousands of unhappy marriages, and there is only one kind of happy marriage, that is, with you, I am no longer lonely.

Thousands of days have passed, and I still can't get tired of seeing you. I still can't get tired of reading you after a thousand words. Two hearts together, no matter how difficult, can remain happy.

About the author: Mr. Xian Hong

National second-level psychological counselor, Tarot soothsayer, planetary energy healer, freelance writer and trainer.

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