Mongolian proverb: Ask more expensive, ask less cheap. What does this sentence mean?

Every region has its own version. In Mongolia, there is a saying that asking more is expensive and asking less is cheap. Literally, this sentence means that if you ask for more, you will be respected by others, and if you ask for less, you will be looked down upon by others. How did this sentence come from? What does this mean? In fact, this is a sentence triggered by a Mongolian custom. Let me explain this custom to you better.

Before young men and women get engaged, the man wants to propose to the woman. According to the traditional Mongolian marriage custom, the man has to ask for relatives from the woman's house many times before he can get her consent. It is recorded in the first volume of the Secret History of Mongolia that Artu should lead his son Temujin (Genghis Khan) to visit relatives and friends at Dexue Zen House as soon as possible. De Xuechan said: "If you give it several times more, you will get respect;" If you give it a few times, you will be looked down upon. " Later, a Mongolian proverb was formed: "Ask more expensive, ask less cheap. "

If a Mongolian boy has a crush on a girl, before getting engaged, he should ask the matchmaker to bring a white towel with items such as sugar, tea and glue, which symbolize harmony, sweetness and exuberance. If the woman accepts, the marriage can proceed. Later, the man's parents and I will propose marriage with gifts such as Hada, milk wine and candy. It usually takes several times to get engaged. After the woman accepts the wedding, the man will give her three glasses of wine. If the woman accepts and drinks three glasses of wine, the marriage is settled.

Near the wedding day, the man will give the woman a gift, usually a whole sheep, wine, tea and hada. The woman warmly entertained the giver, and both sides raised their glasses, recited auspicious sentences and celebrated songs. The wedding date is chosen by the man. On the same day, the girl was sent to the groom's house by her parents and references. The groom's family prepares wine and meat to entertain.

Then, the bride and groom held a drinking ceremony. Put a bowl of wine in front of everyone, put ghee on the edge of the bowl, take a sip and then propose a toast. After the bride and groom finish drinking, they will also entertain the introducer and all the guests. Then the guests from both sides and relatives and friends who came to congratulate kept drinking, singing and dancing until they stayed up all night.