With these four ideas, don't try to become rich!

Hua Lin is a famous fortune teller in Japan, and people who queue up for an appointment will have to wait until three years later. But the fortune teller's story is not so much metaphysics as seeing people's thoughts. From the long-term experience of divination, Hua Lin saw that many people suffered misfortune, which was always attributed to bad luck, but actually caused by their own subjective weakness. So in addition to divination, it is more important for her to change the way the other person looks at things. "Let go of subjective thoughts, know yourself and change your mind. These three steps can make all your current misfortunes the starting point of happiness. 」

On the issue of divination, besides feelings and work, another big thing is "money luck". Hua Lin emphasized that whether you are lamenting that you have no money or envious of other people's lives, you are actually looking at yourself from a secular perspective, not knowing yourself, only seeing differences, so you always feel unfortunate and pitiful. Hua Lin used money to observe those unfortunate guests. Many people have the following four ideas, and it is these ideas that bind money and make it impossible for them to become rich all their lives!

1. I don't have a rich father or wealth.

I have no money since I was a child, I have no money to go to a good school, and I can't get into a first-class company with poor academic qualifications, so my current job salary is very small, just enough to make ends meet. I've always wanted to earn more money, but there's always no way. I think I was born without wealth.

Hua Lin stressed that in fact, the fundamental reason for your lack of money is that "you are completely trapped by the subjective ideas of' if only you had money' and' everything is your parents' fault'".

Thinking about "I wish you had money" all day will feel that "you have to have money before you can do important things", but for example, is it really because there is no money at home that you can't go to college? In this world, there are many people who earn their tuition by hard work, and there are also many people who enter first-class enterprises by hard work. Family background has nothing to do with whether you can fulfill your dream. In addition, "everything is my parents' fault" will turn into anger that "the world is unfair", which will make people lose motivation and stop working hard, and will also become an excuse for laziness. "Anyway, my family has no money, and it's no use trying. "Just shouting that your salary is very low and you are poor is the root cause of getting yourself into a serious money dilemma.

"Wealth comes from my own calling, and money can't flow to people without goals," Hua Lin stressed. The first thing to become rich is to seriously ask yourself, "Do I have a goal in life now? When a person begins to think, "I want to realize my dream, I need the funds to realize my dream!" "When you are at work, you will work hard, meet different friends and cultivate contacts in the process of work, and wealth will naturally come.

If you still don't believe, such as Hua Lin, suppose your beloved person will die if he doesn't have heart surgery, but the surgery must prepare 6.5438+0 million yuan. Do you think you will still have time to complain every day "I feel that I was born with no good fortune"? You must have tried every means and effort to raise money. "As long as you run forward, money will follow you! 」

I won't fight for the reward.

I am not satisfied with my own efforts and returns, but I don't know how to fight with each other. As a result, I am half tired, but I always earn less than others. What can I do to become stronger?

Hua Lin said, "This is because you feel guilty about money. Maybe when I was a child, adults would say that "it's no good to be too obsessed with money" and "people who are full of money are the worst", and even my friends in my school days would say "you are so stingy with money! "... these will make people feel guilty.

"Money is actually our partner," Hua Lin said. Some people will say that luxury goods are enemies, but no one will say that money is enemies. Without money, you can't buy anything and you can't survive. Therefore, you must let go of your guilt about money, have confidence in the results of your work, and believe that "it is natural to get paid for your work."

If you still have ideological obstacles to actively strive for, Hua Lin suggests that the first thing you should do is to "find and have your own core goals before you can talk generously about money." For example, if you stand up and raise money for charity today, you will definitely call for "please donate more" without hesitation, because with a firm core goal, you can talk about money without fear.

So you should also find out your core goal, which is filial piety to your parents, or starting a company and starting a business in the future. You can get rid of the guilt of talking about money by setting your own goals and letting others agree with your goals. And seriously tell yourself that it doesn't matter if you are thought to love money by others, you can move towards your goal. Of course, if you get the ideal return, don't forget to thank each other sincerely.

I'm not very good at refusing my relatives and friends to borrow money.

Relatives or boyfriends will borrow money from me, but they often don't come back after borrowing it. Every time they ask the other party to pay back the money, the other party ignores him and even becomes angry from embarrassment. "Talking about money is so annoying! Friends also said they shouldn't borrow money, but shouldn't they help relatives and friends?

Hua Lin said that not refusing is not because you are slow-witted or thin-skinned, but actually because you don't want to be hated. This is your greatest weakness. Lending money to the other party because you don't want to be hated is actually the idea of "since I lent you money, you must like me" In other words, you made an exchange with each other by borrowing money, which is especially obvious in lovers.

But in fact, the other party usually sees this clearly before borrowing money from you. Even after showing gratitude and love to you, I feel that "since I have given you happiness after receiving the money, I don't owe you anything", which means "I will definitely pay you back", but I don't really do anything about it.

Hua Lin pointed out that when someone borrows money from him, the best way to deal with it is to "carefully ask the reason for borrowing money, and if it is really lent, treat it as if the money is for the other party." For example, if someone borrows 30,000 yuan from you, you should first ask the purpose of the money. If the other party says it will be used for gambling, the reason for borrowing money is unacceptable to you, so you must flatly refuse. Some people "make friends with money". It is also a good thing for people who don't need to be friends if they have no money.

If the reason why the other party borrows money is acceptable to you, when the other party says to borrow 30,000 yuan, borrow 1 10,000 yuan, which will not refuse the other party, but also dilute some feelings of "being kind to others"; The most important thing is to forget the money and move on with your life. Don't think about "what will you do if I lend you money", and don't think about "I still lend you money, but you …", and then treat the other person as a benefactor. Hua Lin said that the money will automatically circulate, and the money may or may not come back in some form. Wrong is tuition, and move forward smartly!

4. It's good to have enough. Why try to make money?

I have no material desires, no diet, nothing special to do, no colorful social life, and I don't want to get married. In other words, I don't need much money. Even if my parents want me to work hard, I don't know why.

"It is true that work is to make money, but the real purpose of work is to broaden social knowledge," Hua Lin said. "And although you say that you don't have any desire and you don't need money, that's because many of your expenses are actually supported by your parents, right? When you still live at home, gas, water, electricity, meals ... a lot of living expenses are actually borne by your parents, so you will have the illusion that "I don't need much money in my life", but your parents will not be with your children forever. Once you are at home, how can you live?

More importantly, you don't want to do anything special because you haven't met anything that really makes you want to do. Work will make people find things they like or self-goals. Of course, work will not always be pleasant, but when you meet different people and things, it will also bring you possibilities that you don't know. Maybe you didn't know the benefits of doing this at first, but by actively participating in various affairs, you will certainly gain something, such as becoming friends or even interacting with people coming and going, or finding partners and nobles to do business with. So just go out, because money and energy are constantly circulating, and you can't make money without spending money. "What you need most now is the courage to go forward! Share it and let more people see it!

Original source: Apollo network