What would you do if you had a "mistress" relationship?

If you like a person who is not single, what will you do?

What would you do if you fell in love with the person you like?

What would you do if you fell in love with someone with a family?

Hearing these three questions, many people will think deeply because they follow the questions; There are also many people who laugh because there is no such assumption in their dictionary. Which one are you?

The reason for asking this question is mainly because I read a book "A Man's Pilgrimage" by the famous British writer Rachel Joyce last week. At first, I was attracted by the name of this book, and only after I opened it did I know that I had the second one-Queenie's love song. In the book, Queenie fell in love with Harold, a man with a family, but she never told him what she loved him to his face until she died. She devoted herself to this love in secret all her life (of course, this is also a part of this book, which is more about expressing Harold's courage to go out and be redeemed by himself). This book is not only vivid in story, but also beautiful in language. The following are the original words in the book.

"Sometimes we refuse people who tell the truth, not because they are wrong. Because we can't listen. "

"These are worth remembering. A rising smile. Put on your shoes. A scattered sunshine. "

The book is about a woman who has cancer. Writing a confession letter from a man she loves but can't is also a last word and confession. Queenie got news from her beloved Harold Frye in the sanatorium that he was going to walk across England to see her, so the whole sanatorium accompanied Queenie Hennessy to wait for the arrival of this gentleman, which gave them a little expectation at the end of their lives. Queenie struggled with the disease and tried his best to write this long letter.

From every chapter of this letter, we can know that the learned Queenie met the kind and gentle Harold and was deeply attracted by him. However, Harold is a man with a family, and Queenie dare not love him beyond humility. When we get along, we ask more questions and feel that we know too little about him. For him, we endured all kinds of grievances, took the blame for him and built a sea garden for him. She once wanted to go to Harold's side, but when she saw the pain of her wife and their dead children, she kept this secret until the last moment of her life, instead of expressing her feelings in person, she blessed them.

Reading this book, I feel the fullness and loneliness of a lady's silent love. She works hard, she is humble, and she is great. Her dedication, her silence and her experience moved me, but I still don't agree with this concept. Although she knows that her feelings should not come, and even feels guilty, how can she hide her love for someone? A look, a word and an action can be exposed. She let this feeling grow. She thought she hid it well, and finally she knew it was an open secret.

Similarly, it reminds me of the movie released some time ago: ex-3, many people cried after watching Ex-3, missed the original beauty, all kinds of regrets and so on. For those who have no predecessors, I watched the clips of Weibo and felt sorry for their stories. After all, many times we are unscrupulous, we don't know how to cherish what we have, and we don't know what we have until we lose it.

I can't let go of my ex in my feelings. How can I live a good life now? How can it be harmless to let go of feelings that should not grow? Now that we know it's ex, we should put it down and never go back. Since we know that we shouldn't have feelings, we should erase them in the bud. Personally, I think this is a respect for myself.