Jinhua's Marriage Customs

On blind date, it is the custom for women to treat each other like eggs in Jinhua, Zhejiang. If she agrees, treat her with boiled eggs, which means reunion. Instead, let them eat poached eggs. Young people can eat a pair of boiled eggs if they like. If you don't like it, you can skip it. After the two families agreed, they posted the name, birthplace, three generations, title and official position of each book and exchanged them with each other. When the interview is true, the man's family will send the Niangeng sticker to the woman's family during the date, also called the eight-character sticker, to get back the other person's Niangeng, which was called renaming in ancient times and Longfeng sticker in modern times. Then, if there is no conflict, the age will be predicted before the ancestor's throne or date of birth is reported to the fortune teller for calculation.

Both parties agree to get married, that is, engagement, commonly known as engagement. Betrothal is called betrothal gift, also called betrothal gift, and there are local customs. In ancient times, leather and silk items were used as betrothal gifts, and it was not until the Han Dynasty that betrothal money was used. Future generations have everything, depending on the family situation. Engaged men and women are regarded as husband and wife, and others are not allowed to visit relatives.

During the period from engagement to marriage, both parties should give gifts to each other on holidays. The wedding ceremony is decided by the fortune teller according to the horoscope.

One or two days before the wedding, the man will give the woman a gift for a banquet. When the woman receives the gift, she will get something in return. At this time, relatives and friends of both sides will give him gifts, mostly money, wine, happiness and music. Gifts to the woman are mainly material, mostly clothes, utensils and cosmetics, which are called wedding gifts.

The day before the wedding, commonly known as dowry. On this day, the bride's family put the dowry in the yard for people to visit, which is called dowry. Dowry depends on financial resources, and silk quilts are essential items for pillows, boxes, cabinets, tables, barrels, basins and dressing tables. In the old society, rich families prepared all the daily necessities to show off, and some even paid for all the materials needed for life and production. Dog sticks are also included in the dowry. Toilet is indispensable in dowry, commonly known as children's bucket. The bucket is full of red eggs, which is a joy for the fruit, which means giving up the child. The amount of makeup given ranges from the rich to the poor, with the rich as high as 100.

In the old days, when getting married, eight people carried the sedan chair and four people carried it. The sedan chair arrived at the door of the woman's house, and the woman closed the door in Nanyang, Henan Province. The man fired a gun and played music to show his announcement. The folk song sings: "Blow three times, hit three times, and blow the in-laws to open the door." Before the girl gets on the sedan chair, she should twist off her hair with cotton wool, weigh her face, take a shower and dress up, commonly known as dressing up as a sedan chair.

Before getting on the sedan chair, the bride should say goodbye to her ancestors and bow down to her parents. When getting on the sedan chair, the bride's brother usually holds her or carries the bride on the sedan chair. When leaving, there is a custom of crying and marrying. The bride's parents, brothers and sisters should send each other in tears, and say some auspicious words while crying, thinking that the more they cry, the more children and grandchildren they will have. When the bride hears her mother's cry, she can respond with tears and express her feelings of parting.

When going to a man's house, like in northern China, the bride has to step over a saddle and then bite an apple to show her peace.

Kneel three times and knock nine times to pay homage. First, we should worship heaven and earth, our ancestors, and then our parents. Later, husband and wife would worship each other, commonly known as the Heaven and Earth Society. After the worship, you should send the bride to the bridal chamber, but her feet can't step on the ground. You have to spread the floor with sacks, mats, futons and the like, spread it while walking, and take over from front to back. This is called bag passing, which is subculture.