How do you judge whether a person is lying? What psychological skills can you share?

Researchers often divide lies into two categories, one is low-risk lies, even if they are exposed, it will not bring great influence, so people have less psychological pressure when telling such lies. Such a lie, almost every one of us is saying, "I went to bed early yesterday and didn't receive your WeChat" or "You look good in this dress, just tailored for you" is a low-risk lie.

In contrast, another kind of lie is a high-risk lie, and not many people will tell such a lie. Lies such as "I never loved him" and "She was my first girlfriend" are all high-risk lies.

Even if it is not easy to accurately identify lies, it does not mean that we are powerless. No matter how powerful a liar is, he is different from an honest man in some details. To find these subtle differences, you need to find some tiny signs.

The first kind of signs are physiological manifestations, which are usually reflected in posture and facial expressions. The secret of finding these signs is that you should see more, not listen more. Let's give an example one by one—

1. The fun of cheating

Regarding the judgment of lies, people usually think that micro-expressions are evidence to identify lies, but this is a common misunderstanding. Micro-expressions are short-lived and fleeting facial expressions, which can expose deliberately hidden emotions.

However, it is worth noting that restraining an emotion does not necessarily mean a lie-you may pretend to be calm in an embarrassing situation, you may put on a poker face to hide your shocked emotions, or you may suppress your anger in front of the leader-which is not strictly a lie.

But when you are experiencing a true lie, you may see a specific micro-expression produced by the liar, a smile expecting to cheat successfully, or fidgeting with excitement-these are all called "the pleasure of cheating". When a liar thinks he can get away with fooling others, he will have a happy mood and then produce such an expression.

So next time, if you feel that you have heard a lie, you might as well pay attention to the speaker's last expression, and there may be a half-hidden smile.

Hate staring.

Another sign is a liar's disgusted stare, or a break in eye contact.

Most liars actually know that lying is wrong, so when they lie in front of others, they will reduce their guilt by reducing eye contact. Moreover, lying usually consumes a lot of cognitive and emotional energy, and controlling eye contact during lying will increase the burden on the liar, so he or she will usually look away when lying.

3. Inconsistent operation

Be careful when a person feels that he has told a perfect lie. Maybe his body language has betrayed him at this time.

Suppose someone asks a person if he can finish his work on time, and he says, "Don't worry! It will definitely be completed on time! " Powerful words are accompanied by shrugs; Or if a person answers "Yes, no problem" but shakes his head, you have reason to suspect that you have just heard a lie.

The second sign comes from language expression. Once your eyes tell you from the judgment of the first sign that doubt is a lie, it's your ear's turn to play.

4. Chronological stories

When telling a complicated lie from students to teachers to suspects to public security organs, swindlers usually need to rehearse their own stories in advance, and these stories usually deviate from logical facts from beginning to end.

Want to try how to expose a lie? If you feel that you have heard a mysterious story, you might as well break the chronological order and ask the narrator some questions, such as "So what happened before that wonderful flash when you just saw it?" Not surprisingly, you can see the sad expression of the liar.

5. Excessive accumulation of language

A liar often tells a long story that could have been described in a few words, or he often uses more formal language when telling it.

You can compare these two sentences: "In view of the present situation, I can definitely say that I have never taken your lunch from the office refrigerator" and "I have never taken your lunch."

6. the way to address someone

People who tell the truth have something in their words, while liars often use impersonal names. They said "that woman" instead of "Ms. Wang"; Liars avoid saying "I". They said "nobody rummaged in the refrigerator here" instead of "I didn't rummage in the refrigerator".

After reading the clues revealed by the liar mentioned above, do you have a deeper understanding of judging whether a person is lying?

However, it should be noted that nothing is absolute. These signs may point to lies, but other emotional or cognitive factors cannot be ruled out. I hope these methods of judging lies can help you distinguish some obvious lying behaviors.

But in daily life, it is more important for good friends or lovers to communicate sincerely with their families. After all, only sincere communication can make us forget our lies, bridge our differences and have a closer and safer relationship, right?

How do you judge whether a person is lying? What psychological skills can you share?

First of all, you should distinguish between people you are familiar with and people you are not familiar with.

First, familiar people. When Ta first lied to you, Ta would have some psychological or emotional fluctuations. With a little observation, you can still see the clue. Some people are deceived by familiar people because you trust Ta or don't think too much about its abnormal performance.

Second, unfamiliar people. If you will be deceived by an unfamiliar person, it means that your mind is not mature enough and your vigilance is not high enough. For example, telecom fraud cases that happen every day now, why do criminal suspects succeed one after another? For people you don't know at all, you can cheat money away by chatting online. What does this mean? It means you really need to grow up.

Secondly, what psychological anti-fraud skills are there?

First, people can best reflect their psychological state in communication, and reflect their inner thoughts through words, facial micro-expressions and body language.

In the process of communication, we should not only listen to what he says, but also observe what he does. For example, during your conversation, Ta doesn't dare to look you in the eye, deliberately avoiding your eyes, or when he meets key questions, he will be vague, unanimous or inconsistent, and when you ask questions, Ta will become angry from embarrassment. These are all manifestations of lying. Once the above-mentioned abnormal situation occurs in Ta, you should think more, and then comprehensively judge whether Ta is lying through your own reasoning and other people's understanding.

Second, please remember the simplest truth: pies don't fall in the sky for no reason. As long as you don't covet petty advantages and be vigilant, then no matter how advanced online scammers are, there is nowhere to display them!

1. Eyes suddenly widened.

If a person lies, if you stare into his eyes, you will find that he is deliberately hiding himself, and his eyes will open wider. Because he wants to protect himself by this means, open his eyes to give himself courage and attract people's attention to the direction he wants.

Bite or lick your lips.

If a person lies, he needs to keep looking for reasons. At this time, his brain will turn very fast, but his lips can't keep up. And because he has to say more words to cover it up, his lips are dry and his speech will stutter or slow down. When the pressure is high, people's nervous system autonomy is relatively poor. If you give him water at this time, his performance is to drink more water.

3. There are many small moves. If a person is uneasy about gestures or keeps fiddling with small things, he may be lying and trying to hide something. If a person restricts his actions, he will try to stay still.

Pointing at each other with your finger is a kind of self-protection. If a person talks like this, it is obviously imitating an aggressive action. Because it's to protect yourself.

When the shoulders are straight, the chin will be raised. If a person shoulders straight or shrugs, this person's heart must not be what he expresses. If you put your chin up, well, then the situation of this person lying is more certain.

6. The voice will suddenly change, because you are not confident, so it is easy to cause a big tone fluctuation when you speak, or suddenly stop talking.

In any case, every clever liar has flaws, which depends on your observation. Most people think that eyes are a good starting point because they look to the right when lying, which is a basis. In fact, when cheaters look at you, their attention is too concentrated, their eyes start to dry and blink more times, which is a fatal information leak.

Most people, when the brain is "constructing" a sound or image (in other words, if they are lying), their eye movement direction is the upper right. If people try to remember what happened, they will look to the left. This kind of "eye movement" is a reflex action, and you can't pretend not to come unless you undergo strict training.

Sometimes the voice is louder, and the pitch rises when lying because the liar is trying to cover up his fragile heart.

In addition, liars always touch themselves. The more people try to hide their inner feelings when they lie, the more they will be exposed because of the changes of various body movements.

Generally speaking, logic alone can't tell whether a master is lying or not, because those little moves are often undetected. Don't you stare at people's eyes every time you talk and watch them turn there?

You can stare into his eyes, and your eyes can betray each other.

No matter how clever a lie is, it can't escape the psychological reaction.

The expression of a liar will appear unnatural, because the tense facial muscles will appear stiff and the expression will not be much. When you lie, your eyes wander and you dare not look directly into each other's eyes. When lying, because it is a lie, the tone of speech will fluctuate obviously, or the sentence will not be smooth and you will speak hesitatingly. When some people lie, their speech speed will suddenly increase and their eyes will not blink, but they can clearly feel that they want to convince themselves that it is true, and you want to believe him, but inevitably you will find his body and facial expression stiff and unnatural. Some people lie badly. You can try to keep an eye on them. Those who are not skilled enough will still feel guilty and nervous. But such people usually habitually lie, and familiar people just ignore what they say and just listen.

When a person lies, no matter how he hides it, his body language will tell you that he is lying. First, liars usually speak casually and easily; However, when he tells a lie, he will feel constrained, his facial expression will be a little stiff, or his mouth will droop unnaturally. Second, the liar's eyes dare not look at each other, either looking far away or looking around. The liar's hand also has a bad performance, and I don't know how to do it. Third, no matter how the liar conceals himself and deliberately forbeares, he proves that he is lying because of his guilty conscience or trying to cover up the mystery. Fourthly, if a person with rich social experience tells a lie, it can be seen from his words and deeds that he is lying. Because what he said is the normal playing posture of ordinary people, which is contrary to his identity ... and so on, it can be proved that what he said is a lie in many ways.

It's simple: if you think the other person is lying, tell him a lie at this time! And add branches and leaves, if it happens, let the other person feel that you are telling a story intentionally or unintentionally. At this time, he was a little confused! Or smile awkwardly, or leave in a hurry, and never dare to lie in front of you again! This is called: deal with a man as he deals with you!

Other methods, such as psychology, are too complicated to work immediately. And our method comes from the wisdom of ancient people in China.

A liar is afraid in his heart and acts against morality.

It can be seen from several conveniences.

1. Speak incoherently.

2. Mental uncertainty.

3. Cover yourself.

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