A woman with high EQ breaks up, and a man with low EQ returns well.

As the saying goes, "save up enough disappointment and leave."

In this case, most breakups are caused by the lack of self-knowledge.

How many people will give each other a failing score when they are hurt or disappointed, and say to themselves at the same time:

Disappointed enough, just leave.

But after a few days, the pain passed, and I moved the passing line back.

All right, scar, forget the pain.

When a woman falls in love with a man, she always sticks to him and spends time pestering him.

Because feeling him around is a sense of security and the best feeling.

Companionship is the longest confession. A man loves a woman and will certainly accompany her.

In love, women don't pester men all day, and even men don't have time, so they feel that they have a good life alone.

In fact, a woman who has saved enough disappointment is such a performance. Maybe she won't say goodbye. She doesn't understand.

The girl lost her temper and broke up, but she couldn't let go, but she wasn't hurt, but she didn't despair. You are still there, and she still has you in her heart, so she can't forget it, trying again and again, hoping you can change.

A real breakup is a process of letting go, without effort, pain or even pain. When you are not in her heart, she doesn't have to let go, she will quietly turn away.

I believe many female friends are very troubled. When they quarreled, they broke up and divorced in a rage, and some men directly agreed.

Has he planned for a long time and wanted to break up long ago?

This possibility is not ruled out. Some men cheat or don't love each other. In order not to bear the stigma of disloyalty and make their conscience feel better, they will let women break up on their own initiative by quarreling in the cold war.

Men and women are different, even breaking up is so different.

Therefore, you will take it for granted that men will have this idea.

In fact, men and women have different ways of thinking and different brain circuits.

When in love, some wayward women like to ask again and again: Let's break up!

Sometimes women are impulsive, sometimes they are uncontrollable jealousy, sometimes they are disappointed and waiting for the phone to go unanswered, sometimes they are just a little careful, sometimes they are unreasonable pride, or they just expect to be retained by a man. I hope you can care about me again.

Yes, men should understand that women often say the wrong thing.

Give a common example:

A man invited a woman to dinner and asked her what she wanted to eat.

A woman can say anything.

After the man took the woman to a restaurant, the woman said it was not very good.

The man asked again: What do you want to eat or where do you want to go?

The woman replied, any one will do except this one.

Repeat this several times, the man was shocked!

Only women can play the trick of fake breakup, and a man's breakup is a real breakup.

Most break up. Do you think breaking up is a decision made by men in an instant?

Do you think it's these two days, this week or this month, because of one thing?

No one can guarantee that you won't get hurt after falling in love.

After all, Cupid shot an arrow, not a rose.

It's really heartless for boys to break up. It's like we've never been together, and nothing has happened. Girls will keep thinking and thinking.

Breaking up is never an instant decision. Every break-up is planned by men for a long time.

Either you don't know yourself or you don't know each other.

Men don't understand women's brain circuits just as they don't understand the darkness of day and night.

In short, there is always a Drake Strait between the brain circuits of women and straight men. (The widest strait in the world is known at present)

Let's look at such a scene:

In the middle of the night, a man quarreled with his girlfriend. He came to the bar angrily and drank the wine in his glass. He turned to ask one side of people:

Hey, man, what do you think women think all day?

The other man said without looking up, if I knew, I wouldn't drink with you here.

Have you ever heard of a joke?

What's the difference between terrorists and crazy women?

The answer is that you can at least negotiate with terrorists, and then they smile at each other.

At the same time, his girlfriend is calling her best friend and crying, saying that he has no idea what I want! !

How do boys with high emotional intelligence cope when their girlfriends break up?

Woman, it's terrible to be emotional.

In other words, she didn't even think about breaking up.

At that time, I inexplicably thought of breaking up.

Therefore, she did not hesitate to ask.

At this moment, if this boyfriend's EQ is high enough-what will he say?

I don't think he will blurt out: break up, break up.

I will not choose immediate persuasion and immediate comfort.

When girls break up, men must not be particularly perfunctory or indifferent. At this time, you should profoundly show your attention to this issue, let the girls see your efforts on this issue and have a serious talk with each other.

Those things in the brain circuit under popular science:

Many men think that women's mood changes faster than turning pages, which is actually related to the way women's brains work.

The blood flow velocity of female brain is higher than that of male, especially in prefrontal cortex and limbic system.

The prefrontal cortex is related to attention and impulse control, while the limbic system is related to emotion and anxiety, so women's emotions are more abundant.

Because of serotonin, women are easily kidnapped by emotions.

Usually when men and women quarrel, men's thinking is why we quarrel today, why we quarrel, how to solve problems and so on. , logic dominates;

The woman's thinking is that you don't coax me now, don't you love me, is there someone outside, and so on. Contrary to logic, emotions dominate, which is why men always feel that women are "on the line".

In fact, the way to increase serotonin is very simple, that is, eating sweets and dark chocolate. Next time your girlfriend is angry, you might as well buy her chocolate and candy.

One thinks he won't leave, the other thinks he will stay.

This sentence is a classic line in the movie Ex 3, but it accurately tells the reason why Meng Yun and Jia Lin broke up completely, and of course there are more lovers.

They also broke up because of trivial matters, but later they could not turn back because of repeated misunderstandings and self-righteousness of each other's stubborn personality.

I remember that in the movie Ex 3, Jia Lin packed her bags and left, which well showed all kinds of temptations of women (in the eyes of a big pig's hoof)

In love, a woman who wants to leave with great fanfare is just probing. If they really leave, there will be no farewell.

All grand farewells are temptations. On the day I really left, the door closed quietly. They say women break up. First, they want men to care about themselves. Second, they want to change men. Third, they are really disappointed, so they hesitate to give up.

Jia Lin packed his bags and appeared back and forth in badon min's field of vision, reluctant to go, and the other party didn't stay.

Badon min didn't want her to go at all, but she ignored it carefully and showed indifference.

But in the end, he didn't give Jia Lin steps, nor did he leave room for himself.

Later, Zi Wang, Meng Yun's little girlfriend, said that Meng Yun and Jia Lin were waiting for one party to let go first, but it wasn't. They are all waiting for each other to bow their heads first, but they are all calm and self-respecting, and no one will ask, so they choose to give up in many disappointments.

Girls are really simple emotionally. She knows better than anyone whether you are sincere or perfunctory to her.

Just because something hasn't been said doesn't mean she's not sad.

However, most boys often underestimate a girl's disappointment.

From strangers to friends, from friends to lovers, it is not easy. If both parties still love you deeply, you should stay. For women, what they want is very simple, that is, to have enough sense of security, to be sure that the other party always cares about themselves, to quarrel occasionally, to support this relationship, and to keep going hand in hand.

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