After you stop internal friction, your life will really last.

After you stop internal friction, your life is really dead.

Cognition determines thinking, and thinking determines behavior.

1. Stop regretting

The past is the past and cannot be changed. There are always a lot of "if I can be more prepared ..." and "if I don't make such a small mistake ..." Repeated remorse leads to endless mental internal friction.

Life is only a few decades, and it is inevitable to leave regrets. A moment's reflection can optimize past problems, but frequent and long-term looking back will only make you stumble. Always believe that there is no road in life in vain. What you lost yesterday will be compensated to you in another way. It is better to let go than to cling to the past. We can't change the regrets of the past, but we can decide whether we will leave regrets in the future.

2. Stop pursuing perfection. There are often two kinds of people around us. One is perfectionism, which sets high standards and demands on itself and strives for perfection in everything; The other is perfectionism that demands a lot of others, is strict with others and does not allow others to make any mistakes.

Either way, excessive perfectionism will lead to a very tired life, because the world can't be as you wish. Without great achievements, using them will not be harmful. "Perfect things are lacking, and defective things are truly perfect. Instead of being exhausted on the road of demanding perfection from yourself and others, it is better to relax and leave a little gap in life. Life may not be perfect, but it can be complete.

Don't think too much. As the saying goes, "whoever has a heart is tired, whoever has no heart doesn't care." Sometimes the process of life is to let go of yourself. Don't think about the past, too much consideration is tantamount to worrying about the past, and you are looking for trouble for yourself.

Only by looking at the world with a pure heart can we enjoy the rare peace in troubled times.

4. Stop living in other people's eyes. Schopenhauer has a saying, "The most special weakness of human nature is to care about what others think of you." Too much unhappiness comes from caring too much about the eyes of the outside world. We should understand that, in the final analysis, life is for ourselves. 99% of what happens to us has nothing to do with the outside world. What we really need to care about is our inner needs and leave time and focus to ourselves. Deeply cultivating yourself is the best way to break the circle.

5. Don't hesitate repeatedly. There are too many forks in the road in life, which makes you in a dilemma. If you are always pulling back and forth between doing and not doing, do it at once. Think twice before you act. If you just stay in "think twice", all your wishes will come to nothing. Give up the idea of swinging in your mind, and pursue bravely while you still have courage and dreams. If you don't try many things, you will never know the result. Regardless of success or failure, if you take the first step bravely, there will be unexpected surprises.

6. Stopping negative things can't overwhelm people, but the attitude towards things will be good, and optimism and negativity are between one thought and another. A truly excellent person will not encounter difficulties, but don't put yourself in negative energy when facing difficulties, because indulging yourself can't solve the problem at all. Instead of moping and making things worse, we should face it with a positive attitude. Behind the problem is opportunity. Keeping smiling and facing everything positively is the beginning of good luck.

7. Stop setting limits for yourself. People suffer not because they are not strong enough, but because their perspective is always "self-limited", because they are not good-looking enough, and because they are not educated enough. Because I am a novice, I dare not fight for opportunities. Over time, you will set limits, habitually escape and miss opportunities. The meaning of life lies in pioneering rather than sticking to it. Don't lose heart at any time. Life is only 30,000 days, and a day is only 24 hours. You might as well break through yourself, break through those cages that imprison yourself, and break through those "impossible".

8. One of the main reasons for stopping self-doubt and internal friction is that you can't accept yourself and deny yourself. When you are always dissatisfied with yourself, it is difficult to be yourself and be happy. The hardest lesson in life is reconciliation with yourself.

Maybe you are not good at words, but you have solid actions. Maybe you are ordinary, but you work hard. So, change self-denial, love yourself unconditionally, believe in yourself, find your own bright spot, embrace yourself and embrace the world.

9. Stop procrastinating. Long-term procrastination is your biggest price. Remember two words. Never make excuses for yourself until you finish what you can do today. Leave the question until tomorrow. Deliberately practice your actions, thinking is a problem, and then you will have an answer without delay, and then you will realize your beautiful vision and change yourself. If we don't delay and wait for what we need, we can bid farewell to internal friction, complete this self-fight, overcome inner obstacles and start a different life.