Life paper (written on red paper with birthday) was seized by the man's family. How to solve it?

There are quite a few such things. Before marriage, we should match the eight characters, so we gave them to each other, but the marriage was ruined because we couldn't talk it over, but the eight characters were still in someone else's hands. If we are unhappy, we easily get angry and do bad things with eight characters. I know a lot about it, but this is a paid service.