What are the four characteristics of "miserable" women?

There is an old saying in China: "Happy women are mostly similar, while unhappy women are different". Come back and think about it, it's really like that.

A woman who lives a happy life is nothing more than her husband's successful career, and his husband will spoil himself in different ways. Her children do well in school and never have to worry about themselves.

A woman with a hard life basically ignores her husband. Indifference has become a commonplace, and children's hearts are broken.

Why are the same women so different? It turns out that there is a reason for bad luck. A "unlucky" woman has three characteristics, one of which is that it is difficult to be happy.

The first one: the heart is too soft

People just act by instinct. Whether young or old, there is an instinct to bully the weak and fear the hard in the bones.

My classmate Lili is such a woman. From falling in love to getting married and having children to working outside, as long as her husband asks her, she will agree to all her husband's requirements without any position.

Finally, her husband took everything she did for granted. In this way, she finally couldn't stand her husband's request and their marriage came to an end.

Women are too soft-hearted, indicating that you have no status and are easily controlled by men. A person who has no position and is easily controlled by others will have a bitter fate in the end.

The second one: by a man.

There is a dogma in the adult world that can judge whether you are an adult or not, and that is whether you can support yourself!

Wang Yi, my neighbor, is such a woman. When she was young, she relied on her youth and beautiful appearance to make her husband do whatever she wanted.

But slowly, Wang Yi's face was covered with wrinkles of the years. She is no longer young, because she has no job, and her husband won't give her any money except for the normal expenses of the family.

Aunt Wang has never worked in society, so she is basically divorced from society now. Now she hates her incompetence and fears that her husband will not want her one day.

Therefore, if you don't work hard and simply hope that a man can take care of his life to get happiness, such a woman is usually very hard.

Third: low emotional intelligence.

Simply put, EQ is how to control one's emotions and identify others' emotions.

A person with low emotional intelligence often can't control his emotions, talk freely about his emotions and can't understand others' emotions. Such people usually have few friends.

Ms. Cheng is a woman with low emotional intelligence. In her mind, she thinks she can vent any emotion to her husband.

But her husband, Mr. Wang, had had enough of this life, and Ms. Cheng had no idea what her husband was thinking, and naively thought it was a happy interaction.

There is no way. In the end, Mr. Wang had no choice but to divorce. Mr. Wang's divorce was decisive, and eight cows could not be pulled back.

Because Ms. Cheng Can can't control her temper, she is still single. Because of her low emotional intelligence, she has few friends and leads a relatively depressed life, not to mention happiness.

Fourth: live in fantasy.

Women are born perceptual animals, so they are full of longing for the future and like to fantasize about those beautiful things. There is nothing wrong with that.

Because I like fantasy and have dreams, which is a good thing. I have a goal for my future life.

But living in fantasy all day, always taking your imaginary goal as the object of mate selection and your imaginary life state as the future life state, then such behavior is difficult to make yourself happy.

Ms. Dou is such a woman. She is 36 years old this year, but she is still unmarried, not because of poor conditions, but because she has been longing for those dreamy marriage lives.

Always take the star's condition to measure the current mate selection standard, look forward to Platonic love and resist all vulgar life, but helpless, the reality is like a sledgehammer, crushing her dream.

Now Ms. Dou is in an awkward position, that is, whether she is tall or not. According to her words, it is better to live a lifetime now, so it is difficult for such a woman to be happy in her later life.

Emotional summary:

A miserable woman has some obvious characteristics. It says that these four articles make up one, which is enough for her to get married in the future.

Therefore, there is only one life. Only by being positive, seeking truth and being pragmatic, learning to consider other people's feelings, and doing things with principles and a bottom line can we grasp our due happiness, otherwise we can only live in bad karma all our lives.