Who can lead me out of the predicament ideologically, spiritually and psychologically, who can help me find my self-confidence and erase my inferiority!

In fact, you should not think that inferiority is not good, it is dirty. Introversion and extroversion are just a kind of personality, and there is no good or bad personality. It's just that people tend to choose a personality that is more suitable for society, so don't think you have a problem because of your personality.

You really have a strong self-esteem. If you are really timid, you won't care about the stimulation of others.

The more you care about things, the easier it is to attack your lowest line of defense.

Everything is like this, just like when you care about a relationship, you often feel inexplicable or painful.

For you who play football, you are not old, but your values about football have changed.

Football should be very important to you. But I think when you were young, when you were carefree, football was just a hobby of yours, so you regarded it as a way of entertainment and exercise. When you grow up, competition after competition makes you progress and makes you feel the joy brought by honor. As you get older, self-esteem and desire will stimulate your vanity along your heart wall like ivy. Later, football is no longer as simple as before, and you are no longer as simple as before. Playing football is not just for fun and exercise, but for winning.

If you lose, you will panic. You think people will laugh at you and talk about you. Even your football looks down on your hard work for so many years. Too much self-esteem makes you feel that others are whispering in front of you that you are incompetent. Narrow-minded, these problems also appear one by one. It is because you refuse to face your real mistakes that you describe yourself in these languages. Put all the responsibilities on "psychological fragility, inferiority, unbearable frustration and nervousness", which leads to your mistakes on the football field.

In fact, no one has humiliated you, but you have been humiliating yourself. If it were me, there would be a mistake. I will admit that if I can't play football well, I will either stop and do something else or work overtime. There is a saying that "after reading a book, you won't be nervous about the exam." As long as you have a foundation, you won't be nervous at all. You are afraid of losing because you can't afford to lose. What you lose is not the ball, but your self-esteem.

You said that you were not as relaxed as a child because your childhood simplicity was corroded by your desire and self-esteem. You misunderstood your original dream and the meaning of playing football.

Learn to face your own mistakes, learn to be considerate and tolerant, and learn the skills of interacting with others. You will understand other people's thoughts and others will forgive you for your occasional mistakes. Winning or losing is not important. It's better to gamble if you care about winning or losing. It doesn't need technical content to satisfy your desire, but is this what you want?

Oh, the role of the game can be reset, deleted and washed, but life can't be washed away, so you can only continue to practice. The only way is to make up for previous mistakes and learn from experts, just like in life.