The man proposed marriage, but the woman's parents called it "eight-character incompatibility" and insisted on breaking off the engagement. What's the matter?

Xiao He, who works in Nanning, is 30 years old. In the past two years, he has never dealt with anyone except his mother. He shut himself in his room and killed time by surfing the Internet. It all started with a relationship four years ago.

Four years ago, Xiao He was sunny and had a beautiful and gentle girlfriend, who had reached the point of talking about marriage. Unexpectedly, an accident happened on the day of the proposal, which ruined the marriage and made him a joke among his population. In laughter and pointing, he endured 1 year, but still could not face the reality, so he began to close himself. It was not until this year, after receiving professional treatment, that his mind shone into the sunshine. Recently, Xiao He, who came out of the haze, finally had the courage to talk about the past and tell his story to reporters. The following is his dictation.

We hit it off. People say we are a good match.

My family is in the countryside, and I am an only child. Because the conditions at home are not bad, I have never suffered anything since I was a child. There is a building at home, and I also have a fruit farm. My parents want me to stay in the village to manage the fruit farm and inherit the family business. But I think men should make a career, or they will live in vain.

Studying in a technical secondary school in Nanning, I decided to stay in Nanning for development. 20 13, graduated at home? I came to work in Nanning after years of idleness. After work, I often get together and chat with my classmates who stay in Nanning to work. At that time, I met A Xiang.

A Xiang is my hometown, beautiful, but shy. She doesn't talk much, but she likes to chat with me. She always comes to me when she needs help. After contact, I found that A Xiang is a very good girl, a typical good girl. Because she adored me, she readily agreed when I confessed to her. The villagers know that we are in love, and everyone says that we are a good match.

If I don't get married, I will become the laughingstock of my neighbors.

I was 26 when I met A Xiang, but this was my first real love.

Although A Xiang also comes from the countryside, she once studied in Nanning and lived in Nanning for many years, paying great attention to her personal image and quality of life. She is gentle and beautiful, obedient and clever, so after more than a year of communication, I want to marry her home.

When A Xiang and I expressed our intention to get married, she nodded in agreement. However, we have been in love for more than a year, and no one has mentioned it to our parents. I'm getting married suddenly, and I'm worried that my parents can't accept it. To this end, we discussed how to get parents' consent.

In the end, we persuaded our parents to propose marriage together.

On the day of marriage proposal, I gathered all my good friends and expanded the marriage proposal team. Parents also feel that ostentation and extravagance is more dignified. The marriage seems to be a foregone conclusion, and no one expected that things would turn around.

That day, at the end of A Xiang's home, A Xiang and his parents went out to meet him. But somehow, A Xiang fell. This scene was seen by many neighbors, and everyone began to make noise. According to local customs, it is very unlucky for this to happen when proposing marriage. A Xiang's parents immediately rejected my proposal. Helpless, I had to leave temporarily.

At that time, I thought, after a period of time, when A Xiang is well, it is not too late to arrange the marriage. Unexpectedly, what I was waiting for was a notice of dissolution of marriage. Everyone in the village said that A Xiang's mother used my birthday as a "fortune teller" and "calculated" that I was the bane of A Xiang. Add in what happened on the day of the proposal and the marriage is over.

When I got home, my parents told me to stop thinking about this marriage. However, I won't give up until A Xiang refuses me personally.

At that time, A Xiang didn't meet me. I do not blame her. After all, she has listened to her parents since she was a child and forced her to stay with me against their wishes. She will not be happy.

I always feel that everyone is laughing at me.

I waited for a while, but nothing changed.

The villagers began to talk about me. The word that I am A Xiang's "nemesis" has spread very strangely, which makes me unable to refute it. At first I warned them not to gossip, but the more I care, the more people talk about me and the more distorted the content.

Although people say that A Xiang and I are different, I still want to fight for opportunities. However, after several visits, A Xiang's parents refused to let me in or see A Xiang.

Seeing my "hot face sticking to my cold ass", my parents were very sad and angry. My father, in particular, always said that I failed to live up to my expectations.

In this village, my neighbors always point fingers when they see me. Over time, I began to feel afraid. My father was very angry with my performance, and I was under great pressure to live at home. So, I left home, fled to Nanning, rented in a rental house, and no one wanted to see me.

After I came to Nanning, I was surrounded by strangers, but I still felt that people around me were laughing at me. I can't control my thoughts. I'm afraid to go out and have to stay at home. I'm afraid to find a job. I order takeout for three meals a day and spend time online every day. I'm afraid of meeting others and being laughed at.

After knowing my situation, my mother gave up farm work and came to Nanning to accompany me. She advised me to go home, but I was afraid to go back. In this way, I hid in the rental house and spent two years in the dark. In the past two years, I have hardly talked to anyone except my mother.

Psychologist analysis

In recent years, some couples broke up and divorced because of listening to fortune telling. Experts said: There is no other meaning except the date of birth. Happiness in marriage depends on how two people get along. Getting along with husband and wife is a science, and a happy marriage depends on the joint efforts of two people. Experts suggest that parents should give some advice to their soon-to-be-married children for reference, but they must not believe that some so-called superstitious forced separation has ruined their children's happiness all their lives. Children should also do more ideological work for their parents, so that parents can believe in science and get rid of superstitions.