The film My Sister directly reflects the social reality of son preference.

I went to see the movie My Sister some time ago. To be honest, I felt a lot after watching the movie. I admit, it's easy to poke my tears, because I unfortunately grew up in a family with a traditional patriarchal concept.

? The film begins with the horror and chaos after the traffic accident. After a while, the camera swept through the "family portrait" of a couple and a little boy, and then stood still in it. Because the last series of phone calls of the male deceased were made to Enron, the traffic police asked her about her relationship with the deceased. Enron woke up from the shock and truthfully answered that she was the daughter of the deceased couple. Because the traffic police found that there were only photos of the deceased couple and a little boy in their mobile phones, they needed to show her ID card safely to verify her relationship with them. Seeing this, my heart trembled involuntarily, showing how close the couple are to their son and how alienated they are from their daughter. So alienated that the traffic police need to verify Enron's identity, for fear that she is an impostor, they don't know whether to praise the traffic police's rigorous and meticulous work attitude or feel sorry for Enron. The film shows the preference for boys from the sharp contrast between the father's completely different attitudes towards his sister Enron and his younger brother An Ziheng. For example, my brother can eat braised pork cooked by my father, and my sister can only eat "fried pork with bamboo shoots". An example of such a huge contrast is that the father told his younger brother that everything at home was his; The younger brother can live with his parents and be protected and spoiled by them, while the older sister can only be fostered in her aunt's house. My sister was fostered in her aunt's house since she was a child, and her misfortune began at that time. I was trained as a sandbag by my cousin and bathed by my uncle. The only person who knows how to be reliable is himself; Be bullied, fight if you win, fight if you don't win. When Enron had an argument with her boyfriend, she said that when a girl who didn't grow up around her parents was bullied, she would fight if she won, and when she didn't win, my eyes filled with tears involuntarily. I love her very much. I love her loneliness and helplessness, but I pretend to be strong. In fact, no one is born strong, but life forces us to do so. Of course, such misfortune also brings a gift-independence. Independence is a very valuable quality, but the process of learning independence is full of infinite bitterness.

In this film, I was deeply impressed by several scenes. The first one is: in my sleep, when I grow up, I see myself abandoned by my parents when I was a child; Being bullied by other children; (The background of this scene is the funeral of Enron's parents, suggesting that Enron had parents when he was a child, but he was as helpless as an orphan. My parents were indifferent when I drowned, but when I grew up, I jumped into the swimming pool with all my strength. In fact, dreams reflect people's inner activities to some extent. When I grow up, Enron should really want to go back to childhood and help myself at that time when I was a child, so that I am no longer so lonely. Adler once said that lucky people are cured by childhood all their lives, and unfortunate people are cured by childhood all their lives. Even if she is treated like this by her parents, in fact, her heart is still attached to her parents. Judging from the fact that she left her father's fur coat and maintained it well, I guess the reason for his sudden heart attack may be that he cried and even quit his job because he didn't answer the phone in time on duty.

The second is: at my aunt's house, my aunt told Enron sadly and helplessly how her mother was partial to her brother. Because of her mother's quirks, she was even forced to give up the opportunity to go abroad for college and business. After so many years, my aunt was still in tears when she mentioned these past events to Enron again. This shows how desperate menstruation was when he was forced to compromise. My aunt also said to Enron: "I am like this. Actually, dolls don't have to be put in the same condom. Aunt didn't take you well. You can go by yourself later. " In my opinion, what my aunt said was actually acquiescence to put my brother out safely for adoption. My aunt said that dolls don't have to be put in the same condom, implying that she agreed that not all sisters have to sacrifice themselves for their younger brothers. Although it was her brother's son with a strong and indelible blood relationship, in the end, she couldn't bear to see Enron pay blindly like herself and lose her life. After leaving safely, menstruation looked lonely, reading the Russian she had memorized and recalling the past that had already disappeared, but a word from the proprietress could pull her back to the cold reality.

The last one is: in the coffee shop, my aunt poured the coffee in the cup into her thermos when people were not paying attention, and even licked up a few drops of coffee left by the cup. This scene shows a thrifty and poor person who loves face to the extreme. My aunt really gave too much for her brother. If she didn't have to sacrifice herself to fulfill her younger brother, her life would be completely different. If that's the case, maybe she doesn't have to. Can grow up in a family with a traditional preference for boys, such bad luck seems to be doomed from the moment of birth, she can't earn, can't escape, and can only accept the fool of fate.

In this film, several details are very intriguing and worth discussing. The first one is: At the funeral of Enron's parents, Enron was silently burning paper money, Enron's aunt was crying for land, and some related or unrelated people were playing cards. This scene is very real. Those who cry the loudest are not necessarily the saddest. As long as the dead person is not his own family, or has no interest in himself, even on such a solemn occasion, it does not prevent others from eating, drinking and having fun. The second type is: fake disability certificate, bribery red envelope. We don't live in a black-and-white world. There are a thousand different kinds of ashes in this world. The last one is: in the subway, Enron wants to abandon his brother. Selfishness is human nature, which determines that there are no saints in this world. These details can make the story richer, more appropriate and more real, and also make this work more pyrotechnic.

There are two shortcomings in this work. The first place is: I borrowed a few words from my brother that don't match my brother's age. In fact, creators don't have to worry so much. Although the audience is not a professional connoisseur, they are not fools. Some things don't need to be pointed out and reminded deliberately. And there is no need to easily provoke the audience's lacrimal glands, and the true reflection can touch people's hearts more. The second place is: Teacher Chen from kindergarten said something to the driver that didn't fit her status. Although the creator wants to use the words of kindergarten teacher Chen to prove the driver's drunk driving, these words of concern beyond personal relationship will make their relationship ambiguous. It is easy to confuse the relationship between the characters and lead to misunderstanding among the audience. When I first saw it, I thought Mr. Chen was the driver's wife.

Many people are complaining about the open ending of this film. In fact, in my opinion, Enron will raise a younger brother to a great extent. In addition to refusing to sign the agreement given by Anziheng's adoptive parents and taking Anziheng out of his adoptive parents' home, we can see the change of attitude from Enron stubbornly saying that she is an only child to her going to the temple to light auspicious lights for her parents and Anziheng.

China is a feudal social country dominated by male power for more than two thousand years. Although the present society is a relatively civilized society, there are still some traditional ideas rooted in some people's hearts, such as: son preference. In such a society, many women have paid a heavy price because of gender inequality, whether voluntarily or forcibly. This includes my menstruation Enron, the pregnant woman who was forced to have an abortion due to eclampsia during pregnancy, and of course, many unknown women.

Unfortunately, I also grew up in a family with a traditional preference for boys over girls. I'm not a sister, and I don't pay as much as menstruation, Enron and pregnant women. The film and television works I understand have undergone certain artistic processing, and intensifying contradictions and opposites can make the works more interesting and representative. But even so, many times I still want to escape from the home that makes me feel suffocated. Growing up in a patriarchal family, my biggest feeling since I was a child was that I was not expected by anyone. Of course, part of the reason is that my elders have spent most of their lives in life. Because I was neglected and unloved since I was a child, I felt that I didn't deserve to be loved since I was a child. This inferiority complex is in my blood. Whenever someone approaches me or is nice to me, I will build a thick heart wall and dare not respond for fear of being hurt.

There is still a long way to go to achieve real equality between men and women. Until then, I hope that women will pay less and less for it.