Please help those who can tell fortune and feng shui! This matter has been bothering me for 20 years!

Don't worry about this, it will be an endless shadow in your heart. First of all, mourning is a way to remember the dead. Generally speaking, mourning begins with mourning, and after three years, it automatically takes off filial piety and changes clothes. This kind of mourning is not just for your family. No one's ever died. It's no use wearing it. This is nothing to the family. If it's not practical, you can burn paper and incense in front of the grave of the deceased who mourned at the beginning, indicating that you didn't change clothes at the beginning of mourning. After the story of changing clothes is finished, turn left three times around the grave, turn right three times, and then throw the filial piety out of the grave and let the people opposite follow. This means changing clothes for filial piety, which means that filial piety is gone.