Xu zhimo's wife

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "talented people and beautiful women". As a gifted scholar, Xu Zhimo is naturally accompanied by beautiful women. But when it co

Since ancient times, there has been a saying that "talented people and beautiful women". As a gifted scholar, Xu Zhimo is naturally accompanied by beautiful women. But when it comes to Xu Zhimo's love and marriage, most people only know Lin and Lu Xiaoman. Actually, Xu Zhimo's first wife was Zhang Youyi. Although she is not as famous as Lin and Lu Xiaoman, in my opinion, his love for Xu Zhimo is the deepest.

Speaking of Zhang Youyi, her family background is prominent, her brothers are celebrities, and she is dignified in appearance, elegant in manners and wise in appearance. Although she is not as clever as Lin, she is more virtuous. Although she is not as graceful and beautiful as Lu Xiaoman, she is more knowledgeable and reasonable. But it is such a woman who has been ignored and treated cruelly by Xu Zhimo for a long time.

They got married because of Zhang Youyi's brother's matchmaking, which was an arranged marriage. Xu Zhimo, who has received a new education, naturally has a lot of dissatisfaction and complaints in his heart. So the first time he saw a photo of Zhang Youyi, he called her a "country bumpkin". Therefore, in my opinion, Xu Zhimo had already set the gender for her in her mind before she knew her future wife. In fact, he never really knew her, let alone loved her.

Even so, under the arrangement of his family, Xu Zhimo married Zhang Youyi on1October 29th1915 10. At this time, Xu Zhimo was only 16 years old, and Zhang Youyi was only 13 years old. Not long after they got married, Xu Zhimo went abroad to study, and before that, Zhang Youyi had given birth to a boy for Xu Zhimo. I've been thinking that if Xu Zhimo hadn't studied abroad, he would have gradually discovered the goodness of Zhang Youyi, even liked her and fell in love with her. If Xu Zhimo spent his life safely with Zhang Youyi, wouldn't there be so many tragic stories afterwards? However, there is no if. For Xu Zhimo, who just wants to find his soul mate all his life, this marriage was a mistake from the beginning.

With Xu Zhimo gone, Zhang Youyi began her long-term thinking.

Xu Zhimo, who traveled across the ocean, either meditated with books, lamented the past and present with friends, or pursued his lofty ideals. He misses his wife and children after work, but he can't know whether he is in love or lonely.

Finally, in everyone's expectation, Zhang Youyi came to a place not far from Wan Li to reunite with Xu Zhimo. Just when everyone thought there would be a big family reunion after a long separation, the accident happened again. Xu Zhimo met Lin, a lively, cheerful and beautiful girl. Lin, like a colorful rainbow, lit up Xu Zhimo's melancholy and lonely heart. Unfortunately, "Wang Xiang has a dream, but the goddess has no intention", and Xu Zhimo's infatuation is just like a dream.

At this moment, Zhang Youyi came to Xu Zhimo's side after a long journey. Just off the dock, Zhang Youyi, exhausted, saw a face of disappointment and disgust. Zhang Youyi mentioned that all the joy in my heart turned into a pool of stagnant water. Xu Zhimo took her to the mall to buy clothes and disliked her soil; I saw her vomiting by plane and called her a "bumpkin"; Find her a teacher to teach her knowledge. Life is quiet, but it is also boring. Looking at Xu Zhimo's enthusiasm for his friends and indifference to himself, Zhang Youyi vaguely understood something, and she felt sad and helpless. The night was dim, and she told Xu Zhimo anxiously that she was pregnant. She tried to save their marriage with the last straw, but she heard Xu Zhimo's cold voice: "Abort the child." Zhang Youyi was completely desperate. She didn't expect her beloved husband to do this to her. She continued to ask, "I heard that someone died of miscarriage." Maybe this time, Zhang Youyi still has illusions about Xu Zhimo. Xu Zhimo said coldly: "There are people who died because of train accidents. Don't people take the train? " Zhang Youyi's heart completely plunged into the abyss. She knows that she is getting farther and farther away from her happiness, not that she can't grasp it, but that she can't.

Soon after, Xu Zhimo disappeared. As expected. Zhang Youyi was completely abandoned. After asking for help from her family, she came to Germany and gave birth to their second child alone in a lonely and cold day. A week after the birth of their second child, Xu Zhimo signed a divorce agreement with Zhang Youyi. This was the first civilized divorce case in modern China, which shocked all China at that time.

Xu zhimo was released. He got rid of the shackles of arranged marriage in the old society completely, while another woman fell into the abyss of pain.

As a woman in that environment at that time, Zhang Youyi was undoubtedly miserable, but she didn't give up on herself. When the marriage broke up and her husband left, she raised the children alone. Desperate, she wandered in a different place, began to study, open a bank, run a clothing company, and supported a cold life with her weak body; Dignity was swept away and gossip spread everywhere. She wholeheartedly served Xu Zhimo's parents and arranged the funeral.

What we see in Zhang Youyi is not a tragic marriage loser, but a woman with great wisdom. In the face of an unfortunate marriage, she bravely walked out of the predicament; In the face of the abandonment of her lover, she doesn't hate or complain; In the face of relatives, she loves each other; Facing life, she is optimistic. What kind of mind and tolerance does she accept the misfortune brought by fate and return it with a song?

When love is still there, she pays without complaint. When love was gone, she reluctantly stopped and resolutely refused to let herself be buried with the arranged marriage. Some people say that Xu Zhimo's ruthlessness has made Zhang Youyi an independent woman in this new era, otherwise she is just an ordinary woman who stays at home and teaches her children. I don't deny that. But I think even so, she is an ordinary woman with temperature, thoughts and feelings.

Youth is gone, and so are the years. Someone asked her about her feelings for Xu Zhimo, and she said simply, "You always ask me if I love Xu Zhimo. You know, I can't answer this question. I am puzzled by this question, because people always tell me that I have done so much for Xu Zhimo and I must love him. However, I can't say what love is. I have never said "I love you" to anyone. If taking care of Xu Zhimo and his family is called making love, then I probably love him. Among the women he met in his life, maybe I love him the most. "

Yes, if giving so much is not love, what is it?

If two of a kind is love, it is a little love, and the love that can be like Zhang Youyi regardless of gains and losses is the real great love.

Life is like a play. In the end, Xu Zhimo became a "heartbreaker" and failed the affectionate and righteous Zhang Youyi. Their marriage is not only their misfortune, but also the misfortune of that era.