The ancient marriage said that "two men marry and nineteen women don't marry". What's the point?

Since ancient times, the marriage customs in Cixi mainly include blind date, marriage, marriage and going home. First of all, introduce making friends. Before my father's generation, most couples were introduced to get married by matchmakers. My grandma and grandpa were married once or twice. People at that time were more conservative. Generally speaking, they know each other and think they can succeed. In my parents' time, in the late 1980s, they had many open minds.

When we are parents, our blind date is usually in the man's or woman's home. Besides entertainment convenience, there are other uses at home. You can see a man or woman's family situation, observe the relationship between his/her family and neighbors, and understand his/her personality. People in Cixi usually find a place to get married. However, there are also men who marry foreign women. This is generally because the man's family is not good and he can't afford the high bride price (no house, no car, etc.). ), and local girls are rarely willing to marry him. But strangely, Cixi women don't marry strangers.

Secondly, introduce marriage, that is, both men and women have no objection. Each of them covered the year, month, day and time of birth with red paper. Ask the fortune teller to test the "eight characters" of men and women. This is called "marriage". Marriage, that is to say, whether the characters of the two parties kissing in marriage indicate their close relationship. In the year of conflict between punishment and injury, boys and girls should not get married, but should get married and have children.

It has been a custom since ancient times, also known as "hair color gift" and "gift money". Generally speaking, men give women a certain amount of money. When parents negotiate their engagement, the gift money is the first issue to be discussed. The number of gifts depends on the family conditions of both parties. The average family's gift money ranges from 10.8 million to 208,000. If this woman is from other places, the gift money will be less.

After marriage, we will choose an auspicious day. The first is based on eight of these two words. Modern people are usually very busy, so when choosing a good day, they will also consider the working holiday time of two people. There used to be a saying that "men get married at the age of two and women don't get married at the age of nineteen", and now there is such a saying.