What should I do in the face of my mother-in-law?

The most important thing is to put your mind right. You can't change others, you can only change yourself.

The so-called calculating mother-in-law has the following characteristics. First, she only has her own children in her heart and no daughter-in-law. She only serves her children when she eats and drinks. Second, she likes to go looking for trouble and create family conflicts, and when family conflicts happen, she clearly stands on her children's side. Third, I can calculate that mother-in-law often has a very filial son.

The best mother-in-law can be said to be public enemy number one for a newly married female friend. Even people who have been married for a period of time find it difficult to solve this contradiction. Why does she hurt so much? Because she caused extra harm in the name of love.

The following are two ways of perception provided by psychological counselors for your reference:

Be the first to realize that what bothers you is events or emotions. Seeing this, some people may find it strange. Of course, it angered me. How can it be emotions? In fact, many times, when we don't like a person, we will have an automatic thinking that all the actions of this person are attacks on us. This is also called negative interpretation in psychology.

The second consciousness is whether your anger comes from yourself or the other person. In psychology, we often say "internal attribution" and "looking inward". What does this mean?

Give the most common example. Husband and wife are quarrelling. At this time, a man came to help stop the fight. He will definitely ask, "Why did you quarrel?" The wife said, "We quarreled because he said it", while the husband would say, "I said it because you said it first". Everyone has a lot of opinions.

The reason why this kind of "mental deadlock" occurs is that both sides deal with their emotions on the basis of each other's emotions. In other words, their emotional controller is in the other person's hand, and how bad your mood is is completely controlled by the other person. It is very unfortunate to meet a calculating mother-in-law. If you let her control your emotions again, your quality of life will be hard to guarantee. ?

It is always more difficult to change others than to change yourself. You want to turn your mother-in-law into your own mother. With my years of experience, you can die. So when you are angry, you need to realize this. What is the reason behind this anger? Is it your fault or someone else's fault? If someone else's reason makes you feel bad, then other people's behavior is also a remote control to control your mood. It's time to get this remote control back.

Therefore, even in the face of such a mother-in-law, the most important thing is to maintain a good attitude and be yourself.