Shangnan Fortune Teller _ Who is Shangnan Fortune Teller?

The populations of Shangnan, Yang Shan, Zhen 'an and Zhashui are mostly immigrants in the late Ming and early Qing dynasties. The "Sophora japonica" from Shanxi or Taihu Lake in Anhui is very different in the south and the north. After a long period of intermarriage, they have formed generally similar but distinctive customs and habits.

Before and after liberation, the marriage custom in Shangnan was always carried out according to the "Six Rites". One is "winning the prize", that is, inviting the matchmaker. When the child reaches the age of marriage, he will find a girl or young man who has prestige in both families to propose marriage. The so-called "unsuccessful, three bottles of wine" is the beginning of hiring a matchmaker. The second is "ask the name." If both parents agree to this marriage, they will exchange "dates of birth" and ask the fortune teller to "calculate the sum". If there is no rush in the eight characters, the girl will go to the man to look after the house with the matchmaker, mother or sister-in-law. If the woman has no problem with the man, she can eat at the man's house, spend the night or receive clothes and gifts, which is roughly the default. The third is "Najib", also known as "gift" or "engagement". On the day of engagement, the man should send "four-color gifts" to relatives, clothes to the woman and parents and exchange "Geng Tie" according to the arrangement of the woman. The man wrote "I was born every year" on the dragon and phoenix post; On both sides, the words "Dragon and Phoenix Dance, Lin Zhicheng Xiang" are written. The woman should write on the same post, "Kun was born on ×××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××××× Generally, the woman's family only accepts half of the gifts given by the man. The fourth is "collection". When both men and women reach the age of marriage, the man will ask the matchmaker to go to the woman's house to ask about the wedding date and opinions, and appoint a time to make both parties ready. The fifth is "please". The man chooses the wedding date and informs the woman with a red post. If the woman has no objection, the matchmaker should ask how many generations to send relatives and raise dowry. The sixth is "welcoming relatives". On the wedding day, the man's family asked someone to pick out the gifts, clothes, ornaments and cosmetics for the funeral incense, and the matchmaker accompanied sedan chair to the woman's house. The sedan chair can't be lifted empty. You need a child to sit in it when you go. This is called "pressing a sedan chair". All the activities of the man's wedding banquet are always led by a polite, easy-going and good at rhetoric, which is the so-called "guest head". After the banquet, the two sides exchange greetings with fireworks and give gifts such as going to the kitchen, getting on the sedan chair, combing their hair and leaving their mother. The bride puts on new clothes, socks and shoes, burns incense and kowtows, says goodbye to her ancestors and parents, hangs a bronze mirror, puts on a hijab, and is carried on the sedan chair by her brother or younger brother.

When the bride comes home, she should shoot to welcome her. The groom bowed to the sedan chair, led his mother to open the curtain of the sedan chair and helped the bride out of the sedan chair. Some people use the red carpet to lay the floor, and the bride walks along the carpet. One person is holding a wooden bucket full of whole grains, red dates, hemp, peanuts and walnuts, singing and singing, and sitting down outside the main room. After the worship ceremony, enter the bridal chamber. After the bride and groom entered the bridal chamber, the cousin and brother-in-law began to grab the red eggs, peanuts, chestnuts and walnuts in the quilt and pillow. The bride and groom sat down in front of the bed and brought two bowls of tea (two poached eggs in each bowl) from the kitchen. The bride and groom took a symbolic sip and exchanged tea. Some also pay homage, the bride and groom kowtow to their ancestors' memorial tablets, and all their closest relatives give out red envelopes. After the wedding reception, the farewell party, the matchmaker and grandma's family are the guests of honor, which naturally ranks first. Cold dishes are removed, and hot dishes are served in the seventh round, which means "the wife is separated." At this time, the newlyweds propose a toast to the guests, usually seven cups, and parents and close relatives also propose a toast in return. Finally, there is a banquet in the new house called Reunion Wine. Generally, a family sits at the same table, accompanied by aunt, sister and younger sister. When drinking, newlyweds exchange glasses to drink, which is called "drinking a glass of wine", which means being of one mind and one mind.

After the wedding reception, cousins, brothers-in-law and other relatives and neighbors will make trouble in the bridal chamber (there is also a saying that the bride is one big and one small every three days). The dormitory of Shangnan people is more civilized. There is a table and seven kinds of sweets in the room. The bride and groom propose a toast first, and then propose a toast seven times clockwise. Noisy cousins and other relatives ask the bride and groom to say something interesting or play some interesting games, such as "sticking the ceiling" and "crossing the tortoise". Some of them drank seven glasses of wine three times, while others laughed while eating sugar. Marriage in feudal society is mostly arranged, which is probably a way to adjust the atmosphere and enhance understanding!

On the third day of marriage, the bride usually goes to the kitchen to cook, which is called "trying on a knife" to show the bride's education and skills. On the tenth day, the bride's brother-in-law came to pick her up, and the bride and her husband went back to their parents' home together and called back to the door. Generally, men live 10 days and women live, which is called men's football and women's buckle. In the first month of the second year of marriage, the newlyweds should "thank the media" and bring gifts back to their parents' homes to recognize their relatives. This is called returning home.