30 is a hurdle. How do you understand this hurdle?

Problems faced by 30-year-old workers in the workplace

At the age of 30, for most people, they have not only completed their school education, but also gained some social experience. If it is mainly input and accumulation before this, then at this node, it will begin to change and transform.

1. Face the responsibility and adapt to your multiple identities.

It is an obvious feature of this stage to truly face the great responsibility of life. If you have a family, you have to face the responsibility of bringing home the bacon; If you don't get married, you have to face the responsibility of buying a house and settling down; For those who are old and young, they have to face the responsibility of supporting the elderly and educating their children.

At the same time, personal identity will be more diverse, from other people's children to other people's parents, from happy bachelors to Alexander's house slaves ... The emergence of these responsibilities and the change of identity will eventually turn into pressure and then into motivation, telling yourself that you must work hard and make more money.

With self-drive, it is the real starting point for change. If people are not awake after their thirties, Brother K can only say that it is either a real mine or a big heart. In any case, for ordinary people, it is very necessary to ignite the small universe of inner struggle at this stage. It's not necessarily impulsive, but it must be energetic.

2. Besides being old, are there any long skills?

About 30 years old, generally have 3-5 years of work experience, but the gold content in these years is different. Some people grow and improve in three to five years, while others are lazy to escape.

Miss M who sent a private message to Brother K is the front desk of an Internet company. She has worked in the company for nearly five years, but she is afraid to get married when she is almost 30, for fear that she will lose this job after getting married. More importantly, in these five years, she has hardly learned any skills except welcoming guests and serving tea and water.

Living up to the performance of the years is not only a waste, but also an escape. Brother K interviewed a young man, a famous university, majoring in computer last year, but there was a fatal Bug. More than three years after graduation, I changed three jobs. I understand that the reasons for three job-hopping are different. The first time was because of disagreement with the leader, the second time was because the team atmosphere was too depressing, and the third time was because the company could not stand all kinds of "inhumanity" of the project.

After talking here, I decided to let him go back. In my opinion, all his reasons are excuses. Exposed his communication ability, adaptability, and even serious lack of business ability. I don't know my own problems, I don't have the courage to break through the bottleneck, I just criticize others and the environment. This job-hopping is actually an escape. Even if I dance for another five years, it will be difficult to make progress.

3. Is there an open cognitive structure?

Standing at the age of 30 is a continuous process, and standing at the age of 30 is the starting point. At this time, it is easy to have a common fault, thinking that you know everything you need to know, but time will prove that this is not the case. A lot of "understanding" is just what you "think".

For example, in order to achieve the set goals, everyone knows to go all out to fight, but the level of fighting is different, and ordinary employees should fight their own work efficiency; But if you are a manager, you should learn to motivate the whole team to work together in Qi Xin, instead of just working hard like ordinary employees.

Before Australia was discovered, Europeans thought that only white swans and black swans did not exist, which was a typical cognitive limitation. Brother k doesn't think it's terrible. What is really terrible is that he didn't realize the existence of this "limitation". I always think that I have a college diploma, work experience and enough social experience, so I won't make mistakes easily and won't be easily changed.

In fact, there are too many "black swans" in the world that we don't know about. If you can't form an open cognitive system at the age of 30, it will be very unfavorable for a person's future growth and development to form a cognitive closed loop prematurely.