"Barnum effect" is not only self-deception, but also reasonable use by parents to help their babies know themselves correctly.

The first sentence of getting up every day, give yourself a sigh of relief first! We find that we say to ourselves every morning that I am the best, and then I will feel much better and things will go smoothly that day. I believe many of us have used this kind of "chicken blood" self-encouragement method, and all think it is useful.

Because this is actually a kind of self-psychological suggestion, which can enhance people's self-confidence. In order to achieve "I am the best", we can fully mobilize our subjective enthusiasm, adjust our emotions, and think more rationally when doing things. Naturally, I will do things comprehensively and meticulously, and feel that every day's life is very fulfilling and interesting.

Psychological suggestion mainly plays a role in shaping people's subjective consciousness world, which will have a great influence on people's subjective thinking, subjective judgment, subjective verification and subjective initiative. Psychological suggestion comes not only from oneself, but also from others. In the process of children's growth, comments from parents, teachers and friends will be accepted by children. Both praise and criticism will be transformed into children's self-knowledge through psychological suggestion. This kind of psychological reaction, which is influenced by the comments of people around you, produces more knowledge about itself, and even is subjectively brought into verification because of other people's comments, is called "Barnum effect".

"Barnum effect" means that people can easily believe a general description of personality, think it is particularly suitable for them, and accurately reveal their personality characteristics, even if the content is empty.

"barnum" was actually named after a famous magician, Shoman barnum. When evaluating his performance, he said: His performance is popular because he can make the program contain parts that everyone likes, so people fall for it all the time. Who gave him the courage to evaluate his magic so thoroughly? Not Fish Leong, of course, because Shoman barnum captured people's psychological characteristics.

When pointing out the essence of some human personality traits, those general and general personality descriptors are reasonable to anyone. When people hear these closely related personality descriptors combined with their own situation and characteristics, they have a strong sense of substitution under their own strong psychological hints and sit directly, resulting in the trust illusion of "Oh, my God, isn't that talking about me?"

The magician Shoman barnum made sure that his magic included the part that everyone liked, because Shoman barnum discovered this psychological phenomenon, and he adopted some vague and general methods. The use of a wide range of personality descriptors deceived the audience and even made everyone mistakenly think that he had "mind reading". Those descriptive words he said will make the audience unconsciously draw closer to their own personality, and everyone thinks he is amazing. Constellation reasoning and stall fortune telling actually use Barnum effect to convince most people that their personality characteristics are right, and the more they believe, the more right they are.

The main source of Barnum effect lies in subjective verification. As the saying goes, "the authorities are fascinated, and the onlookers are clear." Everyone actually has a strong sense of self, and the subjective role has a great influence on people's thinking. People always believe what they want to believe. In order to verify that their beliefs are correct, they try their best to find evidence to support their trust. Everything has a certain connection. When we try our best to exert our subjective consciousness, we can always bring two seemingly unrelated things together through that little connection. And in order to be correct, you can also stiffly move out all the evidence that can prove your correctness.

1. Understand the negative effects of Barnum effect, avoid negative effects, and let children know themselves correctly and objectively.

More than 2,000 years ago, in the embryonic period of humanism, seven famous sayings were engraved on the temple of Apollo in the ancient Greek city of Delphi. Among them, the only one with the widest spread and the deepest influence is considered to have ignited the spark of Greek civilization, that is, "Man, know yourself."

Under the Barnum effect, others' evaluation of children, especially some defined words, will profoundly affect children's understanding of themselves. In the process of children's growth and development, children will approach intentionally or unintentionally as everyone says, and take it for granted that they should be like that.

A friend of mine has a good family condition and his family is very obedient to him. Especially his grandparents, always think that their grandson is the best and the best in the world, and praise him with flowers every day. Later, he also felt that his grandparents were so right that he was invincible. He didn't review much three months before the college entrance examination. He thinks that with his IQ, he can go to Tsinghua Peking University normally and Fudan Sichuan University abnormally. He is full of confidence. However, the reality gave him a slap in the face, and his score could only go to a specialist. He felt that the junior college was not worthy of him and he didn't study. Now he still stays at home as Mi Chong, dreaming of his own success.

It's easy to get lost in other people's words. Those words of praise or derogatory meaning have left seeds in children's hearts. Too much praise makes children get carried away and I don't know why. Too much criticism makes children lose confidence and feel at a loss. Children who listen to the judgments around them will find evidence for these judgments and become more and more obsessed. Under subjective verification, even if these judgments are false, they will become true.

Therefore, in order to avoid the negative impact of Barnum effect, children must establish a correct understanding of themselves, understand what kind of person they are, and know what kind of person they are, so that they will not be influenced by others casually.

2. Make effective use of the positive role of Barnum effect.

Barnum effect mainly focuses on the function of psychological suggestion. Positive psychological suggestion will play a guiding role in children's growth. Parents' reasonable and moderate praise for their children will help them build up their self-confidence and improve their ability to resist stress. Parents should be aware of the positive influence of Barnum effect, and a correct definition is helpful to shape children's three views and their growth path. Children will combine their own situation with the correct definition of their parents, and feel that they are themselves, and naturally they can make great strides in this direction. In the trough, "I can do it! I am the best! " It will give children strong psychological hints and let them grow up bravely in the face of difficulties.

Barnum effect can be seen everywhere in life. Rational use of Barnum effect in education will give children more direction and motivation in life. Don't be arrogant when flying high, and don't get burned when flying low. Only when we have a correct understanding of ourselves can we not be happy with things or sad for ourselves.