What is worth learning from Du, a great Shanghai man?

Blessing is sugar, and life is sweet because of it;

Temper is like vinegar, the more vinegar, the less sweet life.

Temper and blessing are like a pair of enemies. When they change, you are weaker than others. The bigger the temper, the worse the luck.

Having a temper is instinct, and not having a temper is skill. Don't let your temper get in your way.

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The greater the temper, the worse the blessing.

The bigger the temper, the smaller the skill. Temper is sometimes out of incompetent anger, but also a manifestation of bully is always coward.

Highly skilled people never bother to make people yield with momentum and volume. They will use their inner talents to make you happy. People who have no ability are eager to use their temper to strengthen their momentum because they are afraid that others will see through their inner desolation.

Du has a saying that this is the truth: first-class people have the ability and no temper; Second-class, capable and tempered; The last person is incompetent and has a big temper.

When your inner quality is not enough, no matter how good the opportunity comes to you, you can't seize it, and naturally there will be no so-called surprises and blessings in life.

There is an old saying: "It takes hard work to strike while the iron is hot." If you want to live a happy life, you must have excellent skills. Control your temper and improve your skills.

The bigger the temper, the fewer friends. A friend is an intangible wealth. We often say "many friends lead the way". Besides family, friends are the people who help us the most in life.

Friends can comfort you when you are sad, give you advice when you are confused, and help you when you are in trouble. The more friends, the wider the contacts and the wider the road.

When friends meet, they should be close and know how to put themselves in each other's shoes. People who lose their temper are usually more self-centered. When they are impatient, they think of themselves first. Such people are unpopular and have few natural friends.

Even if friendship is established and there are many friends, every time you lose your temper, you will hurt your friends. After a long time, even the strongest friendship will fade.

Du's success in Shanghai is related to his good temper. Du invited Wu Kaixian to dinner many times, but Wu Kaixian looked down on his background and failed to do so.

Finally, one day, Wu Kaixian agreed to Du's invitation. When Wu Kaixian appeared in Du's house, Du greeted him and said, "I wanted to invite Mr. Wu to come and sit down, because people can't come and go here all day, so I still hope today." Wu Kaixian is very ashamed of this. After this meal, the two became friends.

The bigger the temper, the colder the big family. Family is the source of good fortune and the best feng shui for a person.

Home is everyone's harbor and the place where we stay for the longest time. Family atmosphere will exert a subtle influence on a person's personality and mood. When the family is harmonious, your mood will be better. When you are in a good mood, your attitude towards people and things will unconsciously get better. You face the world with a cheerful attitude, and your blessings will naturally come to you.

Du's nanny once said that the master has a good temper and will hardly break into a furious rage because he has done something wrong.

The family should be harmonious and the atmosphere should be warm. First of all, the family should live in harmony. Temper is contagious. When people lose their temper, they often say what they say, which is the most harmful to their families.

Family members are always warm, but every time they lose their temper, the temperature drops a little, and the love and warmth between family members will eventually disappear in their temper.

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Keep your blessings and control your temper.

You must control your temper if you want to keep your blessing.

Be reasonable, don't lose your temper. Losing your temper will not only solve the problem, but will increase the trouble. Always remind yourself to take your time, suppress your temper and improve your skills. Use the time to lose your temper to enrich yourself.

Control your temper in interpersonal communication, and don't take friends as the outlet of your emotions. Friendship is both strong and fragile, and no matter how strong it is, it can't stand the toss of temper. Friends are not your servants. Harmony between friends depends on mutual respect and consideration.

Control your temper in family life. We always think that we are privileged in front of our families, but in fact the family is a whole. Don't bring external pressure into the family and lose your temper with your family. Affection is a kind of fate, and the cost of repairing cracks is not low.

Remember the efforts of your family and express your gratitude. The wife thanked her husband for his hard work, and the husband thanked his wife for handling it. Children thank their parents for their upbringing, and parents thank their filial piety. It is a person's greatest blessing to put away his temper, speak out his love and have a harmonious and warm family.

Having a temper is a person's instinct, and repression is a person's ability. Don't let your temper get in your way.