Lesson of the 29-year-old leftover woman: I almost got sick in a make-do marriage. Are you willing to make do?

Don't listen to others talk a lot about marriage. Because what others tell you is only suitable for her, it doesn't mean it can also be suitable for you.

But it happened that most people in life, especially girls, have soft ears. Listening to the unknown wind, they can think that it must be a storm, and it will definitely blow on themselves.

After Lin left at the age of 25, she began to laugh at herself as an "older woman". She didn't think she was big at first, but she was urged by her family and good friends around her that she wouldn't get married until she got married.

Her grandmother said, "That boy was very nice last time. People say you don't like it. Why don't you like it? "

Mother said, "When I was your age, you were born. If you don't find someone else, my mother will worry about you. Mom is in poor health. If you don't get married, your mother won't be at ease when she leaves. "

Li Lin always felt that her mother was too anxious, but she couldn't change her temper, so she had to agree and turned around and went in one ear and out the other.

What really makes lin li feel anxious is the experience gained from various cases told by friends around him: "Really, when a girl is over 28 years old, it is almost the golden age. At that time, others picked you, and good boys have already picked almost. "

Someone said, "Besides, it will take you at least one year to get to know each other."

Some people continue to say, "If you don't have children before the age of 30, you will be an older woman!"

One by one, lin li was chilling: Mom, I'm 26 years old. It's time to hurry! She replied, "You should introduce me quickly!"

2

At the age of 26, lin li started a blind date. But when it comes to blind date, I feel that this is not good and that is not appropriate. I feel like I can't find anyone who wants to fall in love.

This has happened many times, and lin li has been labeled as critical in the eyes of relatives. "Don't be too picky, son," said mother. "There are no perfect people in this world. Life needs adjustment. It is two people living together. "

Lin li was wronged: I'm not very picky, but I just don't like them. I can't say a few words How can we be together after this?

My friends around me all support lin li's idea, saying that they must find someone they like better. Lin li later refused to go on a blind date. The reason she gave her mother was that the job was unstable and the blind date would not go smoothly.

Of course, she's making it up. There is actually no connection between the two.

Her mother urged her several times. Later, when she saw lin li talking about her work every day, she knew that she was prevaricating, so she didn't bother to urge her, saying when she would wait.

When lin li was anxious about her marriage again, it was the third time that she had been asked to be a bridesmaid.

The girl who called her maid of honor actually had nothing to do with her, but was invited because she couldn't find anyone who wasn't married. Lin li, 28, observed the circle of friends around her and was surprised to find that there were really not many unmarried friends!

It happened that everyone seemed to be discussing it. During that time, the collective began to urge her again: "lin li, don't be a workaholic, worry about your life first!"

Several married people told her a similar sentence: "After you get married, you will find that it is nothing more than two people living together, and love or not is a cloud."

03

What is not a cloud?

Everyone's answer is the same: money. So they all said, "lin li, find a rich man. Really, if you have no money after marriage, you will know that you have worked hard and money is the most important."

Lin li was soft-hearted, and when I watched my good friends get married one after another, I felt very different and embarked on the road of blind date again.

The blind date was successful, and she didn't feel anything anyway. She chose the one with the best conditions, 30 years old, and her family was in a hurry. She wants her son to marry a wife. Within a month, two adults finalized the marriage, which is equivalent to a flash marriage.

At the age of 29, lin li, who has been on the road of "older women" for four years, finally entered the marriage hall. Amid the sound of blessings, Lin left his heart and entered another stage of his life.

Only after she got married did she find that the only day she felt happy from the moment she got married was the wedding day.

It is no exaggeration to say that her marriage with her husband "makes do". Lin li told her from a married friend that feelings can be cultivated gradually in getting along day by day, but financial ability is the cornerstone of a happy marriage, and she believed it.

But why is lin li still unhappy?

Her husband, who didn't speak with her before marriage, still can't talk together after marriage. They often share a room like roommates. They come back for dinner every night, and then they are silent. One plays games, the other watches TV, and their interests are totally different.

Oh, have a baby with * * *.

Because the man's family urged him to have grandchildren, lin li got married for two months and had children. She once put the turning point of everything on children, thinking that having children would make their relationship better, but she still didn't.

Only then did she understand why he was only 30 years old? Because there are too many problems, selfish, self-centered, a little cherished. The most important thing is that everything in the family is earned by parents-in-law, and has nothing to do with her husband.

Lin li felt depressed and tired.

04

She said, "a" make-do marriage, I almost got depression. 29-year-old lin li quickly entered the marriage, and learned the lesson of blood and tears in the marriage of a chicken feather: it is not sweet to twist a melon, and the inappropriate person is not suitable.

She suddenly began to miss the days when she lived alone. At that time, although there was panic in her heart, she was also anxious about whether he would come or not. But more often, she can expect. She works hard and actively, and dreams of meeting love at the corner one day.

It seems that many times, life is still beautiful. There are people worth looking forward to, and everything is suitable.

But now, after reading it, I feel tired when I think about it with my toes. I am exhausted physically and mentally, but she needs more courage to come out.

Lin li also began to tell others about her marriage. She let out a long sigh:

"Girl, what's your hurry? There is no age for marriage in this world. When the right person comes, you can be beautiful when you want to get married. "