What is the knowledge of doing things?

To be flexible in doing things is to be flexible and not to be stubborn. One thing may contain contradictions in all aspects, and each contradiction will affect the development of the whole thing. If we don't adopt a flexible attitude, but are paranoid and stubborn and lack of accommodation, we will not only fail to resolve contradictions, but will intensify them and eventually affect things, resulting in unsatisfactory results for both sides. Businessmen don't understand wit, and their methods are rigid and stubborn. As a result, they missed the business delivered to them.

From your heart: look at the world perfectly and communicate with the outside world euphemistically. Integrity is a wonderful state of mind, and wit is a superb skill in dealing with people. Both of them are external and internal, and they are compulsory courses for a person to cultivate self-cultivation in dealing with others. Combine rigidity with softness, and combine rigidity with softness.

He who can achieve great things since ancient times must be a gentleman who can bend and stretch. There are two realms in life: adversity and prosperity. In adversity, difficulties and pressures force the body and mind. At this time, it is necessary to understand the word "bend", compromise for perfection, and save strength for waiting for a turning point. In good times, luck and environment are good for me. At this time, it is necessary to understand the word "stretch" and soar in the wind of Wan Li, so as to cope with the situation to the next level.

When it comes to being a man, you should be firm and soft. If people are too strong, they will face difficulties regardless of the consequences. Such people are easily frustrated and life is short. How many setbacks can they stand? If people are too weak, they will be indecisive, miss good opportunities and fail to achieve great things. Blindly weak, it is always a bucket that can't be helped. To be a man, we should combine rigidity with softness, rigidity with softness, rigidity with softness, rigidity with softness.

Being strong is very important to a person and one of the most valuable qualities of a person, but there is a limit to being strong. When there are difficulties and setbacks, you stick to it and be strong to the end. It won't be long before you are strong. Strong people are full of energy and blood. When they are in trouble, they try their best to support themselves tenaciously until their blood runs out. Once they are persuaded, it is difficult for them to stand up again.

Weakness is durable, softness is tolerant, and all rivers run into the sea, which depends on the strength of softness and tolerance. But if you are weak, you will be bullied. As the saying goes, a person doesn't know what to do without fire. In other words, if a person is weak and doesn't know how to be strong, he can't do anything. Living for a hundred years without ambition is weak and lasting, and it is also a waste of time.

During the Three Kingdoms period, Wang Chang, an official of Wei State, once warned his descendants: "Bend and stretch, let what you think get what you want, and the weak think strongly.". That is to say, nothing is impossible if we can treat temporary grievances as extensions, temporary concessions as gains, and temporary cowardice as strength. What is a gentleman? Gentlemen should learn to be flexible, and few people understand this truth, ancient and modern, Chinese and foreign.

The word "can bend" is understood as "take a step back and broaden your horizons", then the word "can stretch" means: take the shot when it is time.

There was once a story: in a forest, the lion suggested that nine wild dogs cooperate with themselves in hunting. They hunted all day and captured 10 antelope. The lion said, "We have to find a wise man to distribute this delicious meal for us."

When the lion finished, one of the wild dogs took it and said, "One-on-one is the fairest."

The lion was so angry that he knocked it unconscious at once. Other wild dogs were frightened to see this situation. One of them summoned up his courage and said to the lion, "No! Don't! My brother is wrong. If we give you nine antelopes, you and the antelopes add up to 10, and we add one antelope to 10, so we are all 10. "

The lion was very satisfied and said, "How did you come up with this wonderful distribution method?"

Then the wild dog replied, "When you rushed at my brother and knocked him unconscious, I knew at once that the distribution was wrong."

Those smart Jews think that if you don't eat a small loss, you may have to eat a bigger loss in the future. In this story, wild dogs get an antelope because they are willing to suffer immediate losses. Otherwise, it may be a lion's paw. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, if you encounter such an environment that is very unfavorable to yourself, don't try to be brave for a while and eat some immediate losses. Maybe this is not a bad thing.

When Chu and Han contended, Liu Bang and Xiang Yu competed for the world and were evenly matched. Liu Bang ruled the country with the help of General Han Xin. When Han Xin was a child, he was fed by beggars and laughed at by local people. One day, while he was shopping, several local ruffians and hooligans came across. They stopped Han Xin, laughed at him for "floating his mother's food", and asked Han Xin to climb under their legs or kill him.

Han Xin thought for a moment, then bent down to get up from their legs, patted the dust on his body and left. Those ruffians and hooligans laughed and said that Han Xin was a timid person and could not do great things. Later, Han Xin studied hard and studied the art of war, and his military talents were unparalleled. He was introduced to Liu Bang's account by Xiao He, so he became a general and made his own career. This is the story of Han Xin enduring the humiliation of his legs.

If Han Xin got into a fight with those hooligans in a fit of pique, there wouldn't be an all-powerful general in history, only an unknown murderer. The wisdom in this historical story is worth thinking about. A gentleman can bend and stretch, and can be both rigid and flexible, which is the allusion of Han Xin. In the eyes of ordinary people, the humiliation of his legs is unbearable and a great shame. Han Xin put up with it. What a mind and courage!

If you want to do great things, you have to endure humiliation that ordinary people can't stand. History will give you a great task, so you should be prepared to endure hardships and humiliation, which is not only a test of fate, but also a test of yourself. Faced with shame, we should think calmly. When people encounter difficulties and shame, if their own strength can't compete with each other, self-help is the most important.

Flexibility and temporary humiliation are all for long-term career and ideal. If you can't stand temporary setbacks, your ambition can't be realized. "Bend" is the preparation and accumulation stage of "stretch", just like an athlete's long jump, leg bending is to accumulate strength, condense the whole body's strength to the point of exertion, and then jump up and stretch in the air to achieve the highest goal.