How to treat older young women who are angry after playing enough and want to find an honest man, or even introduce me to a second married man in the countryside?

I remember reading such a sentence: the so-called "reality" means "now" and "fact". Now, it refers to the time that ordinary people can't control, and the fact represents the bitter life that people don't want to face, but they don't want to face it, but they have to face it in the end.

Everyone has a reality that they have to face. In marriage, men are faced with the reality of supporting their families, while women are faced with the reality of taking care of their families. It seems that the word reality becomes unacceptable when everything is added.

But the cruelty of reality is that no matter how difficult the situation is, we must learn to accept it, because we have no choice.

I once saw a set of data: according to the data of the National Bureau of Statistics and the Ministry of Civil Affairs, the nationwide marriage rate in 20 18 years was only 7.2‰, setting a new low in recent years. Judging from the differences in different provinces, the more developed the economy, the lower the marriage rate.

This leads to a good topic: how to solve the marriage problem of older men and women?

Nowadays, with the development of society, many young people's views on marriage and love have changed, the number of unmarried people is rising slowly, and the number of older men and women is also increasing gradually.

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As for the leftover men and women, we should also discuss them separately. For many leftover men, it is not that they don't want to get married, but that they can't afford the high cost of getting married, so they are disappointed with marriage and always choose to be single. Simply put, leftover men belong to the kind of party who wants to get married but can't.

Old women are different. In the matter of marriage, women have great dominance, so most older women are left out because they have too high a vision or demand too many conditions. However, with the increase of age, the dominant position of leftover women in marriage is gradually decreasing.

There may be only one reason why the leftover men don't get married, but there are many reasons why the leftover women don't get married. Moreover, compared with the two, the reputation of leftover women on the Internet is not as good as that of leftover men.

Maybe it's because they are too picky and have too high a vision but don't look at their own conditions. These reasons made them stay. It may not make people feel sorry for her, but they will think that they asked for it.

Moreover, many older women will also make some inappropriate comments on the Internet, which will arouse people's disgust. Nowadays, older women have become a derogatory term, and many people regard them with special respect. It's really embarrassing.

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Xiaoyun is 37 years old this year. In the eyes of many people, she is a veritable older woman. But she doesn't think so. She thinks she is just very cautious and selective about who to marry. There is no hurry to get married.

Her parents are as anxious as ants on hot bricks. On weekdays, they always nag her at home and say that the child is married and can play soy sauce. Xiaoyun was bored, and her parents' attitude also affected her. She began to feel anxious.

Xiaoyun began to participate in various blind date activities, but because of her age, most of the blind date targets were men in their forties, some of them were bald, and many men were married for the second time. After several times, Xiaoyun was so angry that she gave up.

Xiao Yun felt a little bitter at the thought of herself now. If I had known this, I wouldn't have played so crazy when I was young.

Speaking of Xiaoyun's past, it's wonderful. Xiaoyun was very beautiful since she was a child. When she was in high school, many boys pursued her. At that time, she was very playful and fell in love with a boy. Because I didn't want to study when I was in love, I didn't go to college after graduating from high school and entered a junior college.

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Xiaoyun broke up with her boyfriend after going to college. After making many new friends in the new environment, Xiaoyun began to become more and more playful. At that time, many boys pursued her, and she refused all the boys' kindness to herself. She also got several spare tires as her own ATM.

In modern terms, Xiaoyun is a love rat. At that time, she played with her feelings and only thought about her own happiness, without considering others at all.

Xiaoyun changed boyfriends several times until she graduated from junior college. After she got a job, she dumped her boyfriend again.

Xiaoyun, who has entered the society, is very comfortable with men, and her feelings are nothing in her heart. What is so important about happiness? While you are young, you must feel different scenery and things. This is worthy of yourself. Xiaoyun thought so at that time.

In his twenties, when his peers are getting married, Xiaoyun feels that he is still young and needs to play for a few more years. I have been tied behind my back since I got married. So her boyfriend proposed to her at that time, and she refused.

Until the age of thirty, Xiaoyun still felt young and playful. But she found that there were fewer and fewer men around her before.

Until a man said to her: You are thirty years old, why should I chase you? You don't deserve it.

Xiaoyun realized that he might really be no longer young.

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At the age of 33, Xiaoyun decided that she was going to get married. She thinks she's had enough fun and should find an honest man to marry. So I started to participate in blind date.

However, in the blind date, she discovered that she was actually rejected by all kinds of men. I don't care if I'm too old, I just don't have the education and ability, so I just come up and ask her if she can have children.

Xiaoyun realized that at his age, he was already a hot potato in the blind date market and was criticized and rejected. But she still won't give up and wants to find a man with similar conditions.

Until now, her heart is getting impatient and she really wants to find someone to marry herself. But I found that most men who can marry her are not very good.

Not long ago, the blind date company called her again and said that there was a man with good conditions who wanted to meet her. Xiaoyun agreed.

Look at the profile given by the blind date company. The man is 42 years old, has a house and a car, and works as a department manager in a company. The conditions look good, and Xiaoyun is full of expectations for meeting.

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When we met that day, Xiaoyun met someone. To tell the truth, she almost didn't piss her off. The man lied about the information. He is 45 years old and divorced. The man has Zhongnanhai's hairstyle and looks like a greasy uncle.

Xiaoyun lied to him, the house has been given to his ex-wife, and he only has one car. What is most difficult for Xiaoyun to accept is that he is not a local at all, but a rural person.

Xiaoyun was mad and left the blind date directly. The more I think about it when I get home, the angrier I get. How did I degenerate into a blind date with a second married man in the countryside?

Xiaoyun's marriage road is getting narrower and narrower, and it is getting more and more bumpy. This has an unshirkable responsibility with herself.

In fact, many older women are left behind because their eyes are too high. Everyone wants to find a marriage partner with good conditions, but please look at your own conditions first and then consider whether others can have a crush on you.

Blindly setting the goal too high will not solve any problems, but will only make the leftover women older and older. At any time, down-to-earth can't be wrong. Only by putting down your posture and seeing yourself clearly can you clearly realize who is right for you, so the probability of getting married will be greatly improved.