How can a girl who can't talk chat with a boy? What are the skills?

1, avoid question-and-answer chat. First of all, we just met boys and haven't met each other very often. We even said that we knew nothing about boys except those friends. At this stage, what we have to think about is not upgrading the relationship, how to date or something, but the simplest way to chat. But many times, because both sides are unknown new things to each other, they have a lot of curiosity, and then they will unconsciously ask a lot of questions. At this time, it is easy to have an embarrassing chat situation-a question-and-answer chat. In order to avoid question-and-answer dialogue, the core is to "reduce rational thinking and use emotional expression" as much as possible in communication. If you are a science and engineering man and engage in technical work, you will generally lack the exercise opportunities and experience to deal with people frequently, especially with the opposite sex. Long-term use of the left brain, that is, rational thinking, lack of exercise in the right brain, that is, perceptual thinking. Therefore, when you communicate with the opposite sex, you will unconsciously and habitually use the left brain thinking to conduct a "logical order" question-and-answer chat mode. However, women's thinking mode tends to be emotional, which is a way for girls to communicate. If you-keep talking to girls who jump emotionally-think with rational thinking, it is easy to have the same frequency, and naturally it is difficult to enter a smooth communication feeling. There are three solutions: a, deliberately train your perceptual thinking every day; B, learn how to enter the chat state and chat inertia; C, learn to express emotions. 2, expand syntax and chat with the opposite sex, especially with unfamiliar opposite sex, most afraid of chatting. But sometimes, when two people are chatting, somehow, the air is suddenly filled with embarrassment, and they don't know how to reply to each other or how to continue the conversation. At this time, we need to use a small skill-extended grammar. The skill of expanding syntax is to make a supplement on the original basis of others, just like expanding sentences in primary school students' Chinese questions. If boys say "I'm so tired", we can make a supplement according to "I'm so tired". For example, I went climbing yesterday, and I am so tired today that I want to find a place to relax. You can say, "Are you hungry? Would you like something delicious to supplement it? You can also say, "Do you want to go to the movies to relax tonight? "Isn't this a perfect solution to the problem that you can't extend the topic and don't know how to continue chatting? Please find a topic. The best way for a boy to chat with you is to find some topics that he can be interested in. Because people usually have more desire to talk about what they are interested in and good at. It is difficult for most people not to be interested in topics such as "tourism", "food" and "student memories". So, if you don't know what to talk about with boys, you might as well start with these topics to ensure that you can have a lot to talk about. In addition, in addition to this method, the other person's circle of friends is also a good topic to cut into. Whether boys or girls, in their circle of friends, they will leave some information about their preferences and habits, as well as some footprints in life. At this time, you can seize this valuable resource and use this valuable information to successfully open the discourse. For example, a meow appeared in a boy's circle of friends. You can say, "Wow, your meow is so cute! "When the boy says" Yes, I think so ",you can talk to him about some experiences of small animals and keeping pets, find common ground and narrow the distance between you. What skills do dumb girls have to chat with boys? 2 10 can be a topic rule for a long time. 1: The worst chat experience is that people are not there. You must have encountered such a situation: when chatting with you, the other person will be distracted from time to time, either by looking at his watch, the floor or elsewhere. In fact, what he thinks is not what you are talking about, but the children at home, the unfinished work, and even what to eat at night ... Remember next time you chat, if you have other things to deal with, leave. Either don't talk or devote yourself to it. Rule 2: Don't just think about what you want to say, "I'm telling you, Tenet is so beautiful! I really like Nolan's movies. I like Batman very much after watching the trilogy. After watching Inception, I know he is my favorite type of director ... ""Yes, Tenet seems to have a Twilight actor! He is so handsome! I liked him best in college ... "Then, I started Amway Twilight ... Have you ever met such a situation? It seems that he talked about the same topic. In fact, when he heard Tenet and then remembered his favorite Twilight, he wasn't listening to you, just thinking about what he would say next. As a result, you don't feel the other person listening to you at all. So, when you are listening to others, if you think of something, no matter how interesting you think, listen patiently first, don't just think. Rule 3: Ask an open question "Have you eaten?" "I have eaten. "Then there isno.. The so-called open problem is relative to the closed problem. Closed questions are "true or false questions" and "multiple choice questions" in the exam, and open questions are "question and answer questions". When you ask a closed question, all you want is an answer. Only by asking open-ended questions can the other party have a chance to express their ideas more. How to ask? Just learn to ask why, what and how. For example, "What did you eat?" "I went to eat sushi today!" "ah! Which store are you going to? "Rule 4: There is no empathy in the world." Well, I want to quit ... "You tell your colleagues." Why? I think it's nice here! The boss is also very good ............... "So, this chat may be over. Everyone's feelings are very personalized, and your requirements for work do not represent each other's requirements. Some people think that if the other person tells his own experience and you tell your own similar experience, you can make the other person feel understood. In fact, this is often counterproductive. Because you may have different feelings about the same thing. Don't take it for granted that you understand each other's feelings, but guide them to express them. Rule 5: Don't surf the Internet. " Let's have a barbecue today! ""ah! I recently became a vegetarian. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Raising sheep and cattle is actually not environmentally friendly, it will increase carbon dioxide emissions, and their feces will pollute groundwater ... "Well, you have talked about environmental protection, what can I say? If you want to say something that you think is absolutely right, don't say it, because everything the other person says is wrong unless he agrees with you. Similar examples are always talking about other people's "feminism" and discrimination. If you want to continue chatting, don't say this kind of "ism" tall noun easily. Rule 6: Don't repeat. When some people chat, an idea will be repeated over and over again. It's really hard not to be annoying. It feels like teachers and parents are educating you. If you feel that you are repeating what you said, the best way is to jump to the next topic. Rule 7: Don't pretend not to understand this truth. Our ancestors told us that knowing means knowing, and not knowing means not knowing ... but not many people really listened to our ancestors' advice. We meet such people almost every day. They seem to know a little about everything you say and pretend to talk to you. You know the truth, you just watch him pretend quietly, and then you don't want to talk to him next time. Rule 8: Never mind the details. Come on, no one wants to know how many times you kissed your boyfriend ... Many times you don't need to tell all the details, and don't ask the details that make the other person think for a long time. Get to the point. Rule 9: be simple and clear, don't be wordy. Nobody likes a long-winded person. Besides, if you talk too much, you are actually too eager to express yourself, and it is difficult for others to talk to you all the time. Rule 10: Learn to listen. This should be the most important rule, because too many people "listen but don't hear". They seem to be listening to you, but they have already preset their positions and answers. No matter what you say, their answer has been confirmed. What's the point of this chat? So, let yourself go and listen to what the other person has to say first. What skills do dumb girls have to chat with boys? 3 A few small routines to warm up feelings 1. Intimacy is actually the simplest way to warm up feelings. Whether it is holding hands or kissing, it will promote the relationship between them. Remember that there are intimate little moves between us, so that our relationship cannot be cooled. 2, care about real life, in fact, many people lack a kind of care, so we must remember to care about each other, whether it is life or work, occasionally care a little, expressing their concern for each other will make him feel gratified. 3. Surprise is not only that women like surprises, but also that men like surprises. However, many men's personalities are quite man show. Although surprise may not achieve the desired effect, it is actually sweet in my heart. I can only say that I don't like to express it in words. 4. Jealousy is often a flavoring agent in two people's feelings, which can both warm up and make the other person more "uneasy". A sense of security is not the best feeling. In fact, a little jealousy will make the other person pay more attention to you. This jealousy doesn't mean that you will ask questions in the end. Simple jealousy will often let the other person know that you still love him. Not only can girls be jealous, but when boys are jealous, it will not only have a lovely effect, but also make the love between you more eternal and warm up the current feelings! 5. Do something of common interest together. If you want to warm up the relationship between you, then this thing is very useful! Doing things of common interest is often something that many people consider in order to get closer to each other. For two people who have had feelings, it is actually very good if they want to create some small stimuli in the dull and do something that makes the other person more interested. Whether playing games or traveling, it is a very good choice. It depends on whether you are willing to take the initiative to do these things with each other again. 6, travel wants to return feelings to enthusiasm, nervous state can take a trip with each other, take a loved one out to travel, not only can make two people feel better in the new journey, but also increase their knowledge together.