How do the old people live on their honor?

Modern society is increasingly advocating filial piety and returning to traditional education, so the problem of providing for the aged in China has attracted more and more attention. Now we, born in 1980s and 1990s, have begun to pay attention to our parents. The post-70 s generation is still a more traditional generation with education. Their concept of filial piety is still centered on their parents, and they listen to their parents in everything and will not go against their wishes. Although sometimes some parents' behaviors are wrong, not all of them are.

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My parents' neighbor is an 80-year-old lady with short stature and scarred eyes. It is said that she has a hunchback since she was a child, with excellent hearing and a good mouth. Her second son lives in the apartment next door, and her eldest son lives on the other floor of the same building, but she seldom talks to her second son. What is even more surprising is that although his eldest son lives in the same building as her, he never ignores her.

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Because I often go back to take care of my father, I know the old lady's family better. It turned out that the eldest son ignored her and the second son seldom cared about her. At noon, she bought two steamed buns for lunch outside, and when it was cold, she waited at the door for others to buy them for her. She can't walk the steps by herself, but she climbs up and down with her hands, so in winter, she lets others buy them. I often go in and out of the elevator, so I bought it several times.

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To be honest, I despised his son at first. I think, in any case, she is her only mother. At the very least, it is right to take care of your son. It is said that the toilet where she lives has never been used. There is no TV, radio and electric fan, only a sofa and a bed. She can always be seen outside during the day, because she can talk when she meets people outside. I think this little old lady is really lonely and pathetic.

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As time goes on, I get to know the old lady better and better. Later, when I heard that my father was angry, she peed in the elevator. After a long time, there is always a bad smell in the elevator, but when someone asks her, she just won't admit it. I didn't believe it at first, but once I took the elevator, I saw her lifting her pants as soon as I opened the elevator door. Apparently, she just peed.

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I also heard that she can tell people's fortune, and then ask someone for 20 yuan after the calculation. At first, many people thought that she was so old and said all the good things in her mouth, so let her do the calculations. Over time, people gradually found that many of what she said were deceptive, so she was never allowed to do the math again.

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She also has a daughter, whom I have never met. My mother said that my daughter only came to buy something once in a while and left. In addition, her eldest son sometimes gives things from his family to other neighbors. I heard that it was because she listened to her daughter and took the bungalow at home for herself, and didn't give it to any son, so the eldest son didn't support her, and she no longer recognized her. The second son is in charge of a meal at night, and the daughter comes occasionally.

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On the surface, her children should be condemned for being so unfilial, regardless of their mother's life or death, but the deeper reason is that the old lady herself is not doing well. She thought she was a mother and did whatever she wanted, which hurt her son's feelings. It is no exaggeration to say that her son hates her so much that he has reached the point where he has no contact with her.

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From the moral and ethical point of view, a son should be filial to his mother. Even if she did something wrong, even if she did a lot of things that made people laugh, what her children did was definitely wrong, unfilial and should be absolutely condemned. But from another point of view, if the old lady had done better, been honest and aboveboard, and had not done anything embarrassing to her children, I believe she would not have such unfilial children. This is karma.

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There are many such old people in society now. On the one hand, they want their children to be unconditionally filial, but on the other hand, they are doing things that make their children feel ashamed. Old people need people to take care of them and their families to accompany them in filial piety. But I think the elderly should do their duty first, instead of relying on the elderly to sell, otherwise they will not get the most sincere filial piety, so that the children from the family will not only be unfilial, but also have a bad influence on their next generation of children.

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One family is like this, two families are like this. If there are more such families, it will affect our society. Imagine what a terrible environment it would be. Not only do the elderly not get the care they deserve, but their children also become selfish and have no moral and ethical constraints at all.

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Therefore, we old people can't rely on the old to sell the old. We should be kind, kind and reasonable old people. I believe that such old people will be very happy in their old age, while those who rely on their old age to sell their old age will be very sad in their old age. It takes several generations to work together to give the society a pure sky, so let our society return to tradition as soon as possible, and a warm wind blows from the family style and the national style, so that our old people can spend their old age happily.