If people choose not to have children for life, will they be happier?

At present, only three families in their hometown village have chosen not to have children. Two of them are bachelors, old, over seventy years old, never married and never had children; Another old couple, in their sixties, the woman is a mistress. After the man left with four children, (children) rarely came back, and there was no regeneration after marriage. Let's consider it childless!

On the surface, they don't want children, they don't have the pressure and responsibility to have children, and they don't worry that children can't get married and have children when they grow up. There are basically no children, and less than half of the troubles mentioned in life.

But if you ask them how they are, are they happy? The answer is not necessarily.

One of the old bachelors, who had no house, had to live in his brother's shabby house and was rejected by his two brothers. He lives by planting a few thin fields or telling fortune in the street. In the village, the sense of existence is extremely low. People look down on it, always want to find a wife but can't find it.

Another, when I was young, because I had a bad temper, I hated women's guts and swore at them, so no woman wanted to marry. He lives alone. When he was young, he lived with his two younger brothers and squeezed into a small, dark room. Later, he couldn't stand it. He worked hard to build a small house for himself, often went out to work and was able to support himself. He has no trouble raising children. It looks very chic.

However, when he got kidney calculi in his fifties, he was really ill, and his neighbors heard him screaming in pain in his room every day. Later, after the operation, he became a different person, paid attention to the world, and treated his two younger brothers, sister-in-law, nephews and nieces much better. Now I am in good health, still living alone, with a minimum living allowance, and occasionally doing odd jobs to earn some daily necessities, and my life is still passable.

As for the couple, the woman is a full-time housewife at home. Perhaps because of the combination of extramarital affairs, the woman is also a little arrogant. They don't have much contact with the villagers, and their lives are not very rich, because they have been living in old houses and have no other extra consumption behaviors (such as traveling).

However, I can guess that women like children. Twenty years ago, they bought a girl from a relative's house to raise. Later, for some reason, the child was taken back.

A few years ago, the old man got cancer, lasted less than two years and left. From illness to death, he and his ex-wife's two sons went back several times, and the funeral was arranged by their sons. The old lady was left alone. Because of treating the elderly, their home has been hollowed out, and the old lady now lives on a little pension and relatives. However, one thing has changed. Now the relationship between the old lady and the two adjacent old ladies is very good, and they take the initiative to approach and show goodwill. In the past, she wouldn't do that. Later, the old ladies of her neighbors revealed that she made friends with them in the hope that they and their son could help when they were sick in the future, so that they would not leave alone and would not be found for several days.

All the above are gossip in the village.

Judging from these, the trouble of raising children has no direct connection with whether you live well or not.

Life is not either one or the other.

It doesn't mean that you don't have children, or even get married, and there will be another road waiting for you!

On the other hand, you can't get married and have children, so you can expect to have a place to live in the future!

But in any case, the cost of not getting married and not having children is definitely lower. Then why do so many people choose to get married and have children? In my opinion, there are three reasons:

First, the traditional concept of "having children, raising them from an early age, and the three major unfilial" is troublesome.

Both men and women have been instilled with the concept that men should be married when they are older, women should be married when they are older, have children, raise offspring and so on.

So when we grow up, it is easy for us to accept marriage and have children. If you want to do the opposite, don't get married, don't be a dink, then you will have to endure the endless pressure of parents or relatives to urge marriage, as well as countless explanations, and may even suffer a lot of supercilious look and cynicism.

Strange to say, you obviously just chose this lifestyle, but it seems that you want to take it out against the courage and perseverance of the whole world.

Second, the desire for family and the confrontation with loneliness.

Although there is news on the internet that even if a child is born, he will still be alone in the end, in our life, most families with children still have examples of relatives helping each other, caring for each other and relying on each other (at least by my side). Therefore, it is not surprising that many people choose to have children, coupled with the concept that they have been instilled since childhood.

Third, having children is bitter, but it is fun, and many people enjoy it.

According to me, about 80% of children are bitter, and only 20% are happy. But it is for this 20% happiness that many talents try to have children one after another and enjoy it.

Why?

Because life is such a thing, there will be such troubles without children's troubles.

Without children, you can't turn 80% misery into 100% happiness.

This is a bit like the theory of buying a house (of course, children are not houses). If you buy a house and have been a house slave for twenty or thirty years, it will be miserable in any way. But if you don't buy a house, can you live a carefree and stress-free life?

Above. My opinion.